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Comment by Joyce on May 2, 2013 at 7:49am

Jocelyn, thanks for sharing that, it's beautiful

Comment by alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) on May 2, 2013 at 7:45am

"A hopeful heart is as resilient as the tall tree that bends gracefully in the might wind but never breaks."

Karla Dornacher

Comment by Jouk on May 2, 2013 at 2:49am

Juls your post brought me to tears and my heart goes out to you, I can't begin to imagine packing up my home and moving on, there are to many memories here, I have lots of photo's on my walls they wouldn't mean the same in another house, like you I just want my lovely husband and old life back, sending you big hugs.

Comment by Su on May 2, 2013 at 12:44am

Juls, I've been going back and forth about moving. I have a rental I own I can move into. But I really love this place. But, it's a lot of work. Plus, 23 years of s^@t. A month after Ted died, his sister suggested I give his closths to a guy she knew that was in need. His boys probably fit into them. Being in my fog I did it.. But probably not my best move.  I don't I regret it. I just grabbed stuff and bagged it. 

Today I split wood (with a log splitter) and stacked it. Tired. Should sleep well. 

Comment by Drifting on May 2, 2013 at 12:02am

Hey Juls - thanks for sharing with us - it makes my heart break just thinking of your move, and mine one day. 

Comment by Poppys Girl on May 1, 2013 at 9:17pm

Juls

So sorry for what you are feeling, wishing you strength each day. Seems there is so much conflicted emotions in this journey. Wanting to run, wanting to stay, most of all wanting to be what it use to be. 

God Bless

Poppy's girl

Comment by alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) on May 1, 2013 at 9:13pm

I traveled a lot for work, so even though I don't like pumping my own gas, I have done that for years. My husband wasn't able to walk almost a year ago, so we started having to do chores then. I still hate doing garbage!! YUCK.

Comment by alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) on May 1, 2013 at 9:11pm

Hey 50s gals. We had to take my husband's wheelchair down on Sunday because it was breaking the front door. We already had to remove a ramp that was built for my dad who had ALS and died from it 11 years ago. This new ramp we had built was custom made, board by board. There were supports under it and side rails on it. My son started taking it apart at the top and my daughter took it apart at the bottom. Our wheelbarrow is broken, so I carried each piece to curb, one plan at a time. I felt like I was carrying pieces of my husband each time. i don't think the kids realized how much it upset me, and that's probably a good thing...Warm thoughts to us all. Jocelyn~

Comment by Barbie Doll on May 1, 2013 at 8:57pm

Oh Juls, I feel for you.  The day I turn the keys over to my house will be an extremely sad day.  We rebuilt our home after it burned to the ground in one of the large firestorms in CA so every little piece of this house says my husband to me.  

I'm so very tired of people asking me when I am going to sell and move out of this house that is too big for one person.  Number one, I don't know why they care so much and number two, they just don't seem to understand that I will lose a huge piece of my husband if I ever sell.  Shoot, I still have all his clothes hanging in the closet and his toothbrush in the holder 16 months later.  If I sell I'll be forced to make a decision about all his personal items...and I'm just not ready to do that yet.

Good luck with your packing and know you can take breaks and visit here:)

Comment by KMl on May 1, 2013 at 8:50pm
Breaks are a good thing:). Packing to move always evokes memories even in the best of circumstances.

I am going to stay put I hope for a couple of years in my home. I did however have a tough time a couple weeks ago when our community had a garage sale, and I put a lot of my husband's things in the sale. At one point a sadness swept over me like more of him leaving me, like maybe I was selling him. Like you, I wanted to keep the things and wanted to sell the things. Embrace ALL the good memories.
 

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