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Comment by Tess on October 10, 2019 at 3:44am

Susan and Jules, I have concerns about spending money. I think part of it is my age and part is the finality of not working anymore. Although I am on my husband's disability survivor benefits, which isn't a lot, I have the ability to pull from our investments, though I am afraid to do that yet. We grew his settlement and that will be my income along with my own social security benefits when I turn 66.

I have a fearful view of money and think it is due to how I was raised. We didn't have a lot of money and my parents' voices echoing that we can't afford it still reverberate in my ear. They were dependent on my sister in their later years and I never want to be financially dependent on someone else. It is a fear of mine.


Comment by booktime (Susan) on October 10, 2019 at 2:50am

Jules, talk to your financial advisor. I have one and he has assured me that I can travel if I want to. I just don't want to yet! for the same reasons you mention.

On another note, my husband was a hard worker all his life but did not have much to leave me - no pension and very little savings. I am currently on his social security and thank him every day for that but it is my own investments which will take care of me. Is there anyone else like this? I always hear how someone's husband left them taken care of. I am not being petty - I truly am grateful every day.

Hugs to all.

Comment by Gary'swife on October 9, 2019 at 9:20pm

Just saw Elizabeth Olsen on a late night show, talking about appearing in a series called "Sorry for your loss", which is on facebook live.  Has anyone watched this?  It's now in it's 2nd season.  

Comment by Barzan on October 9, 2019 at 3:08pm

Jules, my girlfriend and I are going on a cruise next fall.  Maybe you’d like to go and that way you’d have someone you know on the ship.

Comment by Jules on October 9, 2019 at 1:19pm


i was thinking about a cruise too! I’m very nervous about doing this alone be though because I’m pretty shy around people I don’t know. Self confidence is not exactly me either. In theory a cruise sounds fantastic but actually pulling the trigger??? I’m told my husband left me well taken care of but I don’t know what that means. I’m afraid of spending much money until I’ve talked to a financial planner. I also agree it’s you, sharing a room with someone I don’t know would be WAY out of my comfort zone.

Comment by irishlady (jan) on October 9, 2019 at 12:26pm

Thank you Muns and Mary...I am presently researching to see if any places near me offer free or reduced prices. 

Comment by Mary on October 9, 2019 at 10:11am

Some rescue groups also offer a discount to seniors.  Sometimes it's just on the senior animals, but not always.  If you look on Petfinder, you can find a list of rescues/shelters in your area and look on their websites.  I'm always in favor of going thru rescue when you can (even though they can be a pain, at times).  Most of the animals are in foster homes and the fosters can usually give you an idea of the personality and temperament of the dog/cat.  A lot of rescues get their animals from a shelter, so if you adopt from them they can take another from a shelter.

Comment by Muns on October 9, 2019 at 9:19am

irishlady, I know in my area shelters often have a no adoption fee weekend when they become overcrowded.  Good luck on finding your fur baby.  They really do provide comfort and company.

Comment by Claire on October 9, 2019 at 7:12am

Athena53, thank you for sharing this information.  I'm going to check that group out. 

Comment by Athena53 on October 9, 2019 at 6:33am

On my last cruise I met a group of women from "Women Traveling Together"- it's an organization that chooses from existing companies (my cruise was a ship under 100 passengers on UnCruise) but gathers a group of women who go on the same tour.  It was clear that many of them had traveled together before and had become good friends- a wide mix of ages and marital status.  They can assign a roommate if you want- that's not my thing.  I like my space and pay the Single Supplement.


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