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Comment by Mary on March 26, 2020 at 11:45am
I'm so very sorry, Riet. I think most of us have been exactly where you are now. It's hard not to think of "what should have been" or "what should be". I find that I'm constantly fighting bitterness.

I'm grateful that we have this place to share our thoughts without feeling bad or that someone is going to judge us - or even worse, suggest that we "volunteer or get a hobby" to "get thru" these feelings.

Thinking of you...
Comment by Melissa on March 26, 2020 at 10:58am

Oh riet! I'm so sorry!

I'm crying more now than I have since my husband died. All I see and hear about is how people are getting through this crisis together, and how blessed they are to have each other.

Then I feel guilty for not being happy for them. But I'm not happy for them. I have never felt so alone in my life and I just don't want to hear about how happy you are with your partner.

Your friends' happiness SHOULD be yours! You deserve it! We all deserve love and comfort and peace. ALL OF US!

I really feel you. I don't want to speak for the rest of us here, but I think most feel the same from what I've been reading.

This is the only place we can be honest and honestly, I am filled with ugly emotions along with the ever-present heartbreak. That's really not like me. It didn't use to be, anyway. But it is now.

You are in my thoughts and in my heart. How is your weather? Is it warm and sunny yet? I keep thinking we'll feel less sad when we get some sunshine.

When things in the world are back to normal, I would love to visit your country and meet you. I have a friend in the Netherlands and I'd like to meet her too. We all have each other, and I'm so grateful for that.

Keep talking to us, riet!

much love~

Comment by Barzan on March 26, 2020 at 10:49am

Dearest Riet,  I’m feeling the same way.  We are on mandatory stay home orders in Colorado and I was thinking earlier today how most of my family and friends all have someone beside them except me.  Then I thought about all of us in this group who are in the same boat.  Having a pet is helpful but my cat would much rather sleep than carry on a conversation.  So there’s that.  
My husband, if he were here now, would put himself on the front lines helping everyone.  I miss him terribly.  I miss not having lunch or dinner with my friends.  I can’t even visit my mom in her care facility and her health is failing.  
I've lived through a revolution so I’m determined to live through this one.

all I can send you is a virtual hug and you remain in my thoughts.

I will post another 20 questions later today or tomorrow.  I think it helps a little.

Suzan

Comment by riet on March 26, 2020 at 10:30am

I crashed today. Dear friends thought to cheer me up with a cheerful whats app from both of them. They drank a glass of wine together. They reported that they were still in good health and hoped the same for me.
They looked so happy at the age of 75 that I could only gasp and think: that  should be us: my husband and me.
 After this, I've been crying enough  for a whole year now. I really wish everyone their luck, but suddenly, again,  I saw what I had to miss .
I just had to tell someone.  Hugs

Comment by Tess on March 25, 2020 at 11:45am

Lioness, there are those who do depend on cannabis. And as far as the liquor stores, as far as I am concerned, a little imbibing may just help people get through this chaos. 

Comment by Barzan on March 24, 2020 at 2:49pm

Hi Lioness,

Glad you are doing well and are safe in BC.  It would be so nice if we didn't have the chaos we are experiencing here in the US.  It seems that our lives don't matter as much as the stock market.  Heartbreaking.

Comment by Lioness on March 24, 2020 at 2:41pm

hi everyone,

I'm currently in Kelowna BC, after driving back from an abbreviated trip to Palm Springs.

everything here is closed down, but I am safe and with my daughter and her husband.

The grocery stores are well stocked, even the liquor stores and cannabis have been declared essential services- not sure I understand that.

Canada seems to be doing a good job managing this crisis, fed and provincial govts working together, getting monetary aid to those out of work due to Covid, managing distribution of medical supplies to health professionals, keeping essential services running, lowering costs of electricity, daily news updates that are non-partisan and truthful.

Stay safe everyone, this too shall pass.

Comment by Sander on March 23, 2020 at 9:33am

1. When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up? Singer
2. What was your favorite era? 60s, 70s, 80s, etc.? 80,s
3. What phrase annoys you the most? God doesn't give you more than you can handle & Things will get better with time
4. What was the worst style choice you ever made? Anything I tried to sew...still can't sew
5. What was the worst haircut you ever had? No cut...long hair
6. Who was your childhood actor/actress crush? James Garner
7. What is your favorite movie of all time? A few good men
8. Have you ever been told you look like someone famous, who was it? Yes...Meryl Streep
9. If you could bring back one fashion trend, what would it be? Not sure I would want to bring one back..kinda did my own thing...
10. What was your most embarrassing fashion trend? Mini Skirt
11. What was your 1st car? Opel Kadet
12. Which country that you visited was your favorite and why? Amsterdam, Netherlands..lots of history, good variety food just fun....went 2x
13. If you had your own late nite talk show, who would be your 1st guest? 
14. if a movie was made about your life what genre would it be and who would play you? Comedy, Sandra Bullock
15. If you were famous, what would you be famous for? Singing
16. You have to sing karaoke, what song would you pick? Go rest high on that mountain or Proud to be an American
17. What was your least favorite food as a child? Still hate it or love it? Lima Beans & Liver...still hate
18. If you had to eat one meal everyday for the rest of your life, what would it be? Dinner...Pasta
19. Are you a cookie, pie or cake person? And what kind is it? Pie..any kind
20. if aliens landed on earth tomorrow and offered to take you with them. would you go? Only if I knew that my son & my husband were with them

Comment by CarLady on March 23, 2020 at 4:28am

Barzan/Susan:  Thanks so much for this!  I’m loving the answers. Here are mine:

1.  When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?  A secretary, and I was one for many years

2.  What was your favorite era?  60s, 70s, 80s, etc.? 70’s when I met and married Bill

3.  What phrase annoys you the most?  “no offence, but”

4.  What was the worst style choice you ever made?  Buying a pair of Capri pants

5.  What was the worst haircut you ever had? Getting a haircut at the cottage, awful in every way

6.  Who was your childhood actor/actress crush? Mike Connors - Mannix!

7.  What is your favorite movie of all time? Raiders of the Lost Ark

8.  Have you ever been told you look like someone famous, who was it? No, never

9.  If you could bring back one fashion trend, what would it be? Proper corporate business dress at work

10.  What was your most embarrassing fashion trend? Fashion isn’t important to me. 

11.  What was your 1st car? 1975 Mercury Comet! Metallic tan with gold brocade upholstery! I was 19 when I bought my first car. First of many :-)

12.  Which country that you visited was your favorite and why? France, with Bill. 

13.  If you had your own late nite talk show, who would be your 1st guest? Catherine O’Hara

14.  if a movie was made about your life what genre would it be and who would play you? Mystery, Kathy Bates Although we look nothing alike

15.  If you were famous, what would you be famous for? My home made carrot cake with cream cheese icing

16.  You have to sing karaoke, what song would you pick? My voice shatters glass for all the wrong reasons

17.  What was your least favorite food as a child?  Still hate it or love it? Parsnips, ugh

18.  If you had to eat one meal everyday for the rest of your life, what would it be? Pizza

19.  Are you a cookie, pie or cake person?  And what kind is it? Fruit pies, blueberry or strawberry-rhubarb, can’t choose

20.  if aliens landed on earth tomorrow and offered to take you with them. would you go? No, I’m sure some of my husband’s family members are really aliens  :-)

Comment by NoLongerInBergenJC on March 23, 2020 at 3:33am

1.  When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?  Librarian

2.  What was your favorite era?  60s, 70s, 80s, etc.?  I think I was happiest in the 80s, but only from 1983 on because I'd met my husband in '83.

3.  What phrase annoys you the most? We can't afford Social Security anymore

4.  What was the worst style choice you ever made? Poodle perm in the 1980s

5.  What was the worst haircut you ever had? See #4

6.  Who was your childhood actor/actress crush? Terence Stamp (still is!!)

7.  What is your favorite movie of all time? Animal Crackers

8.  Have you ever been told you look like someone famous, who was it? Barbra Streisand, whom I look NOTHING like, but I think it's code for "You have a big Jewish nose."  Pisses me off every time.

9.  If you could bring back one fashion trend, what would it be? Fat rolls as beauty.  Let's go all the way back to Peter Paul Rubens.

10.  What was your most embarrassing fashion trend? Crocheted hot pants with black tights -- 1973

11.  What was your 1st car? Not going to answer this because it's too often a security question and identity thieves use games like this to hack accounts

12.  Which country that you visited was your favorite and why? Jamaica.  Because it has always healed my soul.  My husband's ashes are buried at sea there.

13.  If you had your own late nite talk show, who would be your 1st guest?  Kevin Smith.  Because he's the one person on earth who can out-talk me. And because I'm a geek.

14.  if a movie was made about your life what genre would it be and who would play you? Indie film.  Janeane Garofalo would play me.

15.  If you were famous, what would you be famous for? Ironic, cynical humor and incisive sociopolitical writing.

16.  You have to sing karaoke, what song would you pick? Ripple, by the Grateful Dead.

17.  What was your least favorite food as a child?  Still hate it or love it? Liver.  Still hate it.

18.  If you had to eat one meal everyday for the rest of your life, what would it be? Meat loaf with macaroni and cheese.  Seriously.

19.  Are you a cookie, pie or cake person?  And what kind is it?  Cookie.  Triple peanut butter

20.  if aliens landed on earth tomorrow and offered to take you with them. would you go? Right now?  Hell yeah.  I'm in social isolation for the foreseeable future.

 

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