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Comment by booktime (Susan) on Saturday

I remember standing in my empty house the day I was moving. I looked around....and honestly, I didn't feel what I thought I was going to feel. We had been in the house not quite 20 years. Like you, the process was brutal.

I think I walked out of the door feeling that I carried the memories, not the house anymore. The house represented our dreams together and that just wasn't going to happen anymore. It was time to make my own dreams.

Tess, I am glad you will be with your daughter. I have no children. I think that must be a blessing.

Hugs to you and good luck. You will be fine.

Comment by Tess on Saturday

I am getting ready to move out of my home of 29 years. Settlement is next Friday. I am moving down with my daughter to a state below me. Not far, but she has a job and a son and she can't be here helping to the degree she would like. Based on those logistics, I have had to navigate this all myself. It has been stressful and exhausting to say the least. Although I should be proud of what I have accomplished, I instead feel resentment. Not towards anyone, just on the situation. I feel as if I've aged five years as the bulk of this has been done in one month.

Earlier in the process, I've been overcome by emotion for all of our times and events we shared in our home. Maybe I will feel a wave of nostalgia and tears again on the final day. Right now, the shear magnitude of moving has beaten those emotions out of me.

Pray for me and wish me luck. Thanks all <3

Comment by booktime (Susan) on Saturday

Thanks, Tess. I know I am not alone here with this. I'm sorry we have to experience this!

Comment by Tess on Saturday

It is definitely a new phase for you Susan and I wish you luck and contenment. Congratulations on your retirement. I know it doesn't mean the same as if your beloved was with you and sharing your achievement. I too experienced that feeling. You hit it on the head when you said you are no one's number one. It stings to know that, but it is the truth for us. I am not on someone's mind when they open their eyes in the morning or go to sleep at night. It is reality.

Many hugs to you.

Comment by booktime (Susan) on Saturday

In one week I will be officially retired. This past week was a fairly typical week but I realized how much I miss sharing this huge change with someone! There is no one to share this with! I usually talk with my sister every night but she was busy this past week. I don't think that helped. I finally emailed her yesterday and told her that while I knew I wasn't number one in her life I really needed to talk to someone. That got her attention. And we talked for an hour and I felt so much better.

Just comes down to there's no one there to talk to, doesn't it? That is one of the hardest things and I am feeling it so much as I go into this next phase!

I am lucky in that I am close to my siblings and I see them often....but like I said, I am no one's number one. And that is the reality.

Thanks for being here.


Comment by chef (John) on Tuesday

That's good news, Ron.

Best of luck with the trip.

Comment by Ultra2015 on Tuesday

Thanks everyone.  These past few weeks have been hell.  I am slowly packing, ha, very slowly.  I'll be ready by Sunday!

Comment by Melissa on June 16, 2019 at 11:19am

Thanks, Shelley. I appreciate your kindness. 

Comment by shelley on June 16, 2019 at 10:04am

I'm sorry, Melissa.  

Comment by LP on June 16, 2019 at 1:58am


i work in London. If you’re feeling low when here post me and I’ll meet up. LP


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