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Comment by Roxi on October 28, 2019 at 11:21am

Tek i'm so sorry for your new loss...our friends pet are so loving and joyful...sometimes are better than have a great idea for remember her...go ahed! Good luck ciao

Comment by Mary on October 28, 2019 at 10:57am


Best wishes today.  I hope you have a nice lunch and visit with your friend.

So sorry for the loss of your little dog.  They are part of our family and the loss can be just as devastating as any other loss - more so than some.

I think your idea for the charity is wonderful.  The cost of vet care can be surprisingly high.  To be able to help someone get treatment for their pet would be such a rewarding thing.  Good luck!

Comment by Mary on October 28, 2019 at 10:49am

My good friend, who just lost her husband a year ago, and I have been talking a lot about the holidays.  We are both dreading them.  So much of what everyone has said here really hits home.  It won't be the same.  I'd like to just go to sleep and wake up on Jan 2.

My husband was the one who put up the tree while I decorated the rest of the house.  I really haven't been as much into Christmas in the past several years, but he still was.  This will be the first Christmas without him. 

I wish all of us here could get together for the day, but at least we'll be together in spirit!

Comment by Tekwriter on October 28, 2019 at 9:52am

It was unfortunate. The bill would have been over 6k in the long run. I didn't even have the 1500 down at the time. Our vet graciously called the university snd spoke with them for me. That was such a relief. I just felt like I  murdered my baby the first couple of days but I  did my research and am feeling better now.

Comment by chef (John) on October 28, 2019 at 8:57am


I don't know where you are in the process, but here's a link to the IRS web page that deals with 501(c)3 organizations: It contains several links that you may find useful. also offers some tips for nonprofit organizations at I don't recall where you live, but I would also suggest that you contact your state's Secretary of State office in order to see what information they provide on the subject of starting a nonprofit organization. Also, please contact any large library in your vicinity, and see whether they can offer you free access to The Foundation Directory aka ( through their catalog. [Check the "Training", "Topics" and "Resources" links if they are active.] There are many public and university libraries throughout the country linked to this organization, and all you may need is a local library card in order to access it...and if I've put my oar in where it doesn't belong, please accept my apologies, and good luck with the endeavor.

Comment by LP on October 28, 2019 at 6:49am

Tekwriter, what a great charity idea! I am so sorry about your pup. My MollyDog was very sick over the last few weeks with a liver infection - a week in hospital on a drip. She's better than ever now, thank goodness, but only because I am fortunate enough to be able to pay the astronomical vet bill. Even pet insurance is expensive - it's always a gamble - 6 of one or half a dozen of another, as my mother used to say - whether to pay the huge monthly insurance sum or put the equivalent into savings. It's high for rescues like my girls, because insurance companies don't know their origin. That's even sadder as it may put people off adopting rescues.I chose to save my money myself for both cat and dog, so although I had to pay a huge sum for the dog, my cat is 19 and still in good health, so I just think of the money I saved on not insuring her. I take my hat off to you!

Comment by Barzan on October 28, 2019 at 6:27am

Tekwriter, I want to wish you a happy birthday.  Yes, it's certainly not the same without our mate.  Nothing us.  We just have to figure it out as we progress down this path we didn't choose.  My brother was going to take me out for lunch for my birthday - it was in April.  Ha, ha.  Maybe I'll score 2 lunches next year.

To all who posted regarding upcoming holidays, one thing is certain, we are no one's priority any longer.  We will just have to make ourselves our priority.  I am very happy for those who have found companions to share festivities.  I have held a "Quichemas" party every year since my mate passed to collect clothing to donate to a teen shelter where he worked.  I do it mid December and invite lots of family and friends.   

Ultra, I am so sorry that you are having such difficulty and sadness.  Please keep posting here for support.  I hope you have family or friends close by that you can share your feelings with.  Are there any widows groups in your area that you can join?  I do and it really is a blessing.

Hugs to all.  Be kind to yourselves.


Comment by Jules on October 28, 2019 at 6:17am

Tekwriter  All I can say is WOW. Kudos yo you for all that you are doing. As I know nothing about business plans I truly wish you well. I’m so impressed. I’m still at the stage of getting through each day. I’m hoping in the not too distant future I’ll do something more worthwhile. I’m also hoping that next year I’ll feel like doing the holidays again. I live Christmas but just can’t handle it this year. So I’m going on a vacation by myself. I’m a little scared as I’ve never gone anywhere completely alone but.. there’s a first time for everything and I’m longing to be by an ocean and walk the beach and talk to God about what has happened and why.

Comment by Tekwriter on October 28, 2019 at 6:11am

I know this is off topic a little. I lost my baby girl dog two weeks ago. It was sudden and brutal. She had ketoacidosis, it was very bad and we did not have the money to send her to the state hospital to treat her. She was a happy and cheerful dog that the entire family loved. It was a very hard loss. After the first of the year I plan on working towards starting a 501k charity to help families with vet bills. It will be called 'Sara's Cause' That is what my volunteer work will be. I will need to find a board of directors and create a business plan with a projection of where we hope to be in 10 years, where funding will come from etc. That will take up some time as I know nothing about this. I do however have an MBA so the work part doesn't scare me.

Comment by Tekwriter on October 28, 2019 at 6:00am

This is my second birthday without him. No one has said anything to me about it. I am going to South Carolina to have lunch with my friend, and will stop in at the veterans cemetery to see him. Then I will stop in a Krystal and grab some burgers to have them for dinner. Not cooking for anyone.


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