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Misery loves company

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How old was he?

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Comment by sadderbytheday on May 2, 2020 at 3:13pm

April 30th would of been our 60th anniversary.  On that day, two of my friends told me that they went with their husband's on a day trip.  One couple to the mountains, the other along the ocean.......made me cry.  My husband would of said to get the dog, let's get in the car and just take off for the day.  We did that a lot....oh boy, memories go on and on and on.  I know they're meant to comfort, but, with sooo many daily.....I just feel sad.

Comment by shelley on May 2, 2020 at 2:40pm

Wow, Melissa.  Seven hundred thousand every year.  That's incredible.  

Comment by Melissa on May 2, 2020 at 2:02pm

Gigi, I used to feel like the only one, too.

I even looked up the statistics of widowhood when Gilbert died, to see how many of us there were. Thirteen million widowed people in the United States. Seven hundred thousand newly widowed every year.

How can that be true? I don't know very many widowed people in our age group. But here we are.

I feel as if we are each the only one going through our particular journey with grief, but we're all on the same path. There are so many variables; circumstances are different for each of us. We just have that one horrible thing in common, which binds us all together. 

Everything you said is the same for me. We need to be especially good to each other during this uncertain time in our history, and I know if I come here, I will be met with kindness and empathy. I love these people, and while I'm so sorry you have to be here, you are welcomed with open arms.

Wishing you peace and comfort.

Comment by Gigi on May 2, 2020 at 12:55pm

I met a neighbor yesterday who was widowed 3 years ago at age of 35. Has 2 kids. She actually thinks I'm doing well for being a widow for only 2 months. (ha!). But it did comfort me that she pushes through life and raising her kids but still misses her husband and remembers him on anniversaries and birthdays. I like to read other's stories to just validate that I'm not the only one (of course not, but sometimes in the beginning, that's what you think), that so many other women are in a worse spot than me, and that we ALL have a story that's different and yet the same and that we all grieve a little differently. We all need to be good to each other. I like this group!

Comment by Ultra2015 on May 1, 2020 at 3:05pm

Quiet day yesterday for SAN’s birthday. Posted a picture on FB. Many supportive responses. Just another day on the journey. 
Peace all

Comment by chef (John) on April 30, 2020 at 3:42am

I agree with Melissa's post, Ultra.

Glad to hear you came through the day.

Comment by Melissa on April 29, 2020 at 10:15am

Thanks for checking in, Ultra. I thought about you a lot yesterday.

Comment by Ultra2015 on April 29, 2020 at 5:14am

Quiet day yesterday for SAN’s birthday. Posted a picture on FB. Many supportive responses. Just another day on the journey. 
Peace all

Comment by Mary on April 25, 2020 at 3:14pm

April 28th is "one of those days" for me also. It would have been our 47th anniversary and is my 2nd one alone after my husband passed away in March of last year.

I hope that however you spend the day, you are able to find peace.
Comment by Melissa on April 24, 2020 at 11:03am

Ultra, please check in on the 28th and let us know how you're doing.

This is hard enough during normal times, but these days we're reminded of loss every day. The pain feels so much more intense now, for me anyway.

I wish we could be with you in person, but this will have to do. Just do whatever you feel like doing that day. There's no right or wrong. I really believe Sandi will be with you.

I wish you peace.


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