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Comment by Patty D on May 8, 2011 at 4:50pm


I am new here. Born in 1951. My husband 8 years my senior passed away this past Feb 8th of sudden unexpected heart attack. Married 7 and half years and thought I was going to have at least 20 years with him. He was retired and treated me like a queen. He cooked ( Italian ), cleaned, laundry , helped all his friends. We loved each other deeply. I miss stroking his cheek and telling him how handsome he was. I actually had a good weekend. Did not cry as much. I ventured out to a car show and visited with our friends and today had lunch with my daughter and tonight went to the pool. It is finally sinking in that he is not coming back and it seems the more I keep busy the easier it is for me. I hate that he is gone. He was my second marriage after being divorced for 23 years and I still love him.

Comment by Abby on April 27, 2011 at 4:13pm

Hi Dianne:

You are a wonderful person to help me with this. I have to say that I did hit enter once but I did not see my comment. I will try again and let you know how I make out. Thank you so much Dianne. Now get back to work!!


Comment by Dianne in Nevada on April 27, 2011 at 8:29am
Hi Abby.  When you go into the Chat Room you'll see a list on the right-hand side of everyone who has Widowed Village open. They may or may not be in the Chat Room.  If people are chatting, you'll see their conversation in the open section to the left of the list of members.  You enter your comments below that.  See the smiley face?  Your entry area is just below that.  Type what you want and hit enter and you'll see it show up in the conversation section just above it.  I'm at work (and shouldn't be doing this - oops!) but I look forward to chatting with you sometime. 
Comment by Abby on April 27, 2011 at 8:09am

Hi to everyone that responded to all my big "firsts" being this May. I am not sure what I will do when these dates come up but I am sure that I will be on this site looking for support. Mahagen, hang in there, I know the feeling where everything seems to be going wrong. It is wrong because the person you love and want to be with is no longer with you.

Hi Dawn always nice to hear from you.  Good to know you will be on line when the rest of the world is sleeping.

Can anyone tell me how to respond on the chat line? I know this sounds crazy, but I don't see where to enter my thoughts?  Do I press enter? Looking for technical help with this???


A big hug and thank you to all of you who have helped me find a safe landing space here. I will be forever indebted for all of your support and caring. I hope that we all find a way to get this through this gigantic journey we call grief!


Comment by mahagen on April 26, 2011 at 7:47pm
May was always a great month for us too.  My birthday, three days later our anniversary then three days later, his birthday.  Now it's a month to be endured.  I just had my first sadaversary on Saturday.  I am feeling grief so much this week, and everything seems to be going wrong.  I know I'm better off than 96% of the world, but it seems like nothing is going right. 
Comment by danny's girl on April 26, 2011 at 7:40pm


I was born in June 1956, met my husband in 1974 while still in highschool.  We were married in October 1979.

Danny was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer on Nov 15, 2010 and he died on December 18,2010.

I am 4 months into this journey and very happy to have found this Village of wonderful people.

Comment by SallyStarre on April 26, 2011 at 10:03am


   I was born in September 1950.  Our last vaction together was in September to celebrate my 60th birthday.  I downloaded the photos a couple of nights ago.  We celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary Jan 17th in the hospital. I go through the motions now but really do not find any joy in anything I do.  Its been 6 weeks sometime it seems like it was forever ago and other times it was yesterday. 

Comment by CIN_C2006 on April 23, 2011 at 6:46am
ABBY..... so sorry!  I too... my bday, my LH's bday, and his sadaversy (death date) are all in May (plus my mother passed away, several years ago, shortly before midnight which was a few minutes before my bday). I am now coming up on being 5 yrs out. Bdays are sure not what they use to be.
Comment by Abby on April 21, 2011 at 6:34pm

I was born in May 1955 as was my loving husband. I am 16 days older than him and he never let me forget it...especially for milestone birthdays. In May we celebrated our birthdays and our wedding anniversary. This will be my first May without him. What was once a month to look forward to is now one that I drread. I have been without him for 91 days and as I am sure you are all aware, these have been the worst 91 days of my life. I am so sorry for all of your losses and hope to find some comfort on this site.


Comment by Eowyn on April 10, 2011 at 4:58am
Realize that my loss is quite far in the past, but last night a friend turned 60 and I realized my first husband would also be 60 now. Despite all the years and great things in my life, it still makes me sad... so taking a moment to share here.

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