This site is run by widowed people, for widowed people

Widowed Village connects peers with each other for friendship and sharing. The moderators, administrators, and others involved in running this site are not professionals.

Please don't interpret anything you read here as medical, legal, or otherwise expert advice. Don't disregard any expert's advice or take any action as a result of what you read here.

We're friends, not doctors, financial or legal professionals, and we're not "grief experts." But we are here, and we've been "there."


Born in the 50s

Groups are a place to connect with others you have something in common with. Please get acquainted here and make friends anywhere on the site.

Check the 'Help' tab for more guidance or send questions to [email protected]

Patience (Diane) is the group greeter.

Members: 823
Latest Activity: on Wednesday

Discussion Forum


Started by Dianne in Nevada. Last reply by Roxi on Sunday. 112 Replies

2 years today

Started by jlsrdh. Last reply by Estragon Sep 9. 7 Replies


Started by Mike. Last reply by Ultra2015 Aug 22. 35 Replies

Misery loves company

Started by Tess. Last reply by Roxi Aug 21. 31 Replies

having a hard time

Started by drgayle. Last reply by Angie Aug 18. 6 Replies

Comment Wall


You need to be a member of Born in the 50s to add comments!

Comment by Abby on September 25, 2011 at 5:21pm

I just passed my 8 month mark on the 20th and I have been terribly weepy for the past 2 weeks. I am so tired of the constant set backs, so tired of coming home on Saturday night, taking my dog for a walk, watching some mindless TV and then going to bed alone. I miss my husband so terribly that I don't know when this pain will ever end. I crave male companionship but know that I am not ready for anything more than a friend and that it is not possible to be just friends with a man. Everyone tells me to be patient but when will I ever be ready to resume my life,? to enjoy myself? to laugh out loud?to stop wishing my husband would walk through the front door..oh how I wish he would.
I always knew that I hit a home run when I met my husband but I never knew how lucky I truly was.  He was one in a million and at times just knowing that I was lucky enough to have experienced real love with him seems enough.  But sadly I know that it is not enough.

Is anyone dating?   I still wear my wedding rings and am not ready to take them off and am not sure that I will ever be ready. Has anyone taken their rings off?

I am grateful to hear the positive comments and am hopeful that one day I too will be able to say that I lived through the biggest nightmare of my life and came out the other side and am happy!  Just seems like an insurmountable journey right now.


Comment by Lisa on September 25, 2011 at 3:44pm
Pumpkin, it's going to be three years for me soon.  I know what you mean, now its two steps forward and one back and some days for no reason at all I tip back. There really is no choice but to move forward in this journey.  Some days are lighter than others and that's a truth I have to trust.  Big hugs forall my baby boomer girls
Comment by Lisa on September 25, 2011 at 3:41pm
(((Hugs)))for you mahagen.
Comment by mahagen on September 25, 2011 at 10:57am

I just passed 17 months on Friday.  Most of the time I feel pretty good, like I can do this.  It is getting easier.  Today, however, is just not a great day.  It's not a special day, not a birthday or anniversary, just a Sunday in the fall, and he should be sleeping in front of the TV with a football game on.  He should have gone to church with me.  He should be asking for a pot of chili.  But none of that is happening, and I'm just a little melencholy.   

Comment by pumpkin on September 25, 2011 at 10:41am

Hello Everyone,

On Sept 30th my husband will have been gone for 26 months. I have to tell those who are newer to the widow world that I think that things are getting a little easier. Instead of 1 step forward 2 steps back it seems as though some days it's 2 steps forward and only 1 step back. But beware, that also goes in phases. I talk to myself every day saying that how we deal with terrible things in life is a choice- we either become bitter or we make a conscious decision to push forward, do the best that we can and see what happens. It sucks sometimes but we are in control of how we deal with tragedy. Believe me, I could never have said this just 1 year ago. Now, let's see me walk the walk.

Comment by Marsha on September 24, 2011 at 5:27pm
Welcome Debbie. Glad you found WV- just sorry for the reason you are here. The one club none of us want to be a part of. It's a good site to find support and people who truly understand. ((((HUGS))))
Comment by Debbie on September 24, 2011 at 5:13pm
Hi, I lost my husband to suicide on 12-22-2008 and it's been downhill since then. I'm glad I found this site and I'm sorry for everyone's loss.
Comment by SallyStarre on September 22, 2011 at 4:46am
Thank you all for the good wishes. It was a difficult day. I did meet some friends after work for a bit but all the time my heart was with my Russ. Do not like this journey we are on. Peace to you all.
Comment by Marsha on September 21, 2011 at 2:11pm
Happy birthday Sally. Even though this is the first one without your husband physically here, know he is with you. I planned my vacation to visit my daughter and granddaughters around my birthday. Intend to do it again next year for my 60th. Like flamingt's suggestion of throwing your own birthday party too. Believe we have to find ways to move on with our lives. It will take time but I know we will all get there. Thinking of you today. ((((Sally)))))
Comment by shirley on September 21, 2011 at 10:50am
To flamingt- question. How do you make NEW friends?? It took 30+ years to get my OLD friends and I'm finding it very difficult to find people who are not in relationships and want to put energy into becoming friends.

Members (823)


© 2020   Created by Soaring Spirits.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service