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2 years today

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Started by Mike. Last reply by Ultra2015 Aug 22. 35 Replies

Misery loves company

Started by Tess. Last reply by Roxi Aug 21. 31 Replies

having a hard time

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Comment by Tess yesterday

Jim, sending my thoughts your way. I know yesterday was a difficult day for you. I think Riskybiz has it correct about the lucky ones. It is the survivors that have to muddle through. 
Hugs to you. 

Comment by LP yesterday

Of course you will. Go easy on yourself, today, Jim. 

(My  wedding anniversary is this Friday).

all best wishes,


Comment by Riskybiz yesterday

Jim, Ultra 2015,

It's been nine months, three days, four hours.  We were married for 45 years, together for 47.

I will love him forever.

I hear you both and ache for your pain and mine.

Can't wait to join him, I tell God every night I don't want to do this anymore.

And I don't.  He was right, the first to die is the lucky one.

Good luck to all.  I hope we can find some peace.

Comment by Ultra2015 on Sunday

I hear you Jim. Take care. 

Comment by Jim on Sunday

It’s been two years since 6:30 this morning. I will love her forever.

Comment by Tess on September 14, 2020 at 4:10am

Shelley, thank you so much for responding to my SOS yesterday. My daughter did eventually apologize for snapping at me. I am very thankful for that.
This is not the world we grew up in or even raised our children in. I do think that pedophilia and the abduction of children is something of concern. 
Guess I’m not feeling very hopeful about the world in general these days. 
Take care. 

Comment by Roxi on September 14, 2020 at 12:40am

Ciao everyone

In time of the "new normal life" with the virus, i remember the hugs kisses laughs with my loved one Giorgio..

Some days i cry

Some days i wear my mask and face life as it is now

As we all bravely do.

Hugs to all Roxi

Comment by riet on September 14, 2020 at 12:30am

Dear friends,

I was far from being able to even read the posts on this site.
Throughout the summer, I thought I could hide from the consuming grief. I was busy all day reading documents in old Dutch. That was so strenuous that I couldn't think of anything else. But it did not help. I feel like the ostrich sticking its head in the sand.
Now, after two and a half years, I see more how I miss him every day. However, I was already a step further. Last year I thought that everything I did should go the way we wanted it together. But now there is no "together" anymore.  I started to change things so that it would be easier for me alone.
But what a pain that hurt. A stab in my heart with everything I handled. And I am far from done.
I also had to get rid of two of his beloved plants. The walnut tree, which he himself grew from a nut. And his beloved rose bush.
They had both grown so big, and I couldn't take it anymore. But it cuts through my heart.
Otherwise, this was a very lonely summer, as it probably was for all of us.
My grieve group stopped meeting because of the covid. No more trips. No family members, because they live just across the border in the Netherlands. Forbidden to cross the border. Dear friends, who suddenly develop a terrible cancer, a friend who died of ALS. I didn't even know she was sick. It went that fast. It is so hopeless. My grandchildren couldn't come because of the virus and the misunderstanding with my daughter grew even worse. And ... nothing can be done about it.
I miss my husband so much. If only I had died with him. That's how it should be in an ideal world: live together, die together.
This morning I finally had the courage to read your messages again. And that did me very well. It so comforted me. I felt understood again.
Dear friends, There is no point in trying to push sadness away. It makes everything around you even darker.
Melissa, I think about you during this difficult time. My dear husband also had his birthday on December 13. He was born in 1944. He was so small that he was wrapped in cotton wool close to the stove to survive. He survived. And we had the best life we ​​could dream of together.
I now try to bring out the beautiful things, instead of pushing it all away.
Dear friends, I wish you a nice day.

Comment by Roxi on September 13, 2020 at 10:47pm

Riskybiz i would like to find magic words to console your immense pain

We've all been through it and some how we're still there

We can understand

We are near you

Take care of yourself hugs Roxi

Comment by shelley on September 13, 2020 at 12:34pm

Thanks, Melissa.  For your comment and for thinking of me,  I forgot that our husbands died days apart.  John died on November 10, 2017.  I'm sorry that the next few months will be hard.  Or should I say, harder than usual.

Take care,



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