We can all understand the heartbreak others feel on losing their spouse, regardless of their age. We know that the youngest, still overcome by the overwhelming rush of new love, feel keenly cheated of all the years they might have had, and the oldest feel as every year was a journey which brought them even closer together, they feel as if they had become a single soul. Those of us widowed in mid-life can find ourselves awkwardly in between, uncertain where to turn, uncertain of how to go on. The choice to look for a new love can be especially traumatic in mid-life because we spent so many years in the worlds we created with our partners, and yet there are so many years left ahead. Some of us have still got it going on, and some of us may have gotten so “comfortable” in our marriages that we find ourselves unwilling to face the rejection we suspect we might find out in the dating world. Whatever your story is, and whatever your choice is, you can help others by sharing it here.
I think you hit the nail on the head. My neighbor was looking for nightlife and was not looking for the same things you were when traveling. I'll let my daughter know what you told me. She's not big on wine or fish, but I think she will like it. I've gotten used to eating alone. It doesn't bother me. I think its harder for women than men. Usually, I bring my cell phone, book or newspaper to read while I'm eating and I'm good. Whenever I see a woman eating alone, sometimes I want to compliment them for doing that , but I'm afraid they will take it the wrong way, so I don't. I'm sorry your family doesn't support you traveling. If you are safe, that's all that should matter. Hugs back to you!