It has been nearly two years since my Husband died suddenly, and I find myself putting off doing simple things that I need to take care of. There are so many things, like going through his model railroad and drum things...learning to use the lawn mower...I could go on and on... Today I need to try and find out if the warranty on his pickup truck would be voided if I move it into my name, and whether or not I need to move the car loan into my name. He bought the truck a few months before he passed, and I can not bear to sell it so I have just kept up the payments. Do any of you find yourselves avoiding simple things that you know need to be taken care of?
Thanks, I am glad to hear from someone else who is taking things slow. I am struggling with knowing these things are piling up, and that I need to do them.
Thanks WidowedBride....I know that most of this is just me wanting to fix everything as I tend to be that way.
Oh my, I can't imagine how terrible that must be. Thank you for this, makes me feel better knowing that I am not taking too long to shake this incredible sadness and grief that I feel. There was no need for probate in our case as we have never owned a home, always rented, and we did not have much in savings. I am still working and getting his pension so I will be ok money wise...just need to try and get on track with my personal motivation and learn to do all the things he normally took care of.
Today is 15 months to the day that my Morris passed away suddenly in our living room. I completely understand how you feel about putting things off. I have to get an oil change in the one car that is left to me (our van died 2 months after I paid it off...thanks, Universe!), and I just cannot bring myself to do it. I'd better do it soon, or it's going to blow up.
I still have lots of paperwork to fill out for the V.A., although why I even bother is a good question. I'll be there when I get there.
Packerfanlyn, I'm truly sorry for your loss, I've had two suicides in my family of origin myself, but nothing like what you've been through. Take care of yourself, you're worth it.
You sound so much like me..H bought a truck a little less than 2 months before he passed. I just left it as he had it. It is the little things though..You get hit with a lot of things you had or have no idea about. Its overwhelming at times. Luckily I have a few of his really close friends that I can reach out to and are my sounding board at times when I just do not know where to turn. A friend comes and keeps my lawn mowed although I would do it myself. Its his shop garage and all the stuff in there that I know nothing about and his overwhelming love of reading...books everywhere! Some I will keep but so many have got to go.
I sit here and read everyone's post. Please don't think anything is to small or insignificant to post. I totally get all of you. I lost my dear sweet Jack on May 2, 2017 to stage IV kidney cancer. I would have to say it was one of the worst days of my life. I am slowly putting myself back together. I had my husbands Denali in the driveway for a year. I never drove it and I think I started it twice. I finally donated to someone in the family. Holiday's are still difficult and I think this year now that some of the fog has lifted it is even harder. The memories are coming back and I find I miss him more and more.
Oh yes - it is so hard! After two years, I finally cancelled my husbands mobile phone. I didn't think it was going to take very long, but I had to close our account and re-open it in my name. It took over an hour, and I cried on the phone to the person helping me.