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Dating Again for those Born in the 60s

Started by Mary H. Last reply by Kevin 7 hours ago. 261 Replies

We can all understand the heartbreak others feel on losing their spouse, regardless of their age.  We know that the youngest, still overcome by the overwhelming rush of new love, feel keenly cheated…Continue

I Challenge You!

Started by Riley. Last reply by Kevin 23 hours ago. 13 Replies

HI All, I challenge you to type out a 10 point short sentence  list of the things you miss about your spouses !!!  Here's mine!  Feel free to steal from me if one of mine is also yours (BIG SMILE)1.…Continue

Desperate and Sad

Started by Pat in Ct. Last reply by Pat in Ct Sep 6. 2 Replies

My husband died on May 15, 2019. At first, I muddled through but now I am almost paralyzed with grief. I am in a constant state of anxiety and depression. I will be attending a grief support group…Continue

Brain fog?

Started by Liss. Last reply by Pat in Ct Sep 5. 14 Replies

At 56, my brain has enough mileage to wear off some of the tread, even before the loss of my husband this August. After his death, though, I find it so much harder to remember details, make decisions…Continue

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Comment by Nance63 on September 12, 2019 at 8:42am

Ahh, pvtess, I get ya. You ARE making a new life; it's just sometimes bewildering how different it is from what you may have projected it would be, 'before...'  And, good or bad, it cannot help but be so different, so shockingly different. 

Comment by pvtess on September 12, 2019 at 6:03am

Nance63...It's not necessarily a bad change. It's more like I'm doing things I never would have guessed in a million years. I had a 24 year career in the corporate world and I just walked away from it.

I was blessed to get the puppy I got the year following my husband's death. He's been a good, furry companion. We (the dog and I) spend a lot of time travelling for dog sports and doing lots of training. I've met a bunch of great dog people and made some good friends through that channel, so there's that. Most of the friends are dog sports related, so I only see them every few months at events. We try to meet up when our schedules align, but that's not often enough.

We had no children, but I've got lots of nieces and nephews who live 1,000+ miles away. I've started helping out in the children's department at my church hoping that would give me a sense of family that I'm missing.  

Comment by Nance63 on September 11, 2019 at 5:29pm

pvtess….  Ugh I'm sorry to hear you're sort of lost, lonely and shell shocked.  We make plans and moves thinking the next day will be the same as today, and life throws us a wicked curve...  I can't imagine how it must be to have left your comfort zone WITH your husband, expectations being normal.... and now you are stuck in a life that was not at all what you envisioned if you even took time to envision it at all. We don't... we just live... and then find ourselves shaken and poured out. 

Have you ever taken a look at Meetup.com to see if there might be some groups meeting nearby that would interest you and get you out there, doing things, meeting people, maybe making another bestie? 

for me, my life didn't change a WHOLE lot.... there were many practical things I relied upon my husband to just do and it's hard to be going it alone.... 3 years for me and I"m 56.  I have five kids, seven grands.My youngest child is special needs and so a lot of my time and energy is spent making HER life fulfilling.... sometimes I really wish I could 'vent' or discuss or bounce ideas off of someone other than my (willing) kids...it's lonely.  I feel for you. 

Comment by pvtess on September 11, 2019 at 12:48pm

I'm almost at the 5 year mark and turned 50 earlier this year. I look at myself and where I am at in my life now. I don't recognize any of it. Moved away in the year before my husband passed - so no family or friends nearby. I'm slowly trying to rebuild my life and my career but it's so difficult. Got a dog to help me meet other dog people through dog training classes. That's helped some. But there are days where I wish I could meet my bestie for lunch, see a movie, etc. Long distance phone calls help, but it's not the same as having them here. 

Comment by Thankfulheart on August 23, 2019 at 8:47pm

I’m sorry for your loss . Hi I’m new to this group . My husband Rafael passed away 9 years ago . It gets easier but he’s never forgotten. 

Comment by Sad One on September 1, 2018 at 5:18pm

Hi Idaho,

I am sorry to hear you are going through this with the move. I am in California, and am at 7 years out, and still living in same house i shared with my passed away Hubby. I wish I had your courage to make such a move. I've often wondered what it would be like if I moved East or North of here. As "here"  has become so expensive to continue. But somehow manage to get by, just barely. As for other widows in the area, surely there is a group nearby. Have you tried reaching out through live message forum here? Maybe they can connect you with others nearby. Again, you are very courageous! Hugs your way*****

Liz

Comment by idaho on August 31, 2018 at 8:07pm

So I have made a huge mistake. I was excited to move..after 20 years..to a new place so my daughter could try a new school. So withy thinking it through..I quit my good job, left my comfort zone, friends etc and moved 6 hours away to a different state! Well...it's not at all like I fantasized in my head. I can't seem to find a job and might run out of money soon. People here are not as friedly as where I came from. We went from 3 bdrm house to tiney and more expensive apartment. Dogs are ok but cats are miserable. I wish my husband was here..then I never wouldvwo done something sooo dumb. Anyone out there..near bend oregon? That's where I am right now and I sure could use a friend. My husband has been gone four years but it feels like yesterday.

Comment by designguy on February 6, 2018 at 10:30am

God has a plan and a purpose and we are just minute parts of it. We are still left here for a purpose, let's make it happen.


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Comment by adoption1964 (Kim) on December 11, 2017 at 10:05am

Today 1 year ago we had a big BBQ for my husband.  I am so glad we did; it was kind of like a early birthday party; his birthday was 12/29. He was diagnosed with Stage IV Kidney cancer and didn't make it 5 months.  The holidays were his favorite time of year.  I miss him so much.  It really sucks having to go through this one with the kids and g-kids alone.  He loved watching them open gifts and the lights.  I want to crawl into a hole and not come out until this is over.  Each day brings more anxiety.

 

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