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Dating Again for those Born in the 60s

Started by Mary H. Last reply by silver55 Dec 3. 98 Replies

We can all understand the heartbreak others feel on losing their spouse, regardless of their age.  We know that the youngest, still overcome by the overwhelming rush of new love, feel keenly cheated…Continue

Learning to do the things that my Husband always took care of

Started by HillbillyWitchDr. Last reply by happylilycat May 17. 9 Replies

It has been nearly two years since my Husband died suddenly, and I find myself putting off doing simple things that I need to take care of. There are so many things, like going through his model…Continue

Moved this weekend

Started by Therese. Last reply by sus Mar 20. 12 Replies

Moved into a 420 foot apartment this weekend. I have mixed emotions on this to say the least. If anyone were to congratulate me or even try to console me I think I might bite their head off. I never…Continue

Brain fog?

Started by Liss. Last reply by Nance63 Mar 18. 11 Replies

At 56, my brain has enough mileage to wear off some of the tread, even before the loss of my husband this August. After his death, though, I find it so much harder to remember details, make decisions…Continue

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Comment by IBelieveInYou on October 26, 2017 at 7:37am

Tracy isn't it odd what people say. Interestingly my son took it as his responsibility to change our outgoing greeting on the home phone the day his mom, my wife passed. It seemed like the right thing to do. Shortly thereafter, we recorded her outgoing message from her cell phone when we deactivated it. Those little details of life can bring up terrible waves of grief. I hope that you have a good day.

Comment by Tracy on October 26, 2017 at 7:35am

My best friend reminded me today that my greeting on my cell phone still included my husbands name, and did I think I should change it. Wasn't sure how to respond to that.?? OMG!

Comment by IBelieveInYou on October 25, 2017 at 2:17pm

Janina, hang in there. You are not alone here. Tell us about what is going on if you wish because we get it and have lived thru experiences that are unique but similar. I hope you come back to this list and read about our experiences and share as you choose. I'm thinking of you this evening.

Comment by Janina on October 25, 2017 at 2:10pm

i thought i was strong. people say I am strong. i'm not strong.

Comment by Janina on October 25, 2017 at 2:09pm

Its so brutal sometimes. I think to myself, if only I had not had children, I could just die. But I insisted. My husband and I battled infertility, with the miraculous outcome of twin sons. Maybe I was wrong to fight to have them.

Comment by Tracy on October 25, 2017 at 9:36am

Thank you Believe, you are right about friends and family.  My daughters are a great support for me , however I have learned that I have to let my friend and family know what I need.  Its easier to tell them what I need then listen to them try to fix me or make it better. I am going to a grief group once a week but I sometimes feel worse when I leave.  Thanks for talking with me.  

Comment by IBelieveInYou on October 25, 2017 at 9:25am

Tracy what you are feeling is normal. All of us here have experienced what you are going thru. You are very early in the process so it is still very raw. In my experience, the rawness diminishes with time. That is not to say that I have stopped crying and feeling intensely lonely, lost, weary, and just terrible. This weekend will be the second anniversary of her passing. Our kids and I have decided not to make a big deal about it so that we don't get in the practice of memorializing her passing. Instead we are choosing to live as best we can with the knowledge that she is present in our hearts. We see her in each other and for the moment, that is the best we can do. I'm sorry to ramble. As you say, one day at a time. Do you have a support network? I found, early on, that I had to ask my friends and family for exactly what I needed because most of them had not experienced a loss of a spouse. Hang in there. 

Comment by Tracy on October 25, 2017 at 8:54am

Hi Believe,Thank you for your kind words. My Anthony passed almost 5 months ago. Its so final .  I want to see him, and talk to him and smell him and be with him. I miss him so much. I feel so sad and tired and lost and scared and alone.  I cry a lot. The grief is so overwhelming, so painful.  I sometimes wish I could have gone with him .....But I'm here and trying to be present in my life. One day at a time, I guess

Comment by IBelieveInYou on October 25, 2017 at 7:33am

Hello Tracy. Each of us grieves differently but we are all on a very similar journey. Feel free to tell your story here. It's been almost exactly 2 years since the loss of my beloved wife. This site has helped me because I know I'm not alone on this path. Read our stories, thoughts and rants. Share yours if it helps you. Please take care of yourself.

Comment by Tracy on October 25, 2017 at 7:14am

Hello everyone

 

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