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Employment Issues After Loss

Started by iheartdoggiz. Last reply by Cottage242 Oct 27. 9 Replies

I lost my husband and best friend on January 31, 2018. He died after a year of battling pancreatic cancer and I miss him dearly. I have worked at the same job for over 15 years. I took a few weeks…Continue

Lonliness

Started by Susan. Last reply by Karybab Oct 2. 26 Replies

Hi!   How does everyone fight the lonilness?  I just can't take this. I went from my parents house to my own when we got married.Please let me know how you all do it.Susan Continue

I Challenge You!

Started by Riley. Last reply by Lost Sep 9. 10 Replies

HI All, I challenge you to type out a 10 point short sentence  list of the things you miss about your spouses !!!  Here's mine!  Feel free to steal from me if one of mine is also yours (BIG SMILE)1.…Continue

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Comment by Sad One on September 1, 2018 at 5:18pm

Hi Idaho,

I am sorry to hear you are going through this with the move. I am in California, and am at 7 years out, and still living in same house i shared with my passed away Hubby. I wish I had your courage to make such a move. I've often wondered what it would be like if I moved East or North of here. As "here"  has become so expensive to continue. But somehow manage to get by, just barely. As for other widows in the area, surely there is a group nearby. Have you tried reaching out through live message forum here? Maybe they can connect you with others nearby. Again, you are very courageous! Hugs your way*****

Liz

Comment by idaho on August 31, 2018 at 8:07pm

So I have made a huge mistake. I was excited to move..after 20 years..to a new place so my daughter could try a new school. So withy thinking it through..I quit my good job, left my comfort zone, friends etc and moved 6 hours away to a different state! Well...it's not at all like I fantasized in my head. I can't seem to find a job and might run out of money soon. People here are not as friedly as where I came from. We went from 3 bdrm house to tiney and more expensive apartment. Dogs are ok but cats are miserable. I wish my husband was here..then I never wouldvwo done something sooo dumb. Anyone out there..near bend oregon? That's where I am right now and I sure could use a friend. My husband has been gone four years but it feels like yesterday.

Comment by Nitabug on August 10, 2018 at 8:43am

The sadness comes when it hits you that there is no one to hold you any more. Some days are better than others. Today is not one of them.

When the dark clouds come your way
When your demons can't be tamed
When your last straw starts to break
And you feel your heart can't take anymore
When your second chance is gone
When you're barely hanging on
When you're tired of being strong, and you don't know where to run anymore

I wanna take away the hurts
But I just don't have the words


Let me hold you
Let me hold you tight
Let me hold you
Just let me hold you tonight

 

When the shadow's always there
When you can't come up for air
When tomorrow seems to lead nowhere
And there's no answer to your prayer anymore

 

I wanna take away the hurts
But I just don't have the words
Let me hold you
Let me hold you tight
Let me hold you
Just let me hold you tonight

Lyrics by John Krajick

Comment by designguy on February 6, 2018 at 10:30am

God has a plan and a purpose and we are just minute parts of it. We are still left here for a purpose, let's make it happen.


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Comment by Soaring Spirits on December 25, 2017 at 7:22am

We're hanging out in the WV chat room for anyone who finds themselves alone on Christmas day. Join us!

http://widowedvillage.org/chat

Comment by adoption1964 (Kim) on December 11, 2017 at 10:05am

Today 1 year ago we had a big BBQ for my husband.  I am so glad we did; it was kind of like a early birthday party; his birthday was 12/29. He was diagnosed with Stage IV Kidney cancer and didn't make it 5 months.  The holidays were his favorite time of year.  I miss him so much.  It really sucks having to go through this one with the kids and g-kids alone.  He loved watching them open gifts and the lights.  I want to crawl into a hole and not come out until this is over.  Each day brings more anxiety.

Comment by adoption1964 (Kim) on December 11, 2017 at 6:18am

H2017 and Terry, I can surely relate to all of these feelings that I have been desperately trying to bury somewhere.  Like you H2017 my husband symptoms were showing around Halloween of last year, after many visits to the hospital for tests, upon test they finally found cancer on 12/15/16.  Christmas last year was so hard I could barely stand the thought of Christmas music, wrapping presents, shopping, baking etc.  I was so focused with some hope and still knowing in the back of my mind it was really bad.  They wanted to take his right kidney, piece of his bladder on the 24th of December; he said no.  Last year was his last Christmas with us.  He had the surgery on December 28th the day before his 61st birthday, stayed in the hospital until New Years Day.  On January 23rd we given the final diagnosis Stage IV Kidney cancer with 3-6 months to live with chemo and if we were lucky he would make it through October.  I won't go into all the details of the struggle and pain with the Pallative care which I have decided is just hospice in a nice way.  He passed away May 2, 2017 at home.  I miss him so much.  Like you I think back to all the things we were doing this time last year.  Christmas was his favorite time of year.  To complicate things for me it's a blessing and a challenge I have 4 grandkids, 3 live with me;  their mother as well in the process of a divorce, they are 8, 14, 15 and the other grandchild is 6 (my son's daughter) nope can't skip Christmas.  I wasn't going to put up a tree as it wasn't until last week did the kids come back to live with me. In addition to my 4 grandkids my son's girlfriend has 3 kids, 8, 10, 12.  We are celebrating with all the kids at my son's house on the 24th. This is so painful to write, didn't realize how hard it was going to be.  On December 29th would have been my husbands 62d birthday.  In summary I can totally relate to both of you about the holidays.

Comment by Nieta on October 27, 2017 at 4:40pm
What a beautiful experience Cindy! And, yes, I believe.
Comment by IBelieveInYou on October 26, 2017 at 5:48pm

KMA  (CIndy) - THanks for sharing this. Regardless of what each of us believes, we've all been thru a terrible experience and so we respect one another on that level. I've had several experiences that have been meaningful. I'm glad that you have also had one. 

Comment by KMA2106 on October 26, 2017 at 5:31pm
I’m unsure who believes but I definitely believe in God/Heaven/Angels among us/ that some are able to communicate with those that have past. with that being said, I’m happy to say I had a visit a few nights ago while I was sleeping. It was a beautiful white, it took my breath away how peaceful and mesmerizing it was.I am unable to describe what it was, I saw no one there but I know it was my husband telling me it was ok, he is proud of how myself and my daughters are doing. Knowing I’m constantly questioning if he is proud of me? Am I doing anything to dishonorable him? This was such a unbelievable experience that I wanted to share. I hope everyone gets a chance to experience this....Cindy
 

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