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Born in the  70s

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Comment by Lostmyeverything(Denise) on May 2, 2018 at 9:33am

I have been reading all the posts these past couple of weeks in our 70's group. My husband passed in December 2016. I yearned to connect with anyone my age that was experiencing this awful feeling of loss.I still feel this need to connect with someone, anyone who knows what such profound loss does to each and every one of us  I just needed to know that there was someone else out there that could understand the deep pain that I carry with me daily. My love for him, gone. Being a single parent, just thinking about raising our boys by myself was just too much for me. Yet, here I am-tomorrow will be 17 months since he passed...and somehow I am still here - waking the boys up everyday, making sure they are fed and getting them off to school and their activities everyday.... that is all I seem to manage..just the motions.When there is something that happens that I should be happy about - no joy, just  a puddle of tears, because he is not here to be happy with me.This group was so quiet, hardly ever a post right after he passed. Yet in this past month or two - too many are now a part of our young widow group  -  Thank you all for writing - you have helped me if only for a few moments - to not feel so alone.

Comment by linz on May 2, 2018 at 9:25am

Good Afternoon to all of you survivors today. I just want to thank you all for sharing your feelings because I have been struggling to keep my brave face lately. My husband passed away 14 months ago and I get up everyday like its groundhog day. Each one of you has said what I have been feeling and thank you for helping me not feel like I am alone on this path of grief. I'm just so sorry that you are all going through it also. But honestly reading your shares has just helped me take a deep breath and realize I am not alone. I just wanted to say thank you! 

Comment by Rob-edmonton on May 2, 2018 at 9:10am

so rare to meet widowed people who are born in 70's - and with kids living at home is a whole thing - it's such a unique feeling

Comment by MenuFalls on May 1, 2018 at 9:47pm

Hi ForeverMourning and group-  I know it’s a lot easier said than done, but we do need to pat ourselves on the back every now and then. I don’t have children, but like I said in my post, I still have to put on a brave face and go out to the world every day. As you all do as well. During your cries, and shouting, and however you are feeling, try to look at yourself and be proud of everything you’re doing. It’s really hard when you’re in deep depths of despair and you’re missing your loved ones so very much that you can’t even think straight. You just want them to come and put their arms around you and tell you everything is going to be OK. I still have those moments all the time missing Ron. I get really fed up and I have a short fuse and sometimes I’m just over it all. I don’t know why this had to happen to him, to me, to us. But just try to be strong for yourself first and be proud of yourself for all that you’ve done and that you are making it through every single day. It may not seem like a lot now, but it really is. You all rock. We’re doing the best we can under circumstances we didn’t ask for. You’re doing great!

Comment by ShirleyB on May 1, 2018 at 1:24pm

I'm coming up on the one year mark. My wedding anniversary is Friday the 4th- would have been 22 years.  John died May 24th of last year.  May sucks.

You just keep trying to do the best you can I think.

Comment by Anyhope on May 1, 2018 at 12:06pm

I lost my husband to cancer about two months ago. Time goes so slow it feels like two years.

My thoughts are consumed with him. He was a handsome, loving  and seemingly healthy 44 year old. We were married for 23 years. I had known him since I was 10. He was my world. . I’m praying for just some healing.  I feel like I’m in an ocean floating around aimlessly at times tossed by waves of grief. 

I have three kids ages 16, 12, and 7. I dislike single parenting, but I must keep going and get better for them. It’s good to be on a site where others understand. 

Comment by Adda on May 1, 2018 at 11:10am

FloFloogal, same this happened to me after my husband passed. Our pets died, our car died, everything seems to follow him. :(

Comment by FloFloogal on May 1, 2018 at 7:40am

My husband passed 6 weeks ago and it's like everything that was breaking before just decided to crap out completely. I have already had to replace a washing machibg, need to have the dryer vents cleaned in anticipation of the new set being delivered, and one of our toilets overflows when flushed, so I need a plumber too. This is after navigating new daycare and health insurance last month. I feel like a terrible parent, but am doing my best. Not to mention I feel like the shock might be wearing off because for the past couple days it seems to hurt more than it has. It's a grueling marathon, and I'm so sorry that you all have to run it too, but I am grateful for the company.

Comment by Rob-edmonton on May 1, 2018 at 7:29am

I'm a Dad who I just tries to keep the bases covered for my three boys.  Sports and school and meals , actually today is my wedding anniversary, May day.  

Comment by rich34 on May 1, 2018 at 7:21am

I'm sort-of in the opposite boat.  It has been two years since my wife died, and the kids are all a bit older and doing their own things.  I do have the occasional meal but the house is really quiet.  I don't have any trouble with keeping up with things on my own, but I'm still trying to sort out what comes next.  It is amazing how much of our identity gets caught up in marriage after a decade, and so much has changed I don't really enjoy just going back to the things I was doing in my 20s before I was married.

So I just take it one day at a time, and trust that I'll eventually figure things out.  

While I don't think of my wife constantly, little things remind me of her often.  For the most part these memories are bittersweet now.  Even after two years it seems like the house is still way too quiet.


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