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Comment by Chris on January 25, 2012 at 4:26am

Hang in there, gcortez.  Sometimes it takes longer than we like it to, but He always has a way of showing us that He was there, kind of like poking us & saying, "See, there I was - you were just looking backwards when you should have been looking forwards!"

Comment by gcortez55 on January 24, 2012 at 5:28pm
I too am a believer and have faith. But I felt like God disappeared when my husband got sick. It is so strange, I still pray but never "personal" type prayers. I pray just with the standard prayers in my prayer book (I'm episcopalian). It feels like God just left me, forgot that I was here... I know he has been by me, walking the dark path along side me. I just don't "feel" like He is here. If that makes sense...
Comment by Chris on January 24, 2012 at 1:08pm

My faith has been instrumental in my journey, as it has for most of my life.  My late wife was the person who really challenged me to have a better relationship with God...

Comment by meme on January 24, 2012 at 7:23am

I want all of you ladies to know that I will be praying for each of you. If it was not for my Lord I shutter to think of how I could walk this road. He has been with me every step of the way  and my faith has been strengthened beyond my wildest dreams.

I do feel His presents and know that John is with Him. God keeps His promises and if your husbands loved the Lord and believed in His son, Jesus Christ, then by the authority of His word, they are with Him in glory. But God also has many promises for us, while we are still here. I cling to those promises, I know He is with me and I know He desires to comfort, protect, and strengthen me as I continue on this journey.

This may sound crazy but I have received many blessings since John has gone home to be with his lord. To name a few; a peace that surpasses understanding, an ability to comfort those with the comfort I have received, amazing relationships of healing with so many friends and family, and there are many more.

Our husbands were precious gifts, a jewel; as we all are to those we love and those that love us. I believe that when God chooses to take a jewel from us he never leaves us empty handed. We are left with wonderful memories and hopefully beautiful markings that the loved one imprinted on our lives. I know that I am a better daughter, mother, wife and friend because of John and the person he was and in many ways still is, in my life. I also believe that when God takes a jewel away he gives us many gifts in return. These gifts are not meant to replace but to comfort and provide hope and healing. An understanding from within that God loves us, we are precious to Him and He does feel our pain and longs to touch us with His comfort. I have come to realize that there is a condition to this whole gift giving thing, you can only receive gifts when you lift your hands open, up to God in total worship of Him through recognizing who He is. He is God, creator of heaven and earth and all that dwells in it, He is almighty, all loving, and all powerful, and sovereign. His ways are not our ways, but everything He chooses to do is right and even comes together for good, for those who love Him. I believe that so many people choose to shake their fists at God in anger and by doing so can not receive the many good things He wants to give them to help them through these difficult times. I know God is big enough to take our anger, and there is nothing wrong with expressing it, He knows we do not understand. But even with fist clenched we can go before Him and ask for His comfort and even help with acceptance. He is faithful, and I believe He delivers.

Comment by srr728 on January 23, 2012 at 11:26pm

I agree about God, we were both raised Catholic and while we didnt attend mass,  we were very spiritual. we both prayed and talked to God a lot. my faith has saved me so far. Knowing that he is ok and happy is the only thing that makes me feel better sometimes.  Im reading books about spirits and heaven and i just want to know hes ok for sure, Im a control freak. I HAVE to know ;)

Comment by Joe's Jenn on January 22, 2012 at 4:59pm

Hi Suddenlyalone, I am sorry for your loss.  I am happy that you have your faith to help you through this awful time.  It really difficult!  

Comment by suddenlyalone on January 20, 2012 at 11:28pm

Hi everyone I was born in 74 but my husband was born in 1960.  I lost him to a sudden heart attack in Nov. 2011.  April 6, would have been our 10th wedding anniversary.  We also have a 2 year old.  It has been so difficult to go through but my faith in God has been helping me through it. 

Comment by meme on January 16, 2012 at 2:51pm

The first dream I had was two days after the funeral. It was amazing and I really believe that it was a gift from God to reassure me that John was well and with Him. After that I felt like; OK, if I can just keep having dreams it would be like he is still in my life here. I would even pray that God would give me more dreams. I did have more, but nothing like the first, they were just dreams, some weird, some that left me feeling uneasy and even depressed. I finally came to a place were I prayed to not have anymore dreams. I needed to move on, forward.

I think in the very beginning I was trying to find coping skills or diversions from the reality of my circumstances. Then life seems to keep going on and I found myself with a need to go with it. I was not leaving him behind just moving on in my earthly journey. The way I see it, he is already at the final destination and I am still making my way on the path. for me, once I accepted this it felt like I took a leap forward in healing.

Comment by jules on January 15, 2012 at 1:32pm

I had a vivid dream 2 nights ago where Tony and I had a conversation.  I knew he was dead and so did he but we talked like he was alive.  Of course I interrupted him -  always did that and it always made him mad.  It was the first time I've had a dream where he was healthy (Tony battled Cancer for 3 years and had numerous procedures that caused disfigurement) and he was beautiful once again.  I found it so comforting. (but a wee bit freaky)

Anyone else out there have dreams like this?

Comment by kemunto on January 13, 2012 at 1:17am

Will love to join this group.   Sorry that we have meet thru painful losses.



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