Born in the 70s

Comment

Comment by onmyown yesterday

Hi Everyone!!

So sorry for your loss but you will find a lot of love and support here. Everyone cares and "gets it." Regarding young widow groups, you might want to try MeetUp groups. Others here have suggested and I am finding it to be helpful as well. Kind of an extension of this site. A lot of support and understanding to say this least. You can just do a search.

Welcome!!

Comment by Natalie yesterday

Hello Troy,

Welcome to our group.  I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of your wife.  Birthdays are particularly difficult.  I lost my husband David in March 2 weeks before his 45 birthday.  Hope you are able to find some comfort in this group, take care.

 

natalie

 

Comment by Troy37 yesterday

Hello everyone, I guess I just made it into this club being born on the 97th day of 1970.  I lost my wife, Karyn just over 6 months ago.  This past may 16th would have been her 40th birthday.  Anyway, I just wanted to introduce myself and say hello to everyone

Comment by Karen yesterday

Hi Jen. I was also looking for a young widow group in my area. I found two grief groups that have a mix of ages and losses. We still can all relate to common themes in dealing with loss. I found a young widow group on meetup.com. I haven't gone to any of their events yet but I'm sure they're a warm, supportive group. Ideally I wish our WV groups were local and in person. None of our stories are exactly alike, but our similarities make me feel less overwhelmed.

Comment by justjen yesterday

I know it's not exactly rational, but does anyone else get almost jealous when you hear/read about people who got to spend many years with their spouse/partner before they were widowed?  I hear people talk about their grandkids and retirement, and although I know it's still awful to lose your partner at any age, I feel sort of extra cheated that my husband was only 37, and (most of all) that my son only got to spend 3 years with him before he went into the hospital and never really left. 

Comment by justjen yesterday

Thank you all.  I'm very sorry that everyone here is dealing with such horrible tragedy.  Losing your spouse/partner so young seems like a hard thing for most people to truly understand--it's nice to have a place where people really do get what you're going through.  I am looking into some widow/widower groups locally, but they all are geared toward older people--has anyone else had a hard time finding a good fit in that way?

Comment by Tracy yesterday

I love the breath saying.  I lost John on Feb. 13.  I'm so lost.  I don't know how to do anything anymore, but I keep chugging through the days, trying to be the best mom I can be alone.  He took his own life, its like living in a nightmare and I will wake up one day.

Comment by Timetoheal on Thursday

Welcome JustJen. Its a group you want no part of but its a great plsce to be with what you sre going through. My sister in law found this on a blog to support me with my grief. I read it every day and thank her dearly for sending it to me when I needed it. 2 months. It seems like yesterday and an eternity that he's been gone. Hugs to all!
Breathe.

Whatever you are doing right now.

Take a deep breath, then another.

You are so beautiful.

Has anyone told you that lately?

And there’s something more important.

You’re strong.

Sometime it feels like you’re not.

Maybe even most of the time.

But please don’t ever forget.

You’re stronger than you know.

Every day you wake up. No matter what. No matter what you’ve gone through, you wake up in the morning.

Take a second and appreciate that.

After all these days, you still have hope.

Maybe it’s buried inside you.

Maybe that sounds ridiculous.

But you keep going every goddamn day.

And that makes you incredible.

But breathe today, breathe right now.

Sometimes things are too much.

And I want you to know that’s okay.

There will be times when you want to break down and cry, times when you want to fall asleep and never, ever wake up again.

That doesn’t make you weak.

It makes you human.

And that’s beautiful too.

After all that you’ve been through, you can still feel.

Never underestimate that.

Because you know what that means?

There’s hope.

It means that you’ll feel love and happiness.

It means you’ll feel pride and joy.

It means you’re still alive, but more than that, it means you’re still living.

Stay strong.

Stay beautiful.

Never stop feeling.

But sometimes, just breathe.

Comment by MsA on Thursday

Hi JustJen,

There's really no right or wrong way to get through this.  Just know that you are not alone.  Pour it out here if you have to.  My husband passed 6 months ago and it still feels strange to not have him around.  Many days I was wishing so hard that this is all just a nightmare.  All the love to you!

Comment by treefrog on Thursday

Hello JustJen,

You are welcome here. One day at a time is very good. Sometimes it's one hour - sometimes one minute. It's whatever you need.

• ‹ Previous
• 1
• 2
• 3
• …
• 28
• Next ›
• Page