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Comment by Sophia on March 12, 2017 at 8:49pm
It's been 42 days since my husband passed away. My heart hurts, it's broken. All I have are regrets and pain.
Comment by Heavyheart on February 28, 2017 at 11:02am
Hi all,
I've been reading many of your stories and am so saddened yet find a little solace in knowing I'm not alone on this journey. My story is fresh and so raw still. I lost my best friend and partner John ultimately on February 6th but didnt find out until February 9th that he was gone. John and I had been together for 10 months and were in the process of talking about getting engaged and making future plans. His death was sudden and so unexpected, ultimately an accident from a fall while he was on vacation (that I was unable to go with him on). It is all too much to comprehend at 32. I feel so lost and sad and worried about a future without him. Mostly I just ache for him...and keep expecting a call that he is waiting for me to pick him up at the airport. My family and friends have been so kind and supportive but nothing dulls the ache
Comment by BabushkaD (Debbie) on February 26, 2017 at 6:24pm

Hi Sophia,

   I am so sorry for your loss. You have lost your other half, and rebuilding a life without him is a task you never would have imagined. I lost my husband October 30, 2016. His birthday is in March as well. Prepare yourself for that day and the days around it, as it helps to have a plan for how you will get through them. I am preaching to myself as well. Sleep is a challenge for me. The anxiety hits once I try to close my eyes. I have to pop them right back open to avoid the images that cause me grief, but I've heard that can reinforce them too. I don't know how to just be. I will be talking to my therapist about this. I hope you will find good support on this site. There are so many others who have been where you are, or are right at this second where you are, who struggle with similar struggles, who can help you through, or at least commisserate with you. You are in the right place.


Comment by Sophia on February 26, 2017 at 5:21pm
Hi, I'm new to site. I lost my 28 days ago today. He was 33,would have been 34 March 5. I feel like I have lost my right arm. Sleep has become my enemy,the pain never stops.
Comment by BabushkaD (Debbie) on February 12, 2017 at 2:52pm

Hi Rachel,

   I am so sorry to hear about your fiance. I am glad you have found this website. It is a great support, whether you are chatting with someone during the day or searching for others with common experience in the middle of the night.
   What will probably keep you going right now is your son. You are at a murky place in the journey of loss. The shock of losing your fiance is wearing off, and his loss is hitting you in a new way, hence the depth of your depression. I lost my husband 3 1/2 months ago, and I can only recognize it because I've been going through it myself. There are ebbs and flows in this journey, and they are different for everyone.
    If you have anyone to rely on nearby, please do reach out to them. But know this group is always here. And we know what you're going through. We're in the throes of it ourselves. That doesn't mean we're going to be down all the time. Everyone here is at different places in their journey. Hope you find the support you need here. -Debbie

Comment by Rachel on February 12, 2017 at 12:35pm
I am 29 and my 36 year old fiancé, and the father to my 1 year old son, passed away suddenly on January 7th. The cause of deAth is unknown. We will probably never know. We were going to get married on June 2nd. We bought our first house last may. He was renovating it himself.
Comment by Rachel on February 12, 2017 at 12:31pm
I am new here. Trying to figure out what to do to not sink into a deep depression that there is no coming back from.
Comment by Misty on February 6, 2017 at 9:28am

I know this is horrible but knowing that there are people my age here helps.I wasn't married for 30 or 40 years help some but as much I I wish this hardened happens to you I pray we can support and encourage each other.

Comment by ForEm on February 6, 2017 at 7:01am

Hi Misty, I don't post here much, I'm more of a wallflower, and check here infrequently for commiseration, and to get the sense that I'm not alone, but your story resonated with me. I lost my wife very suddenly, and this weekend will mark three years. It has taken an ugly toll, I had hoped that things would start to get better before this point, but have since given up on that hope, and am finally trying to force my life back into order for a future that's uncertain at best. There's support to be found here, seeing that I'm not alone in this unmatched tragedy gives me a melancholic comfort sometimes.  

Comment by Misty on February 5, 2017 at 11:20pm

My husband of 10 years dies suddenly while driving. I'm not ashamed to admit that the first three years following his death took a major toll on me my young children and my parents. I suffered from a complete nervous and mental breakdown and suffer from bi polar disorder. I could go on about how I still feel him behind me or that I would give all I have for just one more hug but I know that you all know how I feel (which is a first for me). Is it pathetic to say that I am so lonely for friendship it hurts to my bones. I seem to run people off because they don't know how to act around me. I know this isn't a great introduction so I'll say Hi, my name is Misty and I was widowed 4 days before I turned 30. I have two beautiful children, a girl Nena who is almost 13 and my son Elijah who is almost 11. They are my only reason for living but I pray with support they won't have to carry that burden much longer. Thanks for listening. Misty


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