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Comment by Thabi 3 hours ago
hi everyone, I am also new here. I lost my husband on the 10th of July 2014 in a car accident. we had 2 boys, 9 and 5 years old. I too feel sad that my husband is not here to raise the boys the way he had always wanted to. Nothing ever prepares you for loosing your husband, or for helping your children mourn for their father. They say it will get easier with time.... I hope it will....
Comment by theac1 on Friday

@Kiki8

I'm new here. I'm 27 and my husband passed on July 30, 2014. I had just given birth to our first son a week prior to my husband's death. I also have a 2 year old (daddy's girl). One of the hardest things to grasp through this is knowing that my children will not have their daddy to show them and teach them everything he wanted to. My husband's life was taken on a motorcycle after a lady failed to stop at a stop sign. I'm so sorry what has happened to Chris. Your story touches me because you think mostly of your daughter and that's how I feel. I hate knowing they will never get to know the TJ that I knew.

Comment by Kiki8 on Friday

It's been quite awhile since I have been here and posted... life with a 2 year old has kept me very busy.  It has been 2 years 2 months and 18 days since my fiance Chris was killed in a work accident.  I think about him 24/7... I miss everything about him and our life together.  I see so much of him in our daughter which is bittersweet in many ways but I am so thankful for her.  I hope you all are doing ok... my days have gotten easier to get through but that emptiness still remains in my heart.

Comment by CaseyLea7 on August 25, 2014 at 1:30pm

Kaitlin,

Make sure to save any voice messages and text messages.  Sometimes I read them or listen to them for comfort.  I know it's hard, no way around it.  Hugs to you.

Comment by kaitlin1983 on August 19, 2014 at 7:02pm

I lost my husband 14 months ago to brain cancer. He was 30 yrs old. So thankful I have our daughter who is 4 yrs old. I miss him so much and have kept his cell phone on this whole time. Just wanting others input on shutting off his phone. It is such a hard decision.

Comment by CrazyWidow on August 19, 2014 at 2:13pm

Local support groups never did me much good.  Same thing as all of you - most of them were my parents or grandparents age and we were in such different stages of life.  I felt jealous that they had all those years together that Kevin and I did not.

Hugs to you Jwdnl on your 8 months.  That's tough.

Comment by CrazyWidow on August 19, 2014 at 1:58pm

Foreverandever I understand where you come from-my husband too had a very rare cancer-Angiosarcoma.  We had no children but watching him pass away slowly, yet quickly, from that cancer was devastating.  It took me a lot of therapy to get those traumatic memories to fade.  Hugs to you as you make this journey without him.

Comment by jwdnl33 on August 10, 2014 at 7:52pm

It will be 8 months this week since I lost my loving wife... I still feel lost at times but have been doing all that I can to continue on, set goals, drive forward putting one foot in front of the other. I moved into a new place last month and this has by far been one of the most challenging tasks since losing Adrienne. All of our life, that I boxed up and put into storage about 10 months ago prior to Adrienne and I moving in with her parents, was all now be opened and pulled from boxes. There are many that I closed back up and just cant deal with yet.... I am grateful for the home, Just trying to make it feel like home without my wife beside me to help every step of the way. Love and prayers to you all throughout all of the different walks, struggles and paths you may be going down. Jesus Calling is an amazing daily devotional that I use now. Have a blessed day.

Comment by CaseyLea7 on August 2, 2014 at 8:57am

Foreverandever,

Yes, sometimes it feels lonely even within the widow community.  I go to a young widow support group where everyone is still 10-20 years older than me.  They don't have toddlers to raise, their children are self-sufficient.  Luckily there are sites like here where you can meet people who really are dealing with similar things as you.  I haven't reach the stage yet, but there will be a time when I have to explain to my daughter what happened and why her life is different, re-live it again.  

There better be some good things in store for us - those that have nursed their dying husbands, struggled with their death, all the while carrying for a young child.  Hugs to you and here if you need a friend.

Comment by Foreverandever on August 2, 2014 at 2:56am
CaseyLea7 it sounds like you and I have a lot in common. Like you, he was also my first love and only love really. I never expected to be a widow at the age of thirty, but then again who does? It seems like nobody really understands what I'm going through. I try to be strong, but lately it's just been hard. Over the last three months my daughter has become very inquisitive and keeps asking why her daddy got sick and why he isn't here when other dads are...it just breaks my heart and stirs up so many emotions.
 

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