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Comment by Angelcas528 on December 8, 2014 at 2:40pm
Hello, my name is Cassandra. I am 26, I was 23 when my husband passed away on July 20,2012. He was celebrating his 27th birthday with some friends when he was murdered. We were about to celebrate our first anniversary as a married couple, but we had been together for five years.
Comment by neeners04 on December 4, 2014 at 10:22pm

Hi there.  My name is Nikki.  I'm 28 years old, and my husband, Steve, committed suicide on November 13th.  We had been married for 10.5 years, and have two children together.  Maybe I am being too open for an introduction, but here goes:  He didn't do it because he was unhappy or depressed.  It would have been easier for me to handle if that was the reason.  His reason for committing suicide was because he had been doing some things that would have caused him to go to jail and never see his children again.  I found out about it, told him to leave, and he left and killed himself.  The past four weeks have been emotionally excruciating for me.  I am glad to have found a group like this where there are people that understand what it's like to be a young widow.

Comment by Shelisjenkins (Tiffany) on December 4, 2014 at 8:44am

I guess I should introduce myself. My name is Tiffany, I am 29 years old, and 20 days ago I lost my soul mate in a violent car accident, in walking distance from our home.. 

Comment by LearnToDanceInTheRain on November 5, 2014 at 1:47pm

There are too many husbands named Chris dying from cancer, if you ask me.  My husband (also Chris) died in August after 5.5 years fighting advanced cancer. He was 49.

Comment by 7greatyears on October 17, 2014 at 11:25pm

Thanks CaseyLea - I've emailed you!

Comment by CaseyLea7 on October 17, 2014 at 11:08pm

Wow, 6 years, that must have been an emotionally exhausting journey.  Even under control, cancer treatments take their toll.  He was lucky to have you by his side.

My Chris was sick for 13 months, but the last 3 months were the worst for us.  His was very advanced at diagnosis, so we knew what we were dealing with to some degree, but still wasn't ready for that with a 32 year old husband.

For me at the end there was an odd sense of relief of the constant stress, caring for and worrying about how he was doing mixed with painful loneliness in missing my best friend.  Wish I could give you advice on what has made it easier, but I don't have anything profound.

I assume you were married for seven years?  So sorry you missed out the decades you deserved.  My email is kcwickham7@yahoo.com if you need a friend or someone to listen.

Comment by 7greatyears on October 17, 2014 at 10:39pm

My husband's name is Chris too. He had cancer for 6 years but it was always very manageable. Earlier this year it got into his brain and treatment just stopped working so the past 6 months were intense. I feel very lonely. I have a lot of support but I feel like nobody gets it...but how would they, right?
How long was your Chris sick for?

Comment by CaseyLea7 on October 17, 2014 at 10:00pm

I lost Chris to cancer 4 months ago.  I have personally found that people have trouble with how to be supportive or how to handle a loss of someone young and can be lonely.  If you ever feel that way, feel free to reach out.

How long was your husband sick?  How are you doing?

Comment by 7greatyears on October 17, 2014 at 9:33pm

Thanks CaseyLea7 - you as well. How long ago did your husband pass away?

Comment by CaseyLea7 on October 17, 2014 at 9:29pm
Thinking of you 7great years. My husband was 32. Wish you didn't have to suffer this kind of loss.

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