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Born in the 80s

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Comment by CrazyWidow on July 17, 2014 at 4:06pm

Casey - the thing that helped me heal?  Time and this amazing support system here with Widowed Village, at Camp Widow (campwidow.org) and also an amazing family.  My friends kept me busy, my family loved me through it all, and the widows stepped up with empathy and knowledge.

Comment by CrazyWidow on July 17, 2014 at 4:03pm

Welcome Peach - I'm sad you're here but so glad you found us.  Interestingly enough, I accidentally first typed your name Peace..I hope that's a good vibe for you tonight.

Comment by klcmuse on July 11, 2014 at 12:34pm

 

Peach and MissHim11

So sorry for your losses. It's all so hard to reconcile. My husband died suddenly of cardiac arrest at 29 on 3/20/13 (hypertensive cardiovascular disease, an enlarged heart and other minor contributing factors/valve abnormalities). We thought he was in good health but, you guys know how that goes. I had turned 29 five days earlier. We had no children but lots of plans and hopes for our future like everyone on this site. Would also love to connect. I loathe we all have to be here but it is comforting knowing there are people out there that get it and like I’m less alone.

Comment by MissHIm11 on July 10, 2014 at 8:14am

His Peach, 

So sad for the reason you need us but happy to be here for you! My husband was also 29 when he died from Sudden Cardiac Death as a result of cardiomegaly. I am also a nurse and would love to connect. Sending you a friend request now. Hugs to you.  

Comment by His Peach on July 10, 2014 at 5:47am

This is my first night on Widowed Village and I'd like to introduce myself.  In January at age 27, I unexpectedly lost my perfectly perfect 29 year old husband.  I am lucky to have a local support group for young widows that I attend regularly, but I was hoping to find more people to relate to.

Anyone else out there a nurse, or in the medical field?  Childless but was trying to conceive?  Toying with the idea of AI or adoption?  Lose a spouse to sudden cardiac death/cardiomegaly/cardiomyopathy?

I'd love to make more connections if anyone wants to talk.

Comment by MissHIm11 on July 6, 2014 at 10:26pm

CaseyLea, 

I was widowed 3.5 years ago with a baby 13 months old and 6 months pregnant. My source of strength was individual counseling and this website. I created connections that got me through the worst of times. I also attended Camp Widow around 10 months out and feel that was amazing. I sent you a friend request though I am not on here often anymore. I'm here and would love to help you through. This journey is something none of us dreamed. <3 Love and hugs to you and your baby. 

Comment by Springwater762 on July 5, 2014 at 2:29pm

Hi CaseyLea7  I have found widows groups have helped a lot.  There is a grief share at my church that helped me process.  I moved Jasons things, boxed them up and kept only pictures out (which is alot for our 5 kids).  We celebrated fathers day by painting rocks, we are focusing on remembering and not forgetting.  It is hard sometimes, his birthday is coming up next week, and we are going camping, but we will do the whole bit cake and all.  Its good for my kids, I think anyway.  We cry, and mommy cries, and our saying is, its OK to cry, it means we loved him.  We laugh a lot too.  I have one baby under a year, we are compliting stories for her to learn about her daddy as she grows, this is especially important to my older kids who are affraid she will never know him (and they are right to be affraid, so we are being pro-active). Get online, meetups.com has all sorts of groups, i found a local one in my area for widows with young children.  I'm so sorry we have what we do in common.  Praying for you and your baby. 

Comment by CaseyLea7 on July 5, 2014 at 12:01pm
I am new to the website and fresh off my loss. Question - what are the main things that helped you heal - therapy, friends, getting back to work etc? Did it help to remove loved ones personal things or to keep them around for comfort? I am 31 with a baby under a year and am finding few resources for people out age.
Comment by ForEm on May 13, 2014 at 12:51pm

I feel like that all the time. It sucks feeling like your one real shot at happiness is gone so early, and that you got it so briefly. I lost my wife after just under two years of marriage. We had three years of dating before that. It's strange that I can barely remember what my life was like without her, and I'm slowly starting to feel like I can remember what my life was like with her. I wish I had been more interested in pictures and videos while she was alive, so I could have had more to help me remember, but as it stands I have to force myself to remember her alive and vibrant, instead of how she was the day she died. It helps, and it makes me feel good to know that I still have those memories. Usually I think about a trip that we took, or our first date, or when we met. That way I can keep hold of those good memories, and confirm that it really happened, and that she was really a part of my life. It just isn't what life is right now, and hopefully what it is right now doesn't stay for long.

Comment by TracyB on May 13, 2014 at 11:47am

Hi, I was born in 79 but feel more connected to the threads here than the born in the 70's. B and I were married for a year and a few months before he died. We got engaged and married pretty quickly after meeting. I had many relationships in the past where I compromised myself and what I wanted out of life. Everything made sense with him. I just don't understand after waiting and hoping for someone to fit perfectly...they are taken away just as quickly. It seems like a cruel and unusual punishment. A feeling I'm sure we can all relate to. It's very difficult being young and widowed. Most of the time I feel like my life is over, my one chance for real happiness has passed me by. It's just over 6 months for me. I wish I had more memories, more pictures, more evidence of that part of my life. Lately I feel like it never happened, all that happiness. I feel like I've been here in this "afterlife" forever and that other life was all a dream. Does anyone else ever feel like this?

 

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