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Comment by Katie on May 9, 2019 at 9:33pm

Hi, my name is Katie,

I lost my husband in December 2018 suddenly from a medical condition, I'm 37 and we have a daughter together who is 12, we were highschool sweethearts, would like to connect with others in similar situation dealing with grief.

Comment by BabushkaD (Debbie) on March 8, 2019 at 12:15pm

Laura, I wanted to say I am sorry and offer my support. I struggle with anxiety too, enhanced after loss, and can't imagine how hard it is to think about giving birth and raising your child without your husband. I hope that your MIL is supportive and that will be a helpful relationship. This is not the most active place, so I often point people who need more connection to Facebook if they use the platform. My favorite group on there is SUPPORT GROUP: Young, Widowed, & Dating, which is named after the founder's blog and is for younger widowed people to discuss any aspect of grief and life, from the rough and raw to remarriage. Hope you find your tribe, wherever it may be.


Comment by laurawc on February 16, 2019 at 2:36pm

Hi! I am Laura and I am 34 years old and my husband passed away on November 25th from respiratory failure. He had struggled with asthma is whole life, but his death was very unexpected. I am 7 months pregnant with our first child and it has been challenging. I am very prone to anxiety and he was really my rock. I am starting to get more nervous now that I am in my third trimester and grieving all that the same time. I live in Los Angeles and recently moved back in with my mother-in-law so I don't have to be alone when the baby comes. 

I look forward to getting to know you better and really looking forward to hearing other people's stories. 

Comment by Mandie on January 10, 2019 at 11:37pm

Thank you @purplewidow that is very helpful. I’ve just requested to join  :)

Comment by purplewidow on January 10, 2019 at 12:41pm

@mandie I lost my husband around 3.5 yrs ago from cancer too. In Melbourne, there's a facebook group called WWSG. We meet regularly and very supportive bunch of people. 

For others in Australia, look up Young Widows and Widowers Australia group. 

Comment by Mandie on January 10, 2019 at 11:04am

Hi I’m Amanda, I’m new here. I’m 34 years old, from New Zealand but living in Melbourne Australia. My husband Steve passed away from a melanoma cancer 3.5years ago. We were together 5 years and married for 1 year. It was lovely being able to share our 1st anniversary together. But it’s hard as our lives were only just starting out. We had bought a home and wanted to have a family. We did the sperm freezing thing too in the hope of being able to do this when he got better, but he never did. I’m in Melbourne now as I felt being in a new city would help me. Looking to reach out to other women in the same boat and here seems to be the place! @jesigirl87 and @amhjm85.

Comment by Igotthis on December 7, 2018 at 1:22am

HI everyone,

I'm Becky, a thirty eight year old widow.  My husband passed November 16, 2017 for ten months we didn't know what happened just he dropped dead.  A very fit and health firefighter how dos that happen right.  Turns out it was a cardiac arrhythmia, they found a gene which may or may not have played a roll in his death.   I have two young girls with will start their testing in March.  Its been just over a year, not a good year but we made it threw and then just November 18, 2018 two days after the one year a really good friend of mine and was Chris' brother at the fire hall passed away.  He has PTSD, his funeral was one day after Chris' last year.  Devastating loss not only for his family, myself but the firehall too. It brought back so may memories and this grief journey is different but still dealing with the first one.  

Comment by jesigirl87 on December 6, 2018 at 9:19pm

Hi everyone 

My name is Jess. I’m 31 years old and was widowed on September 28, 2018. It was around this time last year we found out my husband Tony had kidney cancer and not even a year later he was gone. I am a cancer survivor myself and am lucky enough to have won my battle after 3 months of grueling radiation treatment at the beginning of last year. We didn’t have any children yet - we had my eggs frozen just before I started radiation as I knew it would put me into early menopause. And unfortunately cannot have children yet until I find a surrogate and save up the money to do so. So at the moment just have two cats to keep me sane.  I’m hoping to connect with someone to help me through this awful journey I now have to do on my own. Maybe even another Aussie or young person who understands how hard it is to be widowed and childless. I already have endless friends and family making suggestions that “you’ll meet someone else cause your young” or “you can always adopt or foster”.....

Thanks for listening and hope to get to know you all soon. 

Comment by Amhjm85 on November 23, 2018 at 8:30pm

Hi Everyone,

I am newly widowed. My husband passed away from cancer a month ago. I live in Australia and I'd love to be connected to Australians who are in the same situation. I am 32 and childless (though tried multiple cycles of IVF, with no success).

My mind is a jumble of thoughts and emotions and i'd love to talk with people about it.

Comment by BabushkaD (Debbie) on November 21, 2018 at 6:26am

I've had a lot change in the last 6 weeks, but thought I'd add for new people that there are very active groups on Facebook for people who don't fit as well into the discussions here. One is called Support Group: Young, Widowed and Dating (even though many of the people are in no way looking to date-it's named after the founders blog). 

One thing I have learned is that there is commonality among any loss. We all had too short of a time, whether we didn't make it to our wedding day, had 2 years, 20, or 70. You will learn here, but for times you need more immediate support, Facebook is a good place to look. I also connect with people there. I passed my 2nd year without Shane, and have now been his widow longer than his wife. This will be my third Thanksgiving without him, and my grief is much more about next steps and doing life whether or not I have another partner, knowing I want one, but also acknowledging the early ways I looked for one was not  necessarily healthy or helpful for finding someone long-term or giving my whole heart to the process. I am moving forward, not leaving Shane behind, because he is always a part of me and my future. I am marching forward into what is next. 


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