Widowed Village

A community of peers created by the Soaring Spirits Loss Foundation


Long-term illness

For those widowed by cancer AND other illnesses or long term conditions that required caregiving.

We now also have a "Long Term Illness" discussion forum in the PERENNIAL main forum. Questions? Widville@gmail.com

Members: 619
Latest Activity: 6 hours ago

Group greeters

Dianne in Nevada and Celestia have agreed to greet and coordinate for this group! Thank you, ladies!

Discussion Forum

I'm Lost

Started by MickeysLove. Last reply by my roses Dec 9. 19 Replies

So, 4 days ago marked the 2 month period.  I had joined a support "group" where you go and sit with other people and talk about whats bothering you. I had went 2 times, I'm not going anymore - I…Continue

Looking to Put Together Resources for soon-to-be-widowed

Started by Mozzie. Last reply by MickeysLove Dec 3. 32 Replies

I found being the spouse of a terminal person very frustrating.  We were getting care at a prominent hospital, and there were social workers, but I didn't feel like anyone ever gave me useful…Continue

Grief and release at the same time?

Started by Germaine. Last reply by Vettegirl Oct 18. 29 Replies

I am aware of two different forces acting from within me.  One is the downward weight of grief. The other is an upward energy that comes from the release from caregiving.  After 16 years of part time…Continue

Anyone ever have a sense of peace?

Started by Timetoheal. Last reply by Juls Sep 17. 38 Replies

Has anyone been doing normal chores or random things around the house and had a feeling of calm or peace come over them? As if your loved one is standing there with you or just brushing by you to let…Continue

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Comment by booktime (Susan) 6 hours ago

Jocelyn, I'm glad you had a good bday! I turned 60 last February and was determined to have a good time. My siblings came for a long weekend and we went skiing and snowshoeing. We ate out. We saw family slides. We laughed. I was so glad they were there for me. So my 60th was good too. This was a hard one, wasn't it? i never imagined I would not have Ed at my side as I turned 60.

I don't know what I'll do for my 61st! but somehow it isn't as difficult.

Hope the days ahead can be wonderful for you. Hugs.

Comment by alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) 16 hours ago
Dear friends. In spite of my being a curmudgeon yesterday, I had a very nice bday today! My BFF, my daughter and I went to lunch together. Then, when my son got home, his GF came over, and we decorated the tree (finally), watched some old home videos which filled my heart with joy at hearing my husband's voice and seeing his sweet face, and then went to see some fabulous holiday lights. Just a wonderful day. Thanks for your good wishes!
Comment by wildflower yesterday

Jocelyn enjoy the lights at Longwood Gardens.  I was there earlier this week and they are beautiful.  I will pour a glass of wine and toast to you and hope you

find peace in your heart.  Hugs.

Comment by Steve yesterday

oops computer messed up and posted my message early.  You have helped me so muc with your messages an replies and I so appreciate you and everybody here.  I couldn't have made it with out you. 

I know it isn't, but I still want to wish you a happy bday and hope you find a way to find some peace, warmth and something funny today. 

Take care

Comment by Steve yesterday

Jocelyn, I saw your message yesterday and my heart went out to you, but I couldn't reply I was out back to back appts yesterday and had to rush home and get showered and had plans last night that turned oout into early morning this morning.  Special days just hurt and suck for us right now. Even though I have a new relationship right now, this season is still proving to be a challenge for me too. I just miss Mike so much still at times, and my old life. 

Please know Im thinking about you today, and although its rough on you, Im thinking about you today. 

Im so glad you are here

Comment by alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) yesterday
Dear Friends. I'm the kind of mom who nearly always does what the "kids" want to do. Had a plan to go away for the weekend, but my almost daughter couldn't come, so we're staying home. Told them I wanted to do something Christmas related, so I believe we're going to see the incredible lights at Longwood Gardens tonight. Can't wait! :)
Comment by alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) yesterday

And, no worries, if I decide to drink a glass or two of wine, it will be in my bed!

Comment by alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) yesterday
To my dear, sweet WV friends. I knew you guys would get it. None of my "normal" (aka not widowed, LOL) family/friends have a clue how I'm NOT looking forward to my bday this year. Just FYI, I don't normally drink. However, I may need a bit of a crutch tomorrow. Thank you all for understanding and your very kind words.
Comment by Mford4 (Marlene) yesterday

Jocelyn,  Sorry you are not feeling to well right now.  Understand it completely.  This is hard.  Nothing more can be said except that it sucks!  Hugs to you.

Comment by goingon (Cynthia) yesterday

Jocelyn -

I will hold you in my heart tomorrow, and wishing you peace.  I know what you mean.  Birthdays, anniversaries, holidays - it's all so hard. Don died Nov. 12, 2010.  His dad died two weeks later, on Thanksgiving.  I lost my little dog 6 months later; my dad got sick in Dec. 2011 and died in January in 2012.  And it just all sucks.  My mom will be 90 next month and has Alzheimer's and it's like losing her a little bit by bit; it's torture to watch.  She asked me to help her end her life; I can't.  I'd want the same thing, but I just can't.  If I had the right drugs, maybe I could, but I don't and I wouldn't want to try and have her end up worse than she is.  But if it were me,  please, just take me out back and shoot me.  But I know this will be a difficult day for you, and yes, you can drink as much of whatever you want, and like Cristina said, just no driving!  Hugs. 


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