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Long-Term Illness

For those widowed by cancer and other illnesses or long term conditions that required caregiving.

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Members: 749
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Neurodegenerative disease MSA anyone else?

Started by LP. Last reply by riet Jun 2. 6 Replies

my husband died in Feb’18 of a rare condition called Multiple System Atrophy, a form of Parkinsonism, for which there is no treatment. He gradually lost all ability to move, speak, swallow, blink and…Continue

Not like the Movies

Started by Snow. Last reply by riet May 21. 9 Replies

In 15 minutes I will have passed my third day of being a widow. I have been bracing myself for this pain for 10 years, when my beautiful husband of 26 years was first diagnosed with advanced…Continue

how to handle life now

Started by nayajivan. Last reply by Mamitha May 11. 3 Replies

Hi,I have lost my wife Archana on 12th March 2018.19 years of Marriage..2 beautiful and lovely sons - 17 and 14 years..15 years of battle against 2 deadly diseases - Kidney Failure and AIHA...9 Years…Continue

Tags: sons, marriage, AIHA, dialysis, failure

Unexpected Emotions

Started by Snow. Last reply by Linda C Mar 3. 10 Replies

I had braced myself for the grief of loss, unbearable loneliness, some other things too awful to write about, but I'm also starting to feel quite hurt and let down by some people. Is this normal?…Continue

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Comment by Jenn on January 21, 2011 at 11:18pm
@Peter: Let's get those numbers up! ha ha ha
actually, if it's a competition, then we are the ones 'winning'.
Comment by A Widowed Father on January 21, 2011 at 8:39am
The "suddenly widowed" group is up to 22 members and we only have 7, looks like we need to do some recruitment and get some more LTI widows to join the site. :)
Comment by DaFrov on January 20, 2011 at 9:48am
Carl had ALS for a bit over four years.  I knew it was terminal but can still remember thinking the night he died "not today!"
Comment by Jenn on January 17, 2011 at 2:30am

Hi everyone, nice to meet you all.

 

I pretty much hated it too. I didn't even realize for a long time that was what I was even doing. I would say most of where my guilt comes from would be during this period. I was not good at it and didn't want to be. I was also taking care of a newborn. So there was some resentment towards Joost that he wasn't pulling his weight even though his weight was dropping considerably. you know? hard to explain. let's say it took a long time to change my expectations of him. 

 

 

Comment by Robinmo on January 16, 2011 at 5:44pm

I HATED CAREGIVING, though I loved my husband.

Every time I revisit this long period of pain (not that long compared to Silly WW's!) and the damage it did to my mind and soul and to our relationship... I find tremendous hurt and room for healing.

Every time I write about it, I think people will hate me for sharing the ugliness... and I usually get the most loving responses. An area in which I apparently don't at all see myself the way the world sees me. And sharing with others who had extended caregiving experiences is so, so helpful.

Comment by A Widowed Father on January 14, 2011 at 7:26am
I'd say that makes sense now, and is a good start to group us together.  As the numbers here grow into the hundreds and thousands I could even see breaking it down further into "Illness with less than 6 months from diagnosis to death." and then like 6mos.-2yrs, 2+yrs. but obviously that wouldn't be necessary until we were in the hundreds here in this group.

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Comment by Soaring Spirits on January 14, 2011 at 7:10am

Eh, crap, sorry Peter. I'll clarify the group description. My intention (however badly stated) was to put cancer WITH long term illnesses. I know not all cancers are long term, and not all illnesses will fit, but while the community is small, I didn't want to have (say) 20 cancer people in one room and one person for lupus, diabetes, degenerative diseases, each in a room all by themselves.

 

Really sorry for the confusion, thanks for letting me know of it!

Comment by A Widowed Father on January 14, 2011 at 6:04am
Now I'm confused, is this group for all long term illnesses, or just folks who lost someone due to a long term illness other than a type of cancer?
Comment by Robinmo on January 5, 2011 at 7:33am
I've noticed that in many social situations, the cancer folks cluster into a big group, while others who had losses due to degenerative diseases or autoimmune issues can't find each other because they are too few. So I created this group! (We can create lots more once the network is bigger). LMK what you think!
 

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