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Military Families

Was your loved one a member of the military?  This group helps you connect to other military families in Widville. 

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Members: 103
Latest Activity: Jul 9

Discussion Forum

Anybody out there need advice about TSP beneficiary account

Started by Soraya Jun 16. 0 Replies

My husband was a disabled veteran die from Covid19 on April 2020. I’m lost with everything not coping well Continue

What kind of feelings from Arlington National Cemetery service?

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Navywife0219 Sep 5, 2018. 5 Replies

On Feb 28 Wed, I, family and about 2 dozen friends, will go to ANC for the final resting place of my husband Marty. It will be exactly 6 months that he died unexpectedly, suddenly. One of my local…Continue

ANC service on Feb 28 was beyond words

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by InsideLove Mar 10, 2018. 2 Replies

Marty’s Arlington National Cemetery service exceeds words, just as my grief for my missing him every day no words seem to be enough.We had 40+ family and friends in attendance. I hired a photographer…Continue

Social Security from military member

Started by Crazy Monica. Last reply by offthewall Feb 2, 2016. 3 Replies

Hello, I'm new here and have alot of questions. One of my biggest is, because I'm in I'll health, but wasn't old enough when my husband passed, did I lose any chance of getting even just a part of…Continue

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Comment by brokeninsd219 on July 9, 2020 at 5:30pm

Hello All,
My husband was active duty Navy and passed on 6/23/2020 so I am a new widow and still feeling the shock of it all. I found that chatting online with other widows and widowers has been helpful through this process which is how I found this site. As a widow at age 38, I’m not sure where life will take me but I know that this pain is nothing like I’ve ever experienced before. I’m not exactly sure what I’m here for but mostly just to talk and empathize with otherwise who share my experience of pain and loss.

I wish you all comfort through your ordeal and thank you for allowing me to be part of this online community. 

Comment by Groundhog43 on May 27, 2020 at 1:47pm

I am  retired from the Coast Guard.

My first wife who passed in 1996 was in the Navy for 2 or 3 years.

Thanks for letting me join

Comment by lyn on April 19, 2018 at 2:54pm

For any interested, America's Run for the Fallen has started. It can be watched live or later, along with closing ceremonies.  Their web site is

It is "One of the most Comprehensive Fallen Military Tributes ever Compiled.  Blazing A Tribute Trail Across Our Nation Spanning 6,000 miles, over 19 States in 5 Months.  Individually Recognizing nearly 20,000 Fallen Service Members since the USS Cole.  April 7 - August 5, 2018  Fort Irwin, CA to Arlington National Cemetery"

Let's support their efforts to never forget.

Comment by lyn on February 14, 2018 at 5:29am


I am so sorry for your loss. If you haven't already, you might want to reach out to TAPS Give them a call at 800-959-TAPS. They are a wonderful resource for those of us who have had a loss of a loved one serving on AD.  They support all losses on AD, which is something I did not understand for several years.If you can go to a seminar or retreat, go. You will be surrounded by others who "get it" and specifically understand military loss. I totally get the feeling like he is just deployed.  My husband had only been home 10 days when he had an unexpected heart attack.  I was blessed to have had 26 years with him.  

I have found, for me, on those special days, like anniversaries, it helps if I have a plan to do something.  It can be something to honor my loved one, to go somewhere, or just to stay in jammies and numb my mind watching old movies.

Also, there is chat here and TAPS also offers chat. Sometimes, it helps to share with others what a rough day we are having.

Hugs Emily and I wish you peace.

Comment by AMA on February 13, 2018 at 9:15pm


I'm so sorry to hear your story.  You should have had so much more time together and it just doesn't make sense.  I am so glad that you have reached out. I cannot imagine that you have many, if any, peers that can relate to what your are going through.  While my situation is quite different (My husband passed away following 10 years of marriage and we have 3 children together) losing your husband is too much to deal with on your own.  I think that your denial of what happened seems perfectly normal.  Everyone grieves in a different way but we all grieve the loss of what could have/should have been.  

You should have had a 1st wedding anniversary.  But now you have to figure out what makes sense for you.  I always tell my girls (ages 10 and 12) to trust that little inner voice, that gut feeling you get when something feels right or wrong.  And I will tell you the same, you have to trust your instincts.  This is uncharted territory.  Do you have close friends or family that you can spend the day with? Maybe go somewhere that was special to the two of you?  Or even go to a spa and treat yourself to a day of pampering because I am sure your husband would have wanted you to take care of yourself.

Whatever you do just make sure you do it for yourself and nobody else.  You must be strong since you married a soldier!  We are all here to support you.


Comment by em.pio on February 13, 2018 at 11:56am

Hi, my name is Emily. My husband passed when he was 24 years old in a car accident June 10, 2017 on his way to work to report in for a detail... My husband was AD Army at the time of his death and he had been in the military for 2 years. This is my first time really posting in a group and I am not too sure what all to say. Most days it feels like he is just deployed and I am waiting for him to come home. None of this feels real and I hate every second of it. Our one year wedding anniversary is coming up in March and I'm not too sure how to focus or even make it through that day since we never got to celebrate our wedding anniversary or even our wedding. We had been married 3 months and 5 days before he passed away. 

If anyone has any tips or advise, I would love to hear from you. 


Comment by lyn on May 29, 2017 at 7:12am

Remembering......  Thinking of all who are serving, have served, and those who gave their life for our country.  Thank you.


Comment by underthefarmhouse on May 27, 2017 at 3:43am

Thank you for your service to all who are serving, have served, or are no longer with us. Memorial Day was very important to my husband, and it's always a tough day. I don't go to the parades anymore, I tried last year and had to leave before I started crying.  

Comment by underthefarmhouse on May 18, 2017 at 2:10am

Frank, thank you for your service, I know my husband always liked to hear that. He was a Viet Nam vet and they did not get a very nice welcome home. 

Comment by Frank on May 5, 2017 at 9:36pm


I stop by here frequently to see if there are any new posts and finding none move on.

I'm retired navy.



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