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Military Families

Was your loved one a member of the military?  This group helps you connect to other military families in Widville. 

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Discussion Forum

Anybody out there need advice about TSP beneficiary account

Started by Soraya Jun 16. 0 Replies

My husband was a disabled veteran die from Covid19 on April 2020. I’m lost with everything not coping well Continue

What kind of feelings from Arlington National Cemetery service?

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Navywife0219 Sep 5, 2018. 5 Replies

On Feb 28 Wed, I, family and about 2 dozen friends, will go to ANC for the final resting place of my husband Marty. It will be exactly 6 months that he died unexpectedly, suddenly. One of my local…Continue

ANC service on Feb 28 was beyond words

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by InsideLove Mar 10, 2018. 2 Replies

Marty’s Arlington National Cemetery service exceeds words, just as my grief for my missing him every day no words seem to be enough.We had 40+ family and friends in attendance. I hired a photographer…Continue

Social Security from military member

Started by Crazy Monica. Last reply by offthewall Feb 2, 2016. 3 Replies

Hello, I'm new here and have alot of questions. One of my biggest is, because I'm in I'll health, but wasn't old enough when my husband passed, did I lose any chance of getting even just a part of…Continue

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Comment by KitKat on October 27, 2011 at 6:09am
I am so very sorry for your loss mevinger. My hubby too died from what I believe to be many years of damage caused by some of his service duties over his 20 years. There are many great people here. Stop in whenever you need to chat. I am coming up on my 1 year mark in twelve days and his birthday is tomorrow. I'm in a strange place of grace and acceptance that I don't expect to last even 5 more minutes but I will take the blessing for as long as it lasts. The best analogy i have for grief is the that it is like the weather. Storms come and beautiful Days occur too. Durin stormsThe waves of grief are huge but just remember that waves pass, some are bigger than others, but the storms eventually stop and they are usually followed by a few beautiful days and you will be grateful to have survived the storm.
Comment by mscevinger on October 24, 2011 at 7:10pm
My husband is a US Marine and passed away a little more than 2 months ago.  He was injured on duty and was medically retired.  Unfortunately the damage done was so severe that he passed away from his injuries (years later).  His local  Marine friends have been amazing to my family though...better than our church even.  Now my children all want to be Marines.  I know my husband would be proud.
Comment by k. rides a harley on October 21, 2011 at 3:40pm
I found that my husband was also very low keyed when it came to talking about his awards etc. he just felt like he was just doing his job.
Comment by greg'swife on October 18, 2011 at 7:11am
Hi I am new to the group. Mu husband was already retired (medically) from the AF when we met.  He didn't talk much about his AF days but now that he is gone I am finding so many commendations and awards and things it amazes me that he kept this all so secret. Not sure if I really belong in this group but I wanted to stop by and see.
Comment by KitKat on August 9, 2011 at 10:30am
I am only at 9 months and Charles was a retiree that died from Lung Cancer. We have been out for 10 years when he died. But I've done the following:
--Kept his discharge papers, selected orders, and citations. I want the boys to be able to understand what he accomplished and what military life was like for him during his military career.
--I've kept his medical history folder from the military to be able to answer family medical history on his side God forbid I ever need to for the boys,
--Everything else is in a temporary storage container that I will decide wether or not to destroy much later...If I don't need it in the next couple of years, then I suppose I wont need it.
But this is coming from a girl who still has his side of the bathroom in tact. I'm having a hard time letting go of his toothbrush let alone documents that proved he was here.
Comment by k. rides a harley on August 8, 2011 at 4:16pm
a question for any of you, have any of you started going through the paperwork, manuals, orders etc? What have you done with them? What do think you will do with the paperwork? Would like to hear your ideas. thanks Kris
Comment by k. rides a harley on July 11, 2011 at 4:44pm
Today marks 8 months since Scott left, I spent the day boxing up most of his clothing and putting them into the closet.  I am not ready to give them up yet.  Another baby step forward I guess.
Comment by KristyAnn on July 5, 2011 at 9:19am
Hi Kris, I am almost to my 2nd year of my husband being gone.  My advice to you when the one year mark happens is CELEBRATE his life!  Thats what I did, I got a bunch of friends and family together we told stories about Ray and we got some balloons and wrote personal messages to Ray.  We called it Ray Day and the we were sending our love to him. When our anniversary came my son and I along with some good friends went to our favorite resturant. 
Comment by k. rides a harley on July 5, 2011 at 8:53am
Hi everyone, I thought I'd introduce myself. My name is Kris. I was married to my husband for 33 years. I have been "married " to the military all 33 years. In July 2011 our daughter got married and exactly 4 months later we were having my husband's funeral. Scott had a heart attack at a local Health club and died poolside ironic isn't it?? I saw him as he was getting ready to go and the next time I saw him was dead. I am dreading the one year mark, I am already making plans to be with my family out of town that weekend.
Comment by k. rides a harley on July 4, 2011 at 1:27pm
I have been widowed since Veteran's day 2010.  My question to any of you is I feel that the reality of this really hasn't hit me yet because he was deployed twice for a year each time so I am used to being on my own for a year.  I know on one level he is gone but am thinking I am still in a bit of denial because of the deployments.  Does this make sense to any of you?

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