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Military Families

Was your loved one a member of the military?  This group helps you connect to other military families in Widville. 

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Discussion Forum

Anybody out there need advice about TSP beneficiary account

Started by Soraya Jun 16. 0 Replies

My husband was a disabled veteran die from Covid19 on April 2020. I’m lost with everything not coping well Continue

What kind of feelings from Arlington National Cemetery service?

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Navywife0219 Sep 5, 2018. 5 Replies

On Feb 28 Wed, I, family and about 2 dozen friends, will go to ANC for the final resting place of my husband Marty. It will be exactly 6 months that he died unexpectedly, suddenly. One of my local…Continue

ANC service on Feb 28 was beyond words

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by InsideLove Mar 10, 2018. 2 Replies

Marty’s Arlington National Cemetery service exceeds words, just as my grief for my missing him every day no words seem to be enough.We had 40+ family and friends in attendance. I hired a photographer…Continue

Social Security from military member

Started by Crazy Monica. Last reply by offthewall Feb 2, 2016. 3 Replies

Hello, I'm new here and have alot of questions. One of my biggest is, because I'm in I'll health, but wasn't old enough when my husband passed, did I lose any chance of getting even just a part of…Continue

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Comment by My New Life on March 5, 2017 at 5:59am

Is anyone still active in this group?  

Comment by lyn on November 11, 2016 at 1:52pm

Thank you to all our veterans and those currently serving. I hope this day was gentle for all the widows and widowers of those who served in the military. I used to tear up and more at anything patriotic. Nine years since the loss of my husband I do better, but it is still hard sometimes.

Comment by underthefarmhouse on July 2, 2016 at 6:02am

I'd like to thank all our military men and women who put their lives on the line to serve our great country. Semper Fi and Happy July 4th. 

Comment by underthefarmhouse on June 23, 2016 at 2:14pm

My name is Alison, and my husband was in a force recon unit during the Viet Nam conflict. He was a sniper, and left his Bronze Star at the Wall. He had PTSD ever since, and I did not meet him until years after his discharge. We met in in 2004 and later married.  He died suddenly at home on Feb. 17, 2016, so it's only been 4 months. Memorial Day was always a big deal to him, I just stayed in the house and cried. There was a wedding in my husband's family that weekend, but I didn't attend, since heavy drinkers are not my favorite type.  Our wedding anniversary was on May 15th, so May was not a good month.  I had to give our black lab puppy away to a good home (I spoke with them extensively) because he was 9 months old and just too much for me. That was a heartbreaker. I still have our two cats, and they are great company.

My husband's children live down South and are grown with their own lives, so I mostly leave them be. I speak with his son every now and then, which is nice. My Mom has been a great support, since we lost my Dad, her husband of 60 years, in 2014. It's been a pretty awful time. Our little home is on the edge of a nature preserve, so I can walk out on the porch in the early morning and hear hundreds of birds, which is calming. July 4th is going to be another rough day, I plan to travel out of state to spend it with my Mom, which will be good for both of us. My Dad was in the Air Force, so it's a hard day for her, too.

My husband was a Navy man, but was transferred to the Marines because of his prowess as a sniper. He finally got his Marine Recon pin before he died, and he was very proud of that, I keep it in a place of honor, just as he did.  I miss him. God bless, and dona nobis pacem. 

Comment by kelseyablang on February 9, 2016 at 5:17am

Hello, My name is Kelsey. My husband passed in a motorcycle accident in Kansas in Dec 2015. We were married 8.5 years and had known each other for 18.5 years. We met in 1997 in 6th grade. We have 2 young boys, ages 5 and 8. I went to a medium the other day and was able to talk to him, he told me to join a group and talk about what has happened and see if I can get some tips on helping with my kids. LOL So that's why I'm here. How has anyone dealt with this with their children? Thank you! :) 

Comment by princess57 on November 14, 2015 at 5:23pm

Hi, my partner served for 15 years in the service of our country, 5 years for the Air Force and later 10 years in the Army 82nd Airborne, i was with him as his partner for 15 years after his service but, still was there for the effects from PTSD and other issues related to that. I lost my guy 3.2 years ago and still hurts, i wish i could have him by my side but i know he is there.  Colleen, don't worry i know how you feel as i am in the same place,no real contact with the military community support here. The closest for any support or anything is 35 miles away from here.

Comment by Colleen on November 7, 2015 at 6:54am name is Colleen...I served in the Navy for 14 years, I met my Husband when I was stationed in Berea,Ohio...we had 23 wonderful years before he passed away in Aug of 2014...things have been rough since he passed...he was 6 years older than I and I lost his SSN. Benifits,and now must wait 2 more years to apply....he worked 33 years and they took it way the day after he died...I broke my hip recently and am trying to get up and around...I need to start looking for work,but am still walking with a cane...sorry if I am rambling...I just feel so my neighborhood everyone would always be inviting us to things...since he died...not 1 invite....I get very lonely at times...
Comment by Marine2011 on July 7, 2015 at 4:44pm
My name is Gary Walker I'm a retired United States Marine officer I retired in 2011. After 25 years of service in my beloved wife by my side that entire time Amir two years after we retired we were on an anniversary camping trip and she fell from her horse and she hit her head and I lost my wife that night . Everything you have said I completely understand I live in Southern Colorado out in the middle of no place for about a year and a half my horses were my only comfort . It took me four months to be around my horses again after the accident and then I found that they were my best comfort and my best friends as I only had other Widows to talk to . I live in the San Luis Vally near Alamosa I can walk outside and see all the way to the edge of the Milky Way galaxy for a long time I could not look up at the stars but things are better now it's been a difficult struggle for my three young children and I since August 3, 2013 . We live in the same state and I don't know you but I know you're retired military and unfortunately we have the same thread that ties us together the loss of our spouse . If you need a friend, a person to talk to or a guy to hang out with and maybe ride some horses please call me !!

My life has gotten much better eventually I knew I had to open the new chapter in my life I'm engaged to a beautiful woman she loves my children and I love hers we are set to be married on July 26 but it has not been easy opening that book in that chapter but in the long run I know it's the right thing and the best thing I can do . I have triggers that hit me all the time they buckle my knees bring me to tears and on Sundays create huge amounts of anxiety inside of me I totally understand what you're saying . If you'd like a fellow Colorado window to hang out with into talk to please call me anytime !!

Comment by Frank on July 7, 2015 at 3:02pm

Hi Teric,

I think you will find you are not alone. I call them "Zingers" and they come out of the blue and reduce me to tears for quite a while. I generally run into them while watching a TV program or movie.  Also, sometimes while standing out on my deck.  I live inside the Colorado Rockies at 10,000' elevation.  I'm miles from the nearest highway and well away from the towns of Denver and Colorado Springs. When I step out onto the deck at night, with a cloudless sky the stars must number in the thousands of thousands.  We chose this  place to retire.  We retired in September of 2012, on Thanksgiving Day 2012, we had to fly Susan out on Flight for Life with a failing transplanted kidney, and 16 December 2012, Susan went to sleep that night and did not wake up Monday morning.  As I stand on the deck looking out into the woods, it is so quiet, so peaceful, frequently I'll break down and cry at my loss that she is not there, after a life's work, to enjoy our retirement.  During the winter, when it is snowing the large flakes it is so quiet you can actually hear the flakes falling through the pine needles with a Shhhh sound.  I miss her every day.  Just when I think things are getting better, the loss has softened, a zinger crops up.  I'm alone up here, living where we wanted to live, with no one to call or to talk to.  I have to work my way out of it.  This last time it took an hour and my two attack house cats, did not know what to do.

The zingers, are fewer, but sometimes just as potent after nearly 3 years...



Comment by Teric969 on July 7, 2015 at 2:15pm

Had a sad moment Saturday.  My sister asked if I would help her pass water out to walkers, and runners at a 5K race that her previous boss asked her help. I accepted. The race/event was a group called ACES which support military service members and families in the area.  Our station was the turn around point- While putting up flags of US, and all the services, my sister asked me if I was ok, I was.  I didn't feel sad or grief that morning, but once the very first person came through he turned around and I see his 100 lb ruk sak on his back and I lost it.  It is so strange the types of things that hit our hearts.  And grief comes over us in an instant. The first 25 or so people were all carrying 100lb packs.  Some Ruk's and some civilian packs.  And after the 30-45 second bawl I was fine the rest of the day.  Do others find themselves just fine then all of the sudden a burst of sadness comes over you?...  It amazes me this life and how there are so very many of us out there.  Life is kind of like just there.  I am happy and have come a very long way.  This month marks the 5th year of Jon's death. I miss him and our life tremendously, life continues but there is nothing the same about who I am. Now I am just me, it is a strange feeling!  HUGS to you all.  Sorry to type so much, just only visit every few months so just wanted to share that dumb little story about how a ruk sak affected my day :)..


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