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Military Families

Was your loved one a member of the military?  This group helps you connect to other military families in Widville. 

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Members: 94
Latest Activity: Oct 27

Discussion Forum

What kind of feelings from Arlington National Cemetery service?

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Navywife0219 Sep 5. 5 Replies

On Feb 28 Wed, I, family and about 2 dozen friends, will go to ANC for the final resting place of my husband Marty. It will be exactly 6 months that he died unexpectedly, suddenly. One of my local…Continue

ANC service on Feb 28 was beyond words

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by InsideLove Mar 10. 2 Replies

Marty’s Arlington National Cemetery service exceeds words, just as my grief for my missing him every day no words seem to be enough.We had 40+ family and friends in attendance. I hired a photographer…Continue

Social Security from military member

Started by Crazy Monica. Last reply by offthewall Feb 2, 2016. 3 Replies

Hello, I'm new here and have alot of questions. One of my biggest is, because I'm in I'll health, but wasn't old enough when my husband passed, did I lose any chance of getting even just a part of…Continue

Tricare Dental

Started by Cindy. Last reply by offthewall May 21, 2015. 1 Reply

My husband was a veteran.  We had Tricare Dental for a long time.  I cancelled this after he passed away because the closest dentist was 60 miles away that accepted Tricare.  Things have changed, can…Continue

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Comment by Travieso on February 17, 2015 at 12:15pm

Welcome Pinaywidow. It is with sad heart that I welcome you to our group, due to the loss you suffered to be elegible to join. Are you also in the American Widow Project? 

Comment by Pinaywidow on February 17, 2015 at 6:15am

Hello everyone, my husband served in marine corps. Im proud of him and i will see him next month, if weathers permit, on his bday at the vet cemetery.

Comment by Travieso on December 6, 2014 at 6:58pm

Frank - having been on both sides, military member and military spouse, I can't agree with you more. 

Comment by princess57 on December 6, 2014 at 6:06am

Since my partner was already retired from the Army at the time we met, I didn't have any problems, but my partner did this was also complicated by PTSD that he was experienced while he service. At times I had to help him deal with the civilian life, he was so ingrained with the service sometimes it was hard for him to tell the difference. He serviced a total of 15 years, 5 in the Air Force and 10 in the Army airborne (82nd) and now he is at his deserved rest (Sept.,2012)

Comment by Frank on December 4, 2014 at 6:36am

Hi Travieso,

No, Susan was not in the military.  When Susan passed (2 years this month) my three sons and I agonized over how to honor her life with the few words allowed on a headstone.  Now that I'm no longer in shock and fog, I actually looked at some of the others around her, and became, I guess, angry that she would be relagated to a HIS WIFE when I pass.  I plan on visiting her next week and stopping by the administrative office to get some information on the headstones.  I'm curious how they are seated "planted" and above all, why can't they simply be up rooted, turned around, engraved, and replanted.  Why destroy the stone and plant another?

To me, after 11 years of three kids ( 2 mine & one hers) and all the work ups, RefTras, and Med Cruises, all the worry and stress, that she deserves as much mention as I.

Comment by Travieso on December 3, 2014 at 9:19pm

Frank - Was your wife also in the military?

Comment by Frank on December 3, 2014 at 9:09pm


17 Dec will be our 2nd angelversary.  When Susan's headstone came in, and I looked at it. I went immediately to the office (Ft. Logan in Denver) and told them that I was unhappy with it.  The operator of the engraving machine made some errors and the letters were not consistantly deep, and the stone had chipped in places, such as the middle of the A was gone.  They sent a man up to her site with me, he made some measurements  with a tire tread gage, and agreed.  Her new stone was back in two weeks. 

Now that the fog is lifted, ( 2 years on the 17th of December) I looked at the stones around her and noticed, that when I die, my marker will be personalized by my rank, and life span, and the navy( 20 yrs), her side will simply say "HIS WIFE."  The boys and I agonized over what Susan's headstone should say to honor her as a wife and mother.  I cannot belive that they can't simply turn the stone around, engrave it for me and replant it.  HIS WIFE is degrading.

Comment by Travieso on August 18, 2014 at 9:08am

The VA finally came through with my wife's grave marker. Didn't get it quite right, but I'm NOT waiting another TWO YEARS or more for another grave marker. And even though she went downrange in OIF, not the Persian Gulf, she was in during the Persian Gulf War, and went down range for OIF (2008).

Comment by Travieso on July 8, 2014 at 3:06pm

Shyne - My wife and I both served, me 12 years and her 31, between Active, Guard and Reserves, Army, Air Force and USPHS.

Comment by Shayne on July 6, 2014 at 1:03am

hello all since joining WV I cannot even believe how helpful the people on this site have been. I know I'm the odd fish on this group because I am the active duty member and have lost my wife I'm sure most of you are dependents. But I felt like I had to join here because the military has been my life for 18yrs now. i feel comfortable with military folks. I have decided to go way outside my comfort zone and attend camp in San Diego this next week hope to see some of you there and meet you. It has been super hard I am so thankful for my military family that has been there for me I love the support the military offers I can't imagine going through this without that support.


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