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Military Families

Was your loved one a member of the military?  This group helps you connect to other military families in Widville. 

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Members: 86
Latest Activity: Jul 17

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Social Security from military member

Started by Crazy Monica. Last reply by offthewall Feb 2, 2016. 3 Replies

Hello, I'm new here and have alot of questions. One of my biggest is, because I'm in I'll health, but wasn't old enough when my husband passed, did I lose any chance of getting even just a part of…Continue

Tricare Dental

Started by Cindy. Last reply by offthewall May 21, 2015. 1 Reply

My husband was a veteran.  We had Tricare Dental for a long time.  I cancelled this after he passed away because the closest dentist was 60 miles away that accepted Tricare.  Things have changed, can…Continue

Transitioning to Civilian Life

Started by onmyown. Last reply by Frozen_Rose Mar 23, 2014. 3 Replies

After reading some earlier posts, one question comes to mind. Since losing your spouse/partner, do you feel as though you are still connected to military life or transitioning to the civlian world?Continue

Happy Independence Day !

Started by onmyown Jul 4, 2013. 0 Replies

Wanted to wish you all a day of peace.  Hope everyone is able to enjoy this day and the many blessings of our wonderful nation. Thank you for the sacrifices you and your loved ones have made. Jen  Continue

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Comment by Frank on December 4, 2014 at 6:36am

Hi Travieso,

No, Susan was not in the military.  When Susan passed (2 years this month) my three sons and I agonized over how to honor her life with the few words allowed on a headstone.  Now that I'm no longer in shock and fog, I actually looked at some of the others around her, and became, I guess, angry that she would be relagated to a HIS WIFE when I pass.  I plan on visiting her next week and stopping by the administrative office to get some information on the headstones.  I'm curious how they are seated "planted" and above all, why can't they simply be up rooted, turned around, engraved, and replanted.  Why destroy the stone and plant another?

To me, after 11 years of three kids ( 2 mine & one hers) and all the work ups, RefTras, and Med Cruises, all the worry and stress, that she deserves as much mention as I.

Comment by Travieso on December 3, 2014 at 9:19pm

Frank - Was your wife also in the military?

Comment by Frank on December 3, 2014 at 9:09pm

Hi,

17 Dec will be our 2nd angelversary.  When Susan's headstone came in, and I looked at it. I went immediately to the office (Ft. Logan in Denver) and told them that I was unhappy with it.  The operator of the engraving machine made some errors and the letters were not consistantly deep, and the stone had chipped in places, such as the middle of the A was gone.  They sent a man up to her site with me, he made some measurements  with a tire tread gage, and agreed.  Her new stone was back in two weeks. 

Now that the fog is lifted, ( 2 years on the 17th of December) I looked at the stones around her and noticed, that when I die, my marker will be personalized by my rank, and life span, and the navy( 20 yrs), her side will simply say "HIS WIFE."  The boys and I agonized over what Susan's headstone should say to honor her as a wife and mother.  I cannot belive that they can't simply turn the stone around, engrave it for me and replant it.  HIS WIFE is degrading.

Comment by Travieso on August 18, 2014 at 9:08am

The VA finally came through with my wife's grave marker. Didn't get it quite right, but I'm NOT waiting another TWO YEARS or more for another grave marker. And even though she went downrange in OIF, not the Persian Gulf, she was in during the Persian Gulf War, and went down range for OIF (2008).

Comment by Travieso on July 8, 2014 at 3:06pm

Shyne - My wife and I both served, me 12 years and her 31, between Active, Guard and Reserves, Army, Air Force and USPHS.

Comment by Shayne on July 6, 2014 at 1:03am

hello all since joining WV I cannot even believe how helpful the people on this site have been. I know I'm the odd fish on this group because I am the active duty member and have lost my wife I'm sure most of you are dependents. But I felt like I had to join here because the military has been my life for 18yrs now. i feel comfortable with military folks. I have decided to go way outside my comfort zone and attend camp in San Diego this next week hope to see some of you there and meet you. It has been super hard I am so thankful for my military family that has been there for me I love the support the military offers I can't imagine going through this without that support.

Comment by BarbieM53 on July 3, 2014 at 7:30am

Hi, my husband retired from the US Navy in 1999.  He was a Master Chief and he spent 23 years in the Navy.  We were both in the Navy, I met him at NAS Norfolk in 1977, and we worked together in the Education office.  He was a seaman and I was a seaman apprentice.  The first time I saw him in his dress blues he took my breath away and I knew then I had to make him mine.  Little did I know at the time he was planning the same thing.  I miss him so very, very much.....

Comment by Shayne on June 28, 2014 at 9:10pm

AMA

Thank you so much sorry for your loss of your husband and your right it is so different I have lost plenty of family members but I have never felt anything like this. We were married for 22 years and she was the greatest militray wife and I feel lost without her.

Comment by AMA on June 28, 2014 at 8:59pm
New Loss Husband,
I am so sorry to hear that you lost your wife. I think you are welcome anywhere on this site by the way. I think alot of people who are a part of this website are wanting to connect with others who "get it". Losing a wife or husband is different than other types of grief. This is a safe place to vent your frustrations with friends or family, to ask questions or just to get your feelings out there. My husband was a Marine. He died of a rare form of liver cancer 2 years after returning from Iraq. It has been almost 18 months since he passed. I hope you are able to draw comfort from the people here...everyone's experience is different but I am always comforted to know that I am not alone!
Comment by Shayne on June 28, 2014 at 8:35pm

Hello

Not sure if I'm allowed in this group or not seems like everyone here has lost someone who is in the military. But I am the one who is the military I lost my wife a little over a month ago. Things have been rough initially not too bad but lately it has been getting harder. Stubled upon this site and thought I could learn from others who have dealt with a loss like this.

 

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