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More Than One Loss (Multiple Losses)

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More Than One Loss (Multiple Losses)

For Villagers who had more than one loss close together, or who lost a child, or were widowed more than once.  You're not alone... please connect here.

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Comment by Steve on May 16, 2017 at 8:15am
Hi Hyliek, sorry to hear you had some bad weather, hope all is well now. Its strange how i have found life works. At least for me and maybe you, and others. Once 45 hit, in my age, all hell broke loose with people passing. Friends, relatives, spouse, parents, so on. No kidding, i cant count them all, at least 20 or more, in past 10 yrs. significant people in my daily life. Its been really tough. Its kind of weird now, its almost like it doesnt surprise me anymore. Im sad at another loss in my life, but, its not a shock, like it used to be. I dont go to funerals anymore, ive been to too many. So many passing in mid 40s, thru early 60s. I always thought most people made it to mid 70s anyway. Not in my life. Maybe its because we were all a child of the 60s and 70s? Lol. I know i was crazy in my teens and early 20s! So were most of my friends that are mostly gone now.
Comment by hyliek on May 16, 2017 at 2:43am

Sorry our weather affected our internet a bit.  How you all keeping.  Thanks for the positive feedback, at least I am not crazy yet.  The deaths were close together so I think it is all hitting me at once, but I will be fine. (((((hugs)))))

Comment by Slick on May 13, 2017 at 3:15am

Hi Steve..................  hyliek.......I also went through a time when I was very snappy with others...it also isn't me ...it has since passed Thank God....Maybe after 4-5 years.....it's very hard to be a full time caregiver and get up the morning after our love passes..........alone , no purpose in getting up, fear of what the future holds...and feeling so alone and missing them so much.......I hope this passes quickly for you...it does rear it's ugly head at times for years...but it's shorter lived and not as severe......PEACE

Comment by Steve on May 12, 2017 at 10:51pm
Oh yes, i remember after my partner passed, I of course was lost without him, however, i was just so lost not having 1000 things to do everyday, to care for him and keep things going at home. I went from going 100mph from 6am till midnight, 7 days per week, to nothing! It was so hard to get used to "relaxing" and just concentrating on me for the first time in years. It took quite awhile to get used to that new norm. Also, personality quirks, like shorter temper, being sleepy, or not being able to sleep, now liking reading, or now hating reading, its all completely normal with what we have been thru. Its crazy-making.
Comment by hyliek on May 12, 2017 at 9:28pm

Hi Steve, yip sometimes it is harder than others.  I find myself becoming irritated more easily with people, as I work with people all day.  It is not in my nature, but I think it will pass as I learn to settle down to a single life again.  Find my feet etc.  Always had to take care of someone now I feel at a lose end sometimes. 

Comment by Steve on May 12, 2017 at 8:26am
Hi Hyliek, oh my goodness, (((hugs))) to you with regard to your husbands and daughters. I have family in Joberg, have never been to Africa, but hope to go someday.
I have also been thru a period of great loss over the past 10 years, and its tough to learn to live without these people and animals in our daily lives. Im so grateful to this site, and all the wonderful people i have shared with here. Its truly saved me countless times in those darkest of times. My heart and thoughts are with you. Take care
Comment by Slick on May 12, 2017 at 4:02am

I retired 10 years ago when my husband was dx with lung cancer...he was only 51....and we wanted to spend as much time as we had together....well he lived 3 1/2 years....the lung was removed but cancer came back and ate through his ribs and spine...such a painful death...I thank God that I could be there for him....I am from Pennsylvania ..in the US..

Comment by hyliek on May 12, 2017 at 3:44am

Hi Slick, I am forever grateful that I have a super Church who is so supportive.  Even helped to break down my bathroom door to get my husband out when he collapsed from a stroke, unfortunately he passed away within 12 hours.  What you do you do for a living and where do you live.

Comment by Slick on May 12, 2017 at 3:15am

Hi Hyliek...I am so sorry for your losses.....I have lost a child also....my husband passed on her birthday....my heart feels yours although you have suffered so many times over .....God bless ....may peace fill your heart...

Comment by hyliek on May 11, 2017 at 9:28pm

Hi everyone.  I am in South Africa, so our time lines are different.  I have lost 3 husbands and 2 daughters.  My heart really goes out to you guys.  I is hard to keep going with a smile.  But we have to remember the good times as much as possible.  The laughs and fun.  I don't dream of my lost loved ones but I think of them often. God bless to you all.

 

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