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Pregnant Widows

If you are pregnant now, or were pregnant when your partner passed, you'll find others here who share your story.

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Comment by Sarebear on April 30, 2016 at 10:10pm
I hope everything is OK with your baby. The hardest part is the constant wondering how it would be of they were still with us, would we make the same decisions? Would we face the same challenges? I have wondered millions of times how my husband would have reacted to things our son has done and I HATE that I have to make the hard parenting decisions on my own, it was never supposed to be this way. I'm sorry you have to face this uncertainty without your boyfriend. I hope you have a good support network near you to help you through.
Comment by AchiPong on April 17, 2016 at 11:44pm


I'd done re-reading all the old post here. I'd like to think that the old post of the ladies here that shares their stories of what they had dealth, including health issues about their unborn baby at that time, that we will too will deliver a very normal and healthy baby even if we'd been through a lot of negative emotions.


Comment by Coral on April 16, 2016 at 8:46am
I feel so lost. I received news that my baby's kidney isn't fully developing and don't know what that means until he's born. I feel so helpless. Times like now is when I would turn to my boyfriend for comfort and love, I feel so alone and miss him so much. I don't know how to be, who to be, or where to go without him. Losing him unexpectedly leaves living in constant wonder of what it would be like if he were here.
Comment by AchiPong on April 3, 2016 at 5:37am

Thank you. It gives me comfort in a way.

No, it doesn't sound silly at all, I'm about to do it as well, but the sadness overwhelm me, That I might cry like there's no tomorrow, it may badly affect the baby so I postponed writing the journal until I gave birth.
Comment by Sarebear on April 2, 2016 at 5:29pm
I think I got through it reminding myself that the end result was me holding a living piece of my husband and I, his son. I got through it hoping he would have my husband eyes, or his nose. And I cried, a lot. I made sure to have people on my birth team who wouldn't try and minimize what I was feeling. My doctor was amazing, she helped keep me focused. Honestly, I don't know if I felt him with me, I wanted to.
Naming him after my husband was the best decision I made, and the most heart breaking, because we never would have done that if he'd been alive, so it represented to me a very stark truth that J was gone. It was painful to hear his name repeated so often in the early days and truthfully I couldn't bring myself to say it out loud. I called him every nickname in the books because his name got such in my throat. It took a couple weeks before hearing the name didn't hurt as much, and I started to find it healing to hear.

I don't think the fear goes away until you're holding your baby, I found that as lost as I have felt, as overwhelmed as I've been and as scared as I am about the future, when I'm holding my son I also feel hope. I know I wouldn't have survived without him. I hope that you are able to find the same hope in your sweet baby when the time comes. I'm so sorry you are having to face this too.
Comment by Coral on April 2, 2016 at 11:53am
I hadn't realized you had a miscarriage before, we're on the same boat. My boyfriend and I previously went through a miscarriage as well and it was hard on us. I too hope and believe he's in peace with our other baby.

Thanks, I know before his sudden passing,I would joke with him about how silly it would be to have two of the same names in our family, though it was what he wanted too.
I feel for you. On weekends when we would sleep in together, he'd always walk over to my side of the bed and hold me up,because he felt it would help me and the baby :( Its really really hard for me to think of the future, I just try to take it day by day, thinking of ways to always keep him with me,...with this strange feeling of losing him...even though he's gone...
I mentioned it in another group, but I just started writing down any memories I've had with him. I'm putting them in a photo album I'm trying to put together for our baby to be able to feel he knows who he was...
I know it sounds silly... But it started to help a bit
Comment by AchiPong on April 2, 2016 at 1:48am


I think naming him after your husband would not be bad, after all he's your baby and if it you think it feels right for you and give you comfort go on. Yes, I'd do too people hear that his presence at the day of delivery his presence would be around. 

It is really hard, everytime I see newborn babies smiling with the father beside them. It aches that my husband won't be seeing the smile of our baby. Last night I had this cramp/abdominal pain and being without him by myside makes me feel afraid on everything. It was like that I am looking for sign that his spirit is just with me, but no, it felt like the opposite that his no longer really with me.  


Congrats for the twins. 


I am terrified of giving birth to our baby. Yes, though we have a supportive system, it still felt like being alone. Just me and the baby. I hope I can get through the labor and the delivery.

Comment by DENISE on April 1, 2016 at 10:02pm
11 weeks pregnant now, posted a couple weeks ago. I just found out I'm pregnant w twins. It brought me out a little more out of the whole I am in and even though I still suffer from depression and the effects of losing my fiance on Feb 14, I feel like God is blessing me so much. Like if its a miracle, when my pregnancy was confirmed the dr only saw one baby. I miss my fiance terribly and it hurts knowing all the plans he made of being a father to our kids he wont fulfill. In the end I know hes in heaven with the baby we lost in Jan watching over the babies and I.
Comment by Coral on April 1, 2016 at 9:56pm

How did you get through your labor? I mean, I know its not a breeze, I just keep hearing from others that I might feel his presence while I am. I look forward to holding my baby, knowing i'll be holding a piece of him. I feel its bitter sweet. How does it feel naming him after his dad? I am going to name my son after his dad, and have had some wierd comments from others about feeling uncomfortable caling him what they called him.

Comment by Sarebear on April 1, 2016 at 6:57pm
I was terrified of giving birth without my husband, focus on bringing you're amazing little bundle into the world. It's still hard, harder than anyone around you can understand. Holding my son for the first time helped me escape, even if only briefly into pure love and joy.

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