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Pregnant Widows

If you are pregnant now, or were pregnant when your partner passed, you'll find others here who share your story.

Check the 'Help' tab for more guidance or send questions to [email protected]

Members: 73
Latest Activity: Jun 25

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Comment by Kenna'sMomma on May 29, 2018 at 7:45am

Hello to those who have recently joined this group. This month marks 13 years since Matthew died, just 2 weeks after we found out we were expecting our first child. 

I periodically come on Widowed Village to read through threads, especially the Pregnant Widows stories/comments. In some ways it’s like digging up all the pain again, reliving those first weeks, months. But I need to do it. 

I don’t remember a lot of the first couple of years after Matthew died. Pregnancy, birth, my daughter’s first year—it’s all fuzzy. (It’s a very good thing there are a lot of photos.)  I was on auto-pilot, trying to survive. I buried my grief until I got to a time and place when I could deal with it. So I didn’t really begin grieving until about 5 years out. And the process continues to this day. It will never end.

Everyone does this thing differently. There is no right or wrong. All of it sucks, nothing about what we have to go through is fair. Each of us has a unique journey, but what we all have in common is that we get through the best we can, knowing we are not alone in our journey.

Love to each of you and your sweet children (and children-to-be),

Sarah

Comment by Kimmyz7717 on May 24, 2018 at 3:36pm

Hi everyone,

I just found this group through a fellow widowed friend. My husband passed away in a car accident last 4th of July...I was 40 weeks pregnant...three days later (July 7, 2017) I gave birth to our first child, a baby girl. It’s been SO difficult finding people to relate/understand such a tragic situation so I’m very grateful to have come across this group. Just looking for words of advice on how you coped after such life altering events. Even though it’s been a little over 10 months now, it still feels just like yesterday...that and the fact that my husbands one year passing mark and daughters first birthday are coming up are bringing on a whole different array of emotions...any advice would be much appreciated...thank all!

-Kimmy

Comment by Mamabear on May 18, 2018 at 8:57am

Hello-

I’m new here and just wanted to say hi. My husband passed 2 months ago today. Two weeks later I delivered our baby boy. I also have a little girl who turns 2 next month. I didn’t realize when I started writing this that there would be so many twos in my first paragraph!

Anyway, just wanted to see who else is out there that might be familiar with my circumstances. Looking forward to connecting with some of you.

Comment by SweetMelissa2007 on April 10, 2018 at 7:24am

Hi hamm4d,

I've always had a soft spot for the pregnant widowed ...

Many prayers for you & your child ...

Comment by Halfking on April 10, 2018 at 4:45am

Hi hamm4d, 

My name is Susan and I lost my husband when pregnant in 2009 years ago just as this group was evolving.  I now have a 9 year old daughter (CRAZY!) and brighter days do lie ahead. That said, I know how insanely gut wrenching this situation is and the pain recedes but never goes away - we merely adjust to the loss and gratefully learn how a new life can offer us new inspiration for hope and love.  Feel free to reach out to me via email or through this site and I'll check in - 

Best,
Susan K.  [email protected]

Comment by hamm4d on April 9, 2018 at 1:49am

Thanks for reaching out Suzo and Kenna'sMomma! Knowing you're out there hrlps. 

Comment by Suzo on April 4, 2018 at 7:08pm

Hi hamm4d, 

My husband died in 2011 when I was two months pregnant. My daughter just turned 6 so it's not as fresh for me, but I'm around if you need to talk/vent. I'm so sorry you're here (not a group you'd ever choose to join) but glad you found widowed village. It was a huge help to me.

Susan

Comment by Kenna'sMomma on April 4, 2018 at 6:50pm

Hello, hamm4d—

I am glad you found this place for encouragement—widowed village/Soaring Spirits wasn’t around yet when my husband died, but has since become a lifesaver for me! 

Comment by hamm4d on April 4, 2018 at 6:32pm

I was so encouraged to see this group, but now I see there hasn't been any activity in two years.

Is anyone out there???

Comment by Caledonia on April 30, 2016 at 10:10pm
Coral
I hope everything is OK with your baby. The hardest part is the constant wondering how it would be of they were still with us, would we make the same decisions? Would we face the same challenges? I have wondered millions of times how my husband would have reacted to things our son has done and I HATE that I have to make the hard parenting decisions on my own, it was never supposed to be this way. I'm sorry you have to face this uncertainty without your boyfriend. I hope you have a good support network near you to help you through.
 

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