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Pregnant Widows

If you are pregnant now, or were pregnant when your partner passed, you'll find others here who share your story.

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Comment by AchiPong on March 17, 2016 at 8:09am
Coral, We're about to know the gender of the baby before he died because of the accident. My husband never get to see our baby's kick and gender. I am too expecting in June.

Pessie, It is really hard to believe what happened. I am still wishing that one day I will wake up with him by myside. The denial stage we'd been going through.
Comment by Pessie2015 on March 17, 2016 at 6:02am
I've been on here for awhile but couldn't bring myself to post. I lost my husband suddenly to a fall on October 16, 2015. We were going to announce our pregnancy with our second child the weekend he passed at my birthday party. I can't believe 5 months has passed. I still have a difficult time believing it happened and that we're in this position. I have an almost 2 year old son and I am due May 1 with another little boy and it's just heartbreaking to know they will never know their father. We are fortunate enough to have moved in with my parents so they can help because most days I feel like I'm not emotionally or even physically there for my son the way he needs. I have found comfort in yoga, reiki, and, meditation, but nothing takes away the pain of the loss. I know just find myself missing him so much and he's still on my mind every moment. I feel for all of you that are going through this, I have found it helps to talk with other strong, beautiful women in similar situations. I know we will be ok, it just is not the life we ever planned or would have imagined for our children.
Comment by Coral on March 16, 2016 at 6:57pm
Achipong,
I understand how you feel... I lost my boyfriend Feb 10th by a motorcycle accident... I feel its hard to explain the pain to those around me considering he was my everything, and knee each other in ways no one else did...I miss him everyday... And cry when I feel the baby kick, because it reminds me of the first time he felt our baby kick and how excited he was.... it's hard to imagine this without him... And I too feel alone. I'm 6 months pregnant and expecting in June...
Comment by AchiPong on March 11, 2016 at 6:32pm
Thank you Halfking, every memories he left me were surely like bittersweet now and I will definitely share it with the baby when he comes out, as he grows.
Comment by Halfking on March 11, 2016 at 7:43am

And I will add that even though I am nearly eight years out, and my daughter just turned 7 (I was two months pregnant when I lost my husband)not a day goes by that I don't think about nor celebrate my husband.  Just today on the subway platform, taking my daughter to school, we heard a song he played for me at our wedding and I held my girl and we danced right there.  Was a bittersweet way to begin the day.  But I share with her freely (as appropriate) and I constantly share with her things about her dad.  So they remain with us, always.

Comment by Halfking on March 11, 2016 at 7:40am

Hi AchiPong and all - I check in now and then and and am again so saddened to see more in similar situations.  For those of you "hanging on" and wanting to die, I get it, it is a dark place to be.  But I will suggest that you focus on your pregnancies and let that be a beautiful excuse for moving forward through your days.  Take small, very small steps - just get yourselves through each day.  Therapy is extremely helpful and you should lean on those on this site who are living proof that your days will be brighter and your children will be wonderful joys when they arrive.  They are well worth living for.  Please feel free to reach out to me directly as I am not on this site often...  Just keep going!!!

Susan ([email protected])

http://thesusie.blogspot.com/

Comment by AchiPong on March 10, 2016 at 10:36pm

Hello Everyone, I am new here and no one to talked, I just felt so alone everyday, though I have very supportive family but no one can exactly understand what I am going through. I lost my husband from a vehicular accident last January 26, it was so sudden that until now I feel that it is just a dream. We were a couple for almost 6 years and just got married this last December. We were both 26 of age. I am 6 months pregnant now with our first baby.

I just feel so helpless and just wanna die as well, but I know I can't for the fact that I am pregnant. Everyday is a battle and torture of negative emotions. I hope I could find comfort here.

Comment by DENISE on March 10, 2016 at 6:41am
Thank you so much I appreciate it.
Comment by Suzo on March 10, 2016 at 6:40am

I'm so glad you have support. When my husband died, my family and my church small group got me through. Their support didn't make up for anything or change anything, but they helped keep me going and taking care of myself while this storm was raging in my head. I can't fully understand your grief or the trauma you've been through, but I know it must be hard to bear. I'm so sorry.

Comment by DENISE on March 10, 2016 at 6:19am
Fortunately a lot of my friends have been supporting me, my coworkers too, my family also, I also just started counseling. My grandmother is christian and a pastor so I've also been leaning heavily on my faith. It's just so hard without him, the support is just so different. Thank you.
 

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