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Super delayed reply here. Tiffany, your comment about money is def not taboo. I'm 36 and my partner died suddenly 8 months ago. He was the bread winner by a long shot and it has been incredibly stressful. I've had to live off the charity of friends and family, eventually moving out of state and our house and into a small one bedroom apartment somewhere less expensive to live. No will and we weren't married, so not a dime for me (not that it is about that at all). We knew this was my nightmare scenario, since we weren't married yet and I begged him to do something to protect me (he was 22 years older than me). He had an ex-wife to whom all life insurance would go and he'd been meaning to get a supplemental policy but...you know men. A combination of not thinking anything bad could happen and general procrastination on crap like that. Well, here I am now. No savings and a tiny 401k that I stopped putting $ into (all $40 a paycheck) once he died because I needed every penny for survival. So...I don't know how it will work out for you or I. I've met with a financial counselor and am trying to live as frugally as possibly. I guess I'm glad that I still have time to save? I don't make a lot of money but at least I have a job and can be grateful for that. Feel free to commiserate wth me any time.
On the topic of books, I highly recommend "Tales from a Mediocre Widow" I connected so much with that book. It really hit all the points I went though.
Thank you, AMARINESGIRL for the book recommendation. I hope it helps me as much as it seems to have been a comfort to you.
I found a really great book on Amazon and it basically saved me. "I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye" by Brook Noel and Pamela Blair, PhD. I covers sudden loss and grieving from these two women's perspective. Both lost loved ones suddenly and formed a lasting friendship through their ordeal. It is one of the best books I have read since my Steve died 423 days ago. Yes.....I count the days. Crying less right now because I am focused on other things and just push it down. It takes a lot of steps, daily steps to get from point A to point B. I pray for your strength and peace today.
Hi Cookie_love, makes sense to me. Thanks for sharing.
WeighAnchor, I'm still waiting for the police report and It's been 9-10months since my LH accident. I can fully relate. Don't let anyone tell you you shouldn't want or need that information. You have to process what has happened to you in your own way. <3
You will be strong again. Hang in there and just do the best you can.
Thank you IBelieveInYou for the message. I escaped from home thousands miles away and temporary relocated in SC for business. I'm trying to rebuild a new life and hoped this is another me to start a new journey......but it's hard and I just can't stop crying whenever it comes. I left my teenage sweet girl at home, my cousin and her family are taking good care of her. I see her every couple of months and for the days I'm out of country, i'm trying to keep myself extremely busy so to let things occupy my brain. But still, the feeling of sadness always find ways to attack, and I do feel lonely. I know I should take the responsibility for our girl, but I'm not strong enough to face her alone......I know I‘m not a good mum, but what else I can do? Thanks God my girl is stronger than me, she told me as long as I'm good, she's good. I hope one day I can strong enough to face the reality......
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