This site is run by widowed people, for widowed people

Widowed Village connects peers with each other for friendship and sharing. The moderators, administrators, and others involved in running this site are not professionals.

Please don't interpret anything you read here as medical, legal, or otherwise expert advice. Don't disregard any expert's advice or take any action as a result of what you read here.

We're friends, not doctors, financial or legal professionals, and we're not "grief experts." But we are here, and we've been "there."


Suddenly Widowed

For those widowed suddenly or unexpectedly by any cause. 

Check the 'Help' tab for more guidance or send questions to [email protected]

Members: 1703
Latest Activity: yesterday

Discussion Forum

The 6-month mark

Started by Crabby. Last reply by KJPE yesterday. 9 Replies

I hit the 6-month mark this past Tuesday. As expected, it was very sad and emotional for me. I took off from work Tuesday and Wednesday because I just could not face the world. My daughter did take…Continue

When Friends Step Back

Started by GrievingandLost37. Last reply by KJPE Jan 29. 4 Replies

Since my husband died suddenly, my family and our friends were there for me during the first couple of months.  My family was so supportive and continues to be supportive for me.  Then, some friends…Continue

Other "Firsts"

Started by Crabby. Last reply by Polly Jan 24. 2 Replies

Just some thoughts - I think we've all heard people say that the first year is the hardest. They tell us you have to get through all of the firsts - first holidays, first birthdays, first…Continue

He deserved so much more love

Started by KJPE. Last reply by KJPE Jan 23. 5 Replies

At least once a day, I feel intensely frustrated & sad because my husband was exceptionally wonderful to me, and I keep wanting to give him more love and cannot believe that I can't any more. …Continue

Comment Wall


You need to be a member of Suddenly Widowed to add comments!

Comment by Melissa on February 9, 2019 at 12:10pm

Shelley! What a beautiful story! Thank you for sharing it. That gives me so much hope.

Your dad loved you so much. I'll bet he looked at that picture of you every day. 

Wow. That is so powerful. Thank you again.

Comment by shelley on February 8, 2019 at 9:09pm

Hey Melissa, I believe in the gifts of mediums and hope your experience is a good one.  And speaking of dads.....I met my biological dad when I was in my late 20's.  Our subsequent relationship was up and down.  I am a lot like him.  I cared for him at the end of his life, had some spiritual experiences of him after he died, thought I had found peace with his death when I scattered his ashes.  Didn't think much about him after that.  Then about a year ago, I was in my home office and I found a picture of him on the floor.  A picture of him when he was in his late 20's, probably when he became my dad.  Have no idea how the picture got there.  Above the photo, on a shelf was my dad's silver id bracelet.  It was given to him by students in one of his English classes (he was a college professor) and he treasured it.  I'd had it on the shelf since he died in 2011.  When I bent to pick up the photo, I was told to open the id bracelet.  I had no idea that the id bracelet opened.  I picked up the bracelet, fiddled with it, and found that it opened.  Inside was a picture of me as a three-year-old.  He gave me up for adoption when I was three years old.  I've felt a strong connection to him since.  Dads.  Sometimes they're very special.  

Comment by laurajay on January 22, 2019 at 12:31pm

Sometimes our hope fades and our faith we once strongly depended on wanes. Our vision of our future simply blurs. For me that means time to become quiet and look within for the sustaining power that brought me this far for so long a time. My upbringing taught me that as mortals we will not ever here on earth have the answers we seek to all of our questions . But rather take heart that one day we will have answers clearly revealed to us and we will be given the gift to understand those answers. Something not available here and now. One authority offering grace and everlasting love. Surviving a truly unexpected and sudden death is very different than loss that has evident explanation. For me and for now- it must be enough to know the One who knows.

Comment by Melissa on January 18, 2019 at 11:35am

I am seeing a medium in a couple of months. I really think there are people who have this gift. I saw a medium after my father died, and the things he said were remarkably accurate. He has since retired, unfortunately. Thank you so much for this beautiful story, jlsrdh.

Comment by Seashell on January 18, 2019 at 6:33am

That was beautiful. I went to a medium 2 years after my husband passed and it was a profound experience. I have since received several readings from mediums. 

Comment by KJPE on January 18, 2019 at 5:37am

jlsrdh:  Your story was so amazing I'm considering contacting a medium myself....I talk to my husband aloud a lot but I also cry a lot when I do.  I have hope that he might hear me....sometimes...

Comment by shelley on January 17, 2019 at 6:55pm

jlsrdh, I absolutely believe in everything you said.  I was told that my husband could hear me if I was thinking about him and/or talking to him silently.  But I will start speaking out loud.  

Last week I spent an entire day cleaning the trailer and working in the yard.  Mice are trying to claim space in the trailer and so for the first time since John died, I cleared clutter and threw things away.   I spent hours in the yard weeding, planting and trimming trees.  Then in the late afternoon, as I was standing in the kitchen, I felt him next to me, felt his presence strongly next to my left shoulder.  He always loved it when I cleaned the kitchen and worked in the yard.  

Comment by loveboo on January 17, 2019 at 4:17pm

Thank you for sharing jlsrdh. I consider myself a skeptic but your experience does give me some hope.

Comment by HockeyDogs on January 17, 2019 at 3:19pm

I love what you wrote - such a beautiful experience - and I've had similar. It's so comforting.

Comment by jlsrdh on January 17, 2019 at 2:02pm

Ok so on first post  as I had everything written be was way over amount allowed. At bottom of first post the string around our  ankles means we were soul mates. ❤️❤️




Members (1703)


© 2019   Created by Soaring Spirits.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service