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going on slowly. After 44 yrs of marriage I will mark 5 yr since his sudden unexpected death on March 30. No elaborate ceremony. As in years past, I will take a new candle after the sun rises. Seated at the table alone I will talk to him. I will light the candle and remind myself and him that my love for him burns as brightly as it ever has and always will. I will sing him a song...one he enjoyed. I will add a verse or two of Amazing Grace to praise God and honor him for giving us so many years together. I will watch the candle burn for a while. I will then go about the day and put out the flame when it gets dark outside. I will remind myself that life is not in the wick not in the candle but in the burning. It is a sacred time so I might shed a tear but mostly I will let the quiet remind me of life and in his honor I will keep peace in my heart that day. It will be enough because our love endures beyond death. Good Luck in finding your best way to honor your spouse when the yearly anniversary arrives. Follow your heart. It knows best. lj
Going on Slowly, I can totally relate because I lost my partner, Loren, last year on March 22 also from an aortic dissection. He died in the ER because by the time the doctors realized what was happening, it was too late to operate and he bled out. They called me at 2 a.m. after I had left the hospital at midnight to say that he had lapsed into unconsciousness and they were trying to revive him. By the time I reached the ER he was dead. It is a very difficult situation to lose someone you love in such a sudden, inexplicable way.
I have found many different ways to honor Loren's memory and the anniversaries. I usually buy flowers on the anniversary of our first date, because he always did that for me. And I usually write him a letter on the monthly anniversary of the day he died. Loren's birthday is the same day as your husband passed away, Feb. 27. I plan to have dinner with his sister. Thinking of you and sending hugs! Amy
Tomorrow being Valentines Day some of us thought it would be a good support for us to share some hugs and love with fellow widows and widowers who may be finding the day difficult. If you can join on Chat we will be there at 8 eastern, 7 central, 5 pacific.
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