Widowed Village

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Suddenly widowed

For those widowed suddenly or unexpectedly by any cause. The complementary group is "Long term illness." Yes, you may join both.

We now have a "Suddenly widowed" discussion in the PERENNIAL main forum. Q's? Widville@gmail.com

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Comment by Diane on Monday

Luckybrie23, way to go!!  I am so glad it was OK for you.  I know what you mean about the father daughter dances.  I think I'll cry at those for the rest of my life.  I have a daughter getting married and there will be no father daughter dance.  I will walk my dear, wonderful daughter down the aisle myself, though.  

So very many things change when we become widowed.  But like you just showed, luckybrie23, we can get through this one little bit at a time.

Comment by Hanh on Monday
Thank you katpilot, gaining strength and nancyde <3. I guess John did send me strength to get through today somehow. And I do get support from my in laws and family n my grieving friends... I do feel John presence, a touch on my shoulder when I sat on the chair after my grocery shopping. I guess I smelled his body spray this morning also. I better believe it's him to ease my heart... I am sorry and glad at the same time to meet you in this site. Be gentle to ourselves xoxo
Comment by nancyde on Monday

I will be thinking of you today Hanh and trying to will you into a softer place.

Comment by Gaining Strength on Monday

Thinking of you today Hanh. Peace be with you. Sorry that you are on this road.

Comment by katpilot on Monday

Life can be so unfair Hanh. Happy anniversary to you in spite of this fact. I hope you can feel Johns presence in your heart and all around you this day.

Comment by Luckybrie23 on Monday
Thank you Diane for thinking of me this weekend!!! It means alot <3 It was a beautiful wedding and I only had to excuse myself a few times but the hardest was the father daughter dance. I was sad that my daughters will not get that dance :'(
Comment by Hanh on Monday
Hi. I haven't been here for a while but still reading posts sometimes. Was trying to find my way in this new reality without John. It's our 1st wedding anniversary today. 28/7/2013, we became husband and wife and had 7 months happily married together. I have been doing ok today I guess. Or maybe I am just numb. I made a video for my husband and my sister in law sent flowers to me with a sweet note, it really made my day and showed that I do have supports... It has been 5 months, 1 day since John died. I still can't believe he's gone and want to wake up from this nightmare. But it seems like it never gonna change until the day I reunited with him. I was so scared on the days leading to our anniversary thinking I would cry my heart out and couldn't stop. But truth is I am numb, and I haven't shed a tear today. I don't understand this journey. I miss John so much and just wanna feel him one more time... Hope we all find peace in our hearts and mind my grieving friends xoxo
Comment by Deb on Monday

Ali, I understand. Lonely can come upon us quiet as a whisper, or fierce as a tsunami. Mostly it just feels like a constant and unwelcome traveling companion. The fact that you are in transition right now must only add to the realization that you are truly on your own. But you strike me as a brave and capable woman who will navigate this move alright and create a better life. Many women wait for that shining white knight to swoop in and rescue them from their troubles; you are going to be your own rescuer. And you are so courageous to be taking this risk and believing you can do it. Many of us here cheering you on.

Comment by RebeccaB on Monday

Ali I get it, I miss that stuff too. My husband was a contractor so out on the road a lot and he would always call me between jobs so we spoke on the phone several times a day, I so miss that. It's so hard. I feel like people don't want to hear my grief anymore, their lives have moved on but mine is still stuck on June 3, 2014..... and will be for a long time. Hang in there.

Comment by AEDforever (Ali) on Monday

Feeling particularly lonely tonight. Still in limbo. Still not at a "destination". Still no one to call me or text me daily.  God, I miss that. I so miss the little messages, the phone calls. The feeling connected.


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