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Suddenly widowed

For those widowed suddenly or unexpectedly by any cause. The complementary group is "Long term illness." Yes, you may join both.

We now have a "Suddenly widowed" discussion in the PERENNIAL main forum. Q's? Widville@gmail.com

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Comment by bkb224 on December 14, 2014 at 12:18pm

Community Chorus Christmas program today. It's been a lot of work but lots of fun. That's all the Christmas I want this year. Take care, y'all. Do only what you can.

Comment by Sheila on December 14, 2014 at 10:53am

Appalachian,  my Darren passed away the very same way, a year ago. What a terrible and sudden way to go. 

I am not interested in doing anything christmassy either.... just plan to stay home alone with my cat.  Maybe exchange gifts with a couple friends.

Take care, everyone.

Comment by Appalachian on December 14, 2014 at 1:01am

HI all, I have been a widow for 19 months today. David passed from an Aortic Dissection. It was so sudden. Nothing wrong with him that we knew of. 
I hate christmas now. 
I was off work today and thought I could decorate. NO, NO, NO
all of it is still sitting in boxes. Too many memories, too painful. 
I will try again tomorrow, maybe. 

Comment by smp1122 on December 3, 2014 at 11:54am

Same Lirvie....14months now.

Comment by Lirvie on December 3, 2014 at 10:54am
I woke to start my 15th month of my journey without Jesse. It's cold and windy. I'm sad. I have a bf but sometimes I feel so empty still.
Comment by Lirvie on December 3, 2014 at 1:27am
Oh I detest this Christmas music. I wasn't that big a fan before the accident, but now... Triple Blech. I just want to gift my close friends and family and take lots of naps this holiday. I'm 1 year 3 months out and it still hurts, though it's died down to a dull ache always.
Comment by missmike on December 3, 2014 at 1:18am

Ugh! Yes! I am definitely sick of the music. I'm only 6 months out and I find myself wishing that I could crawl under the covers and come out in January.

Comment by bkb224 on December 1, 2014 at 8:49pm

I am making it a point not to listen to holiday music unless I'm on the way to or in the middle of something fun. I am not decorating except for a few silk flowers. It's just too hard even at 3 1/2 years and I don't need things that make it rougher. Whatever it takes, as they say. I don't begrudge those who are "et up" with Christmas but less is more when it's hard. 

Comment by JK (OK) on December 1, 2014 at 7:36pm
Is it just me, or is anyone else already sick of hearing all of the joyful Christmas music everywhere you go? I hate to be a scrooge, but they're all about being with the people you love. A constant reminder of the impossibility of that!
Comment by bkb224 on December 1, 2014 at 11:04am

Wonderful post from my roses.

I read about new widows finding themselves in financial difficulty. I remember after David was killed, I was asked outright, if I knew how to manage my finances. Fortunately I had been managing our "books" since we were married. But I realized, by the question, that many women had not. I saw it happen in my sister's case. Her husband died and she had never seen them. We had to help her sort out and get a handle on things. 

I know how she felt, deep grief, confused and scared. 

Seek advise and help. It isn't begging. It's just one of those necessary steps we never thought we would have to take.

Blessing to us all. The season is hard enough. Help and advise can make it easier.


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