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Suddenly widowed

For those widowed suddenly or unexpectedly by any cause. The complementary group is "Long term illness." Yes, you may join both.

We now have a "Suddenly widowed" discussion in the PERENNIAL main forum. Q's? Widville@gmail.com

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Comment by Kerrie on Friday
Today's tear trigger. ..I was cleaning the microwave which by the way was probably the first time I did so..Don would handle the kitchen duties. And I took a picture of a magnet I bought last night: if GOD brings you to it, HE will bring yiu through it" and I was sending a picture of that and one of the memorial rose bush I planted (with a little bit of Don) on Valentines day with 3 blooming roses and I was typing messsge with those two pictures and out came the waterworks.
Comment by h20polo on September 22, 2014 at 2:45pm

32 Years of perfect bliss

     all starting with one little kiss

Through the years our loved so grew

    I wouldn't have changed a thing, even if I knew

You brought so much comfort and love from deep within your heart

    It leaves me so empty - now that we're apart

I try and go on and live with a reason

    But it seems to get harder with each passing season

So when things get rough and it it seems there's no HAPPY in sight

    I keep reminding myself that



Comment by h20polo on September 22, 2014 at 2:41pm

Brokenheart2 - I know there are no words that help - I foolishly thought that once a year passed things would be much better - little did I know that the second year was probably worse - I feel your pain - know that you are not alone and that it is ok (and in my opinion normal) to still miss our loved ones so very much.  One thing this site has given me is the peace of mind that I am not going crazy and that others still miss their loved ones after two years (I just passed the 2 year mark) just as much as the day they died.  Hang in there - take every moment one at a time - let yourself enjoy the good times when they happen - and likewise let yourself cry and breakdown when you find yourself sad and missing him.  Personally - I try not to think too much about the future and just focus on each moment as it happens.  Hang in there

Hugs to you

Comment by Brokenheart2 on September 22, 2014 at 12:34pm
Another 365 days...
Another 525,600 minutes...
Another 31,536,000 seconds...
have passed
But nothing has changed
I still miss u madly
I still love u deeply
Forever & Always

My beautiful boyfriend, I don't know how today can be 2 years that I'm here without you :(
Comment by Dave55 on September 20, 2014 at 6:32pm
Hugs Janet and all, yeah Sue hated the self service checkouts, something always went wrong. I'm mixed only because the people can be so cheerful, which when I'm hurting can be hard to deal with. But I think that's bothering me a little less now. Some of our markets like Market Basket don't have them at all.
Comment by Morgana (aka janet) on September 20, 2014 at 2:54pm

I don't like the self-checkout either. I refuse to use them. I agree gardenlady.

Comment by gardenlady on September 20, 2014 at 12:49pm
I am happy to see that others hate the self-checkout.....I thought it was just me! It is crazy that the stores want us to find everything ourselves, unload it to check out....find the prices, pay w/o a person, bag it and take it to our car, load it in before taking it out and putting it all away at home. The least they can do is hire people to help us where they can. It would give jobs to folks who need them too. I found a local grocer who has men who pack and take it to your car and put it in the trunk. The prices are very little more than those big box stores and they have nearly everything one needs. The more we accept as the way they do business the less they will want to do to make life easier for us. Think of how hard this is for the handicapped, arthritic and the frail among us to say nothing of grieving fuzzy headed people, harried moms w/kids in tow, exhausted rushed career parents trying to get home to make a meal after a day at work. Why don't the stores "get it"?
Comment by my roses on September 20, 2014 at 3:05am

My roses

Clovergirl.  I do not like the self check out lane either.  I find it just too much to deal with..sounds daft to most people but for me... it is not what I need. I find it difficult to work out what buttons etc should be pressed.  So do not feel you are crazy or anything.. there are so many small things that just seem too much for us when they are all put together.  We are burnt out and even some loud noises, or children shrieking in a cafe are too much for me.  

Very best wishes and many blessings

Comment by clovergirl on September 20, 2014 at 12:12am

Today makes 5 weeks. I went to dinner with some girlfriends, had a good time. Then I decided to stop at the grocery store for a few things. I got to the check out and there was nothing open but the self check out lane. I put my cold stuff back  left the rest in the basket. I got in my car and cried all the way home. I don't like the self check out, the few times I have used it something didn't go right. I really feel dumb leaving like that, but I really got angry. This is exhausting. Everyone says that I am doing so good, if they only knew!

Comment by Bruja on September 19, 2014 at 5:54pm

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