Suddenly widowed

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Comment by crying on June 21, 2012 at 7:58am

Joellen
Thank your son for letting you cry. Maybe it's a age thing but mine who is 19 gets so mad at me. He screams and yells and tells me he needs a mother and I am gone. He feels like he lost both parents. He reality he did. I will never be the same person. I am a shell and now I am in the pretend world. Yesterday my father moved into an assistant living to be with my mother who is in the nursing home part. I had a major breakdown crying that now my parents are too far about 2 hours by my sister and now i am alone again. My poor father felt so bad as I sobbed away. He just didn't no what to do. I was surprised myself it's not like I was at their house that often...just another person leaving me. My best girlfriend moved down to flordia a year after my husband died another to Connecticut. Everyones life go on like it should and mine is in a stand still in he'll. Sorry all thanks for listening

Comment by Marine28 on June 20, 2012 at 11:40pm

Totally agree on the friends thing. Other than one couple, they all disappeared. I am trying to meet new friends though. Gotta try.

Comment by Joellen on June 20, 2012 at 11:20pm

lorioc42 I totally agree with you. I will never remarry either.Phil and I will be married forever he was burried wearing his wedding ring I still wear mine and always will. Our anniversary is May 1st and it will alwys be... God Bless us all. Hope we all have a soft day tomorrow.......... Happy belated anniversary ! hope it was a soft day for you

Comment by lorioc42 on June 20, 2012 at 11:03pm

Su, I hope you got through your anniversary ok.  I know how difficult it can be.  I don't plan on remarrying - ever, so Roger will be my husband until the day I die and I will continue having an anniversary on June 19.

Comment by Joellen on June 20, 2012 at 8:36pm

Loriroc42 glad it was a soft day for you. anymore that is all we can hope for. I can relate to the no friends situation. Phil and I really had no friends we had each other and our kids. what friends we did have I lost when Phil died. Guess they thought his death was catchy... who knows so all I have is our kids  and our grandkids. Phil died april 7th and our 41st anniversary was May 1st. we were together 42 years though..   this is such a rough road to travel. hoping for soft days ahead for all of us

Comment by Su on June 20, 2012 at 8:29pm

Our anniversary was June 15, it would have  been our 38th.We'd been together 42 years. Ted died Feb 25. 

Comment by lorioc42 on June 20, 2012 at 8:27pm

Thank you Joellen for the kind wishes, it was a soft day for me surprisingly enough and I managed.  I don't have many friends anymore.  I lost them all when Roger died so there was no one in my life except for my kids who cared.  I'm sorry for all the sadness that everyone has been feeling lately.  My thoughts are for you and with you all. {{{HUGS}}}

Comment by Joellen on June 20, 2012 at 6:53pm

Hapy anniversary Lorioc42. hope it was a soft day for you.

Comment by lorioc42 on June 20, 2012 at 3:03pm

Yesterday was My anniversary.  Roger is not here with me, so it became mine.  This was my 30th.  It's been two years since he left me.  My first anniversary alone was absolutely horrid.  Yesterday wasn't as bad - even though it was a milestone.  I did feel very alone and I spent my day alone.  I decided whatever feelings came, came and I was going to accept them all. So I did.  

Comment by Joellen on June 20, 2012 at 10:03am

Chris thank you. after I had a good long cry with my son and he soothed me with his kind words of understanding and sharing how he is dealing with his grief too I did feel better infact I made a memorial stone for Phil's memorial garden in our yard . I still shed a few tears as the evening went on but the hard sobbing was gone. but the scene I created at 4am really threw me under. what the hell was I doing. Of course she went upstairs to bed. that is where her bedroom is. that is where her bedroom always has been. no one has ever slept in the living room, the kitchen  or dinning room. what was I thinking.. the panic was so intense I just don't know what I was thinking..  thanks Chris as always  for understanding and for your kind words and never ending support.. so far except for being tired the day is going ok.  thanks again.

I am so glad I found this site. you women are all so helpful, supportive, caring and really are so full of great advice and a wonderful source of comfort.

thank you all.

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