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I am new to the group. Suddenly widowed 402 days ago at the age of 49. Husband, LtCol USMC (ret) dropped dead of a sudden heart attack at age 51 and 18 months after we were married. Lost my soulmate and best friend like blinking and eye. Devastated is hardly the word for it. Trying to figure out what to do now that an "us" has become an "I" and and "we" is now a "me". We spent all of our time together like the cliche (peas and carrots), I suppose that is a good enough analogy. Blended our kids together (2 for me, 3 for him) and it was working very well. Now I am faced with a vindictive ex-wife who has cut off all contact with his children and I have not seen them since the funeral.
I just need someone who can tell me that I am not going to lose my mind and it will be better one day. I hurt every day, all day. Thank you for any comfort you can bestow.
Heart attack and cardiac arrest are not the same, but for heavens' sake! Did the policy specify ONLY heart attack?? that doesn't exactly cause death: cardiac arrest IS death. You might want to ask the hospital for records. My husband's death certificate lists myocardial infarction leading to cardiac arrest leading to anoxic something.. Racingfan60, do NOT give up! I've heard more than one story of the insurance companies balking and delaying. You are entitled to that policy payout. good luck!! So sorry you have to suffer through fighting for that along with the rest!
That is horrible. I am so very sorry that you are having to go through this along with everything else you are having to deal with. Don't give up, that's what they want you to do then they get to keep the money. We didn't go through the same scenario with my husbands workman comp but it was a battle all the way around. They fought us at every step thinking that we would give up. I know lawyers are expensive but maybe there is legal aid that you can get. Good luck lady, keep your chin up.
I too am having trouble getting my husband's life insurance policy to pay off even though it was only for $5,000 dollars that is $5,000 that I can use to ensure that I can afford my youngest son's college tuition for next year when I asked why they were refusing to pay the life insurance they said the policy did not cover cardiac arrest which the ER said my husband died from I along with everyone that I have spoken with said they thought that heart attack and cardiac arrest was the same thing and the salesman that sold my husband the policy did not point that out when he sold him the policy I am still trying to get the policy to pay off but I am almost ready to give up trying.
I first asked my Victim Advocate the amount of time I would be alloted to read my impact statement ...
I found the easiest way for me was to write about Bob was from the heart in separate categories as a husband, father, friend, son & community the impact his death took on every person, then I combined them & edited & timed it till I was satisfied I had said everything I wanted to say to the judge ...
As it turned out, I became emotionally overwhelmed leaving the Deputy DA to finish reading my impact statement. Because of the age my children & their PTSD, they neither wrote one or attended court ...
You will do just fine since it will be written in your own words to express your loss ...
I haven't been on in quite a while.
But now I feel this is my one place to turn.
August 30 and 31 of this year we will be back in court to hear Detour Gold plead guilty of criminal negligence causing death. We should also be getting a trial date for the men. But that seems more difficult with all the lawyers involved.
Now I get to sit down and write my victim impact statement. But I don't know how to start.
He was the victim, I was the one who believed that there was a company which cared about the health and safety of its employees.
I am the one who kissed him on a few occasions saying "I don't have to worry about cyanide anymore"
He was a millwright to support our family, so I can stay home with the kids.
I am the one who felt something off and didn't tell him. (same feeling I had as a child when I seen my grandpa for the last time before he died)
He died because I was willing to believe there was good and he believed in me.
Now he is gone and I will never know how many people contributed to his death.
One of my kids has already started his impact statement, but since he has been in University up till recently, I am not surprised as he has had to write many essays.
I wanted to take the time to thank SweetMelissa2017 and onedayatatime for your valuable insight and sharing your story with me!
Unfortunately, we learn things as we walk this path ...
Insurance companies are far more receptive when an attorney files the claim ...
Bob's life insurance & the driver's insurance both paid out w/in 30 days of his death at a cost of $100 per claim for a total of $600K ...
My attorney did not receive 1/3, which is cutomary, because a lawsuit did not have to be filed to force payment
from either insurance company ...
Onedayatatime, Condolences to you. Your story should be told, probably on social media or some site where a lot of people have access. Most people do not know how difficult it is to get a claim paid. Everyday, people shell out hard earned dollars paying for life insurance without understanding how difficult it is to deal with the company. My husband had one life insurance attached to our mortgage for 20 years before death. It took them five months to pay a paltry $39K (amount of the mtg). They wanted the attending physician to sign documents. I could not find him because he is not an employee of the hospital and I did not know which hospital he was working at. In the end I had to get assistance from my employer who had a connection with the insurance company to intervene on my behalf. They also could not find the application paperwork because it was 20 years old and probably misfiled someplace..
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