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Suddenly Widowed

For those widowed suddenly or unexpectedly by any cause. 

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Comment by Bill's Wife on January 21, 2018 at 2:40pm

Hi I am new to this group my husband passed away suddenly December 27,2017. My husband Bill was my soul mate and best friend. The grief is so over whelming to think he's never coming home again. I try not to think about the future it hurts too much. Friends try to help but they don't understand the overwhelming pain. I can not believe this is my new life,we had plans. Thanks for listening. Kim

Comment by Seashell on January 2, 2018 at 7:42am

Riverside...I understand your pain. I had come home from work to find that my husband had passed away from a heart attack. Our youngest grandson was just 4 days old. We had been up to see him and had just returned home the evening before. Know that there are those that hold you in their thoughts and prayers.

Comment by riverside on December 31, 2017 at 7:13pm

Boxer Mom:  Thank you for your comment and advice.  Most of my friends do not understand the excruciate pain that I feel.  From this community, I find that I am not alone. 

Comment by Boxer Mom on December 31, 2017 at 11:59am heart aches for you. Many on this site know your pain. I lost my husband, best friend suddenly as you did 3 1/2 years ago. Those first many months are just numbing. I had to take each day in baby steps...sometimes hour by hour finding books to read that helped me grasp grief, grieving and life after death. Find groups such as this or local grief support group to talk with as unfortunately most friends and family members have not experienced this kind of spousal sudden loss and just simply don't know how to help. 

Try to find simple things to keep yourself busy...I made list after list of things to do and checked them off  when done to feel I was still productive and alive. Everyone has their own way of finding themselves and their way....still on my journey.

I send you blessings and my thoughts.....

Comment by Dianne in Nevada on December 31, 2017 at 11:12am

If you don't have plans this evening, pop into the chat room to ring in the new year with other Villagers. You are not alone. We'll be there for all US time zones from 11pm Eastern to 12:30am Pacific.

Comment by riverside on December 31, 2017 at 8:58am

I joined the widow fo 50. I am joining this group too - Suddenly Windowed.  I became a widow on Nov 8 this year, so suddenly and unexpectedly, while were vacationing in California (I am from Canada).  We have been together of 40 years, we were each other's best friend.  He died of sudden Heart attack, very very quick.  No time to say good bye.  the pain is unberable  as you understand.  I am home now in Canada, inside an empty apartment, all alone.  Totally out of balance, do not know how to continue.........

Comment by Soaring Spirits on December 25, 2017 at 7:23am

We're hanging out in the WV chat room for anyone who finds themselves alone on Christmas day. Join us!

Comment by Soaring Spirits on December 24, 2017 at 10:14pm

Greg & Frank:  That link will work for people who haven't yet joined Widowed Village, because it takes them to the Widowed Village sign in page where they would be able to apply. 

For current Widowed Village members to join the Widowed Pen Pal Program you just need to change your profile.  Click on 'Settings' that you'll see over in the left hand column. That will open up the page that has your responses to the profile questions. Scroll down to the question about Pen Pals (it's the 3rd box) and change the response to YES. Then scroll all the way down to the bottom of the page and click on the SAVE button. That will add the green check mark to your profile photo - and when I run the Pen Pal Program the next time you will receive your matches. (I usually run it once a week.)

If you have any questions, let me know.


Comment by Frank on December 24, 2017 at 9:27pm

Hi Greg after you left chat I found this:

That will get you to the site about WV Pen Pals.


Comment by Greg on December 22, 2017 at 7:59am

Hi Frank. What do i say? I am so sorry for your loss. Yes ,you and i have gone through a similar event which took our brides away from us. Patti had been diabetic since age 9. She suffered the trials and tribulations of being a diabetic throughout her life until it finally caught up with her. Like your Susan, Patti suffered a heart attack in the middle of the night. The paramedics were able to bring her back but by the time we got to the hospital she had suffered too much brain damage. She passed away 3 days later on our anniversary. She was the love of my life Frank, as I am sure your Susan was to you.  


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