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Suddenly Widowed

For those widowed suddenly or unexpectedly by any cause. 

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Since He Died...

Started by Crabby. Last reply by Roxi on Friday. 7 Replies

People are always telling me how strong I am.  I don't feel strong.  It's rare that a day goes by when I don't cry.  You could probably count on one hand how many days I haven't cried since July 29,…Continue

He deserved so much more love

Started by KJPE. Last reply by Mrs Bear on Thursday. 11 Replies

At least once a day, I feel intensely frustrated & sad because my husband was exceptionally wonderful to me, and I keep wanting to give him more love and cannot believe that I can't any more. …Continue

Walking the line tonight

Started by BlueRoses. Last reply by lulu74 May 15. 3 Replies

The line between what is and what was. It is more of a tightrope, that often at this hour starts to fray. My sailor, soared last August. He was a young, bright, tenacious man, who left this planet at…Continue

Old Mementos

Started by Crabby. Last reply by Roxi May 1. 3 Replies

Tonight I was going through boxes in the basement, trying to declutter some because I have to move.  Don died 9 months ago yesterday.  i went out to get pizza, and when I came home, I found him. He…Continue

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Comment by Greg on March 16, 2018 at 3:23pm

Carol, yes not now. I have the dvd locked up in my safe. I want to watch it so bad but im just not strong enough at this point. But it gives me comfort to know that it is there when im ready.

Comment by Gunnerx2 (Carol) on March 16, 2018 at 3:18pm

Greg, I'm not sure I could watch a video of Dennis.  I think it would be overwhelming to watch so I understand.  Someday maybe you will be able to but not now ....   Carol

Comment by Gunnerx2 (Carol) on March 16, 2018 at 3:17pm

This made me smile Misty!  I can feel how much comfort it brought you.   Carol

Comment by Greg on March 16, 2018 at 3:16pm

My wife and I renewed our wedding vows in August. She passed away in October. I have a dvd of us renewing our vows but I cant bring myself to watch it.

Comment by Rainy (Misty) on March 16, 2018 at 3:15pm

Hi, I just wanted to say thank you so much for that link!  I was able to hear and save Jerry's voice.  It's the first time I've heard his voice in 3 months!  OMG, it meant to much to me.  I have bawled though smiles today!  Now, I can hear anytime time as often as I want too!!

Comment by Mrs. M. on March 16, 2018 at 3:07pm

It makes me cry to hear my husband's voice bc I miss him so. I will keep the messages/recordings. I know someday I will feel differently...someday...

Comment by shelley on March 16, 2018 at 1:50pm

I've also saved all my husband's voicemails and emails.  Hard for me to listen/read them though.  I heard one  widow say that she had a computer person install her husband's voicemails onto her computer and the computer person somehow installed the voicemails into her shuffling music play list.  So a song will play and then suddenly her husband will say, "Hi, honey, on my way home".  She said she loves that his voice pops up unexpectedly.  That would totally freak me out.  But I do admire her strength.  

Comment by Gunnerx2 (Carol) on March 16, 2018 at 10:26am

John I too have saved Dennis' voice mail on my cell phone :)   Carol

Comment by Peaceful3616 (Jessica) on March 16, 2018 at 10:23am
I have a resource that may be helpful. If you go to, you can type in your phone number and it will make a recording of the outgoing answering machine/voicemail message. It then emails the file to you, so you can listen to it at any time.
Comment by chef (John) on March 16, 2018 at 10:19am

I kept my wife's message on the answering machine until I cancelled the land line. I used to call the house in order to hear her voice. I see nothing "wrong"  with what you do. 


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