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Suddenly Widowed

For those widowed suddenly or unexpectedly by any cause. 

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The Shock Has Worn Off

Started by GrievingandLost37. Last reply by KJPE on Thursday. 7 Replies

The shock of losing my husband has slowly worn off.  I am left with the reality that he is never coming home.  I will never hear his voice again.  He will never walk in the door of our home.  While…Continue

He deserved so much more love

Started by KJPE. Last reply by KJPE Mar 2. 7 Replies

At least once a day, I feel intensely frustrated & sad because my husband was exceptionally wonderful to me, and I keep wanting to give him more love and cannot believe that I can't any more. …Continue

I've never known love like that before

Started by Doxielover. Last reply by KJPE Mar 2. 11 Replies

My Joanna and I were together for 23 yrs. Last May she had a surgery to clip an aneurysm and instead was in surgery 14 hrs for a deep brain bleed. That was the last time I saw her as herself. She had…Continue

184 days and counting

Started by jlsrdh. Last reply by going.on.slowly Feb 20. 1 Reply

Today is 184 days(6 months) since my husband of 38 years, Tom, died from a heart attack. It was always just the 2 of us, no kids. We thought the same thoughts so much of the time it was freaky. He…Continue

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Comment by ilona the tattooed widow on April 6, 2011 at 5:33am
Thinking of you Dawn. When my nightmare started, April 11th, 2010. I didn't eat a drop for 8 days. I lost 25 lbs. I would suggest some sort of protein powder, something liquid to drink, I remember I wanted NO solid foods at all. Protein drinks will help keep your strength for your 7 year old. I also have 2 girls 6 & 7.
Comment by Dawn on April 6, 2011 at 5:10am
I am in tears misshim, for all of us. I too had a dream I was so happy he was holding me we were making love I woke up stunned, and heartbroken I want to go back to that dream and never wake.I don't bother to know what day of the week it is, everyday is "cryday" for me.
Comment by MissHIm11 on April 6, 2011 at 4:49am
I had a dream that my husband returned home and this was all a huge joke. This seems more fitting for April fool's day because Jorge loved to play pranks. Today the joke is on me and I am not laughing. This is not a good start to my day.
Comment by MissHIm11 on April 6, 2011 at 4:37am


I hate to read that you don't have a lot of support around you during this tragic time. I too am so grateful for this website. I have found so much comfort but it isn't the same as having my husband. I will pray for you today. 

Comment by Chris on April 6, 2011 at 1:05am

If you're losing weight, go to the store & get a few packs of Ensure.  It doesn't taste the best, but it will keep you healthy and give your body the nutrients you need while your appetite is away.

Comment by Dawn on April 5, 2011 at 7:35pm

Damn life sucks.. I don't know what I would do without this board to safely share whats happening in my head. my only other support is my sister who I know has heard enough from me.. I am getting the "positive messages" from her . I miss my husband I have had 7 silent weeks since I last talked to my best friend. He knew me better than I know myself.I miss our talks, his touch, his smells I miss EVERYTHING about him .We don't / didn't have friends just each other it was all we needed, for the last 10 years anyway which is when we moved to where we live now. I can't sleep without pills, still have a hard time eating. I had to go out to the mall and get new pants, mine were falling off , I am down 5 sizes I've dropped 30 pounds. I will see my Dr. on the 11th , I have a 7 year old here I have to do my best to take care of. I am hoping my son will be able to get himself together and raise her soon.. When I got custody we were doing it together, I had no plans on doing anything with out Sean. I had a overnight sitter I got brave and thought I am gonna go do something, anything I am out of this house. I drove 1 hour to my sisters visited for an hour and drove home in tears as I don't know what to do on my own it feels unnatural. I am still in awe over all of what has transpired, life can stop on a dime. Thanks for giving me another mopey rant spot <3 to us all

Comment by ilona the tattooed widow on April 5, 2011 at 4:08pm


I would say you could be in both categories, but definitely this one. I'm so sorry for your tremendous loss and to think it was near Christmas. I was 'thankful' that my husband died in April, after Easter and the closest birthday, my daughters wasn't till August, but I was a walking zombie throughout her entire 7th birthday.

Comment by LadyK468 on April 5, 2011 at 3:43pm

I never know if I fit into this "suddenly widowed" catagory. On 12/22/10 my husband Brian was helping his dad put up some christmas lights on thier gazebo and he fell and suffered multiple injuries including a severe head injury. He "lived" another month in the Trauma ICU. After several infections including meningitis he died on 01/19/11.  Despite the month between the fall and his death there were two weeks where I hoped that he would wake up(he never did) and come back to us and two weeks where I coped with his impending death.   Yes unlike so many of you I had time to say my goodbyes and spend everyday with him at the hospital but it still felt "sudden".   My old life seems like years ago and I don't remember what it felt like to be that old me.  In these past few months the worst thing that ever happened to me in my life has occured.  Brian left me with two beautiful children, ages 7 and 3 and 17 years of memories( we were married for 15yrs).  The kids are my little support system and are doing okay.   One day at a time has a meaning for me now and its how I take everything.  I feel like my strength to get through each day comes from how I promised Bri that I would raise the kids so he would be proud of them.   We had our rough times during our marriage and he could drive me nuts like a lot of husbands can but I know ache for those 15 phone calls from the grocery store or to check for the 100th time if I needed something when he was  out.  Came to realize that no matter how annoying they seemed at the time...he was just trying to take care of us. Now I am hoping he is watching us as closely from wherever he is. There are days I think he is certainly making his pressence known. Not in a "ghost" kind of way but just how I am guided sometimes to people, or things that get me through.


Comment by ilona the tattooed widow on April 5, 2011 at 2:43pm
omg..I just read your profile, my husband also died on my dads birthday, April 11th, he'll be 73.
Comment by ilona the tattooed widow on April 5, 2011 at 2:37pm


My Greg died only 9 days before yours, April 11th, 2010. This week is killing me and you better believe I don't speak to my neighbor, I get sick just looking at her, her husband is REALLY in a better place, ALIVE WITH HER.


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