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Suddenly Widowed

For those widowed suddenly or unexpectedly by any cause. 

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Comment by wannabmartha on March 6, 2011 at 11:54am

Oh Kerri H.

My heart hurts for you today as you find out the awful news about your sister on top of losing your husband. I hope you'll find comfort in this community and help with your grief. There is a double loss group that I'm a part of that you might find helpful eventually. The group has just been started.

Comment by T on March 6, 2011 at 11:49am

Kerri H - I am so sorry.  Having a close young loss once is hard enough, thinking of you and your family.

Comment by Kerri H on March 6, 2011 at 11:07am

marielee and bmcmillen, my husband also committed suicide, in April 2008.  On the one hand it's comforting to meet others who have been through it but it is also very sad because I wouldn't want anyone to go through that.  If you guys need to talk or need anything at all, I'm here. 

I also got a call today that my older sister, 41, was found dead today.  They don't have any idea what happened at this point.  She was laying on the couch.  I had to tell my mother.  There is nothing worse than having to tell a mother...

Comment by Scottish Helen on March 6, 2011 at 10:55am

I am so glad this site exists - my husband died from cancer in 2006 he was 43- we had 3 months from the date he was diagnosed to the day he passed away.  He stayed at home throughout his illness, looking back I was very naive, and i am so glad that our son (who was 6) was at school when my husband died - because those last hours were so traumatic.  I had many flashbacks in the first year and it took some time for my brain to process those last moments.  I suffered PTSD and needed the support of a counsellor and also a course of anti depressents to recover my own mental health. I am 4 years out now and life is good and I am grateful for the time I had with Willie.  If I had the choice - he would still be here but we don't get that choice but even with the painful end - I am glad he was in my life for 10 years, I am blessed by our son and the love we shared together. 

Comment by mamiller on March 6, 2011 at 9:25am
Lisa, I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  My husband died April 17th 2009.  I didn't have any warning signs as well.  I do not know any widows personally either.  I was 39 when he passed.  Some of the discussion below re: PTSD sparked my interest.  I think I had it the first 9 months.  It got better, but all of a sudden I have flashbacks to the morning I woke up and tried to do CPR (it had been hrs).  This is new and something I haven't dealt with yest.  It's almost 2 yrs out, does this make sense? - Michelle
Comment by Lisa ( Marielee) on March 6, 2011 at 8:18am

Hi everyone,

I am new here. My husband died July 19,2010. He committed suicide and was only 48. No warning signs and my life and my boys life has completely been turned up side down and changed. Getting through with my faith, family and wonderful friends. Thanks for this site. Been looking for something since I don't know anyone that is a  widow or even someone who's husband committed suicide.  Try find something good in today.  Lisa

Comment by EatPrayLove on March 5, 2011 at 6:48pm

@ kismet

Seems like that might be the only thing that didn't die

Comment by Susieg on March 4, 2011 at 6:00pm
I am so sorry.  You have certainly had your share, for sure.  (((HUGS)))
Comment by kismet on March 4, 2011 at 2:09pm

@ EatPrayLove


I love that your sense of humor has endured.

Comment by EatPrayLove on March 4, 2011 at 12:50pm
I have PTSD and was in counseling for about 2 1/2 years. I'm doing well right now - except that I startle very, very easily. I have some flashbacks, but I know how to get myself out of them fairly quickly. Counseling made a HUGE difference for me. My husband was actually the third of eight losses that happened within a 12 month period (one friend died in surgery, one had a brain tumor, one had a heart attack, one committed suicide, one died after a long illness, one of lymphoma and then I had to have our dog put to sleep a week after my husband died). After so many losses in such a short time, I was wondering whether I needed a counselor or a witch doctor to remove a curse.

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