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Suddenly Widowed

For those widowed suddenly or unexpectedly by any cause. 

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Went to bed and didn't wake up

Started by Peacefrog. Last reply by Melissa on Saturday. 12 Replies

 September 13, 2018 was like any other day, he worked out at the gym doing strength training like he had for the last three years. He picked up dinner on the way home steak and cheese hoagies.  It…Continue

Life goes on, but it’s so bloody hard

Started by Lal68. Last reply by Lal68 Nov 13. 4 Replies

My husband was 46 and died suddenly.  We thought he had the flu, took him to doctors Thursday and she thought the same. On Friday he had stomach pains so took him back to the doctors where he was…Continue

Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend

Started by Crabby. Last reply by jlsrdh Nov 7. 13 Replies

Since my husband died 14 weeks ago, I now take 6 pills a day for anxiety and insomnia.  I still don't sleep.I hate eating alone.  I can't even figure out what to shop for or what to make. When I do…Continue

Grief, guilt, and regret

Started by Crabby. Last reply by Melissa Oct 18. 11 Replies

Hello,I lost my husband of 38 years suddenly 11 weeks ago tomorrow. We were empty nesters with two grown children, and two adorable granddaughters. It was a Sunday afternoon, and Don was in our…Continue

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Comment by Dawn on March 10, 2011 at 5:10pm
I read all the posts here and understand something in ever one of them. I am so DAMN MAD, SCARED, LONELY ECT !! I could just SCREAM.he was 42, I was with Sean for 25 years married for 22 of them, I got a knock upon my door early morning hours of Feb 12th 2011. It will be 1 month Saturday. I already know I will need therapy I have an appointment on Monday. We were soul mates we grew up together we raised kids and have custody of our granddaughter who will be 7 next week. Bless her she don't just cry for him she drops and SCREAMS, just like I want to, I drag on doing just what I must little ones need so much , He was more a father to her, grampy played silly games made special snacks and teased gramma, they were a "team". I am 46 and like others on here know the "talk" life goes on yada yada, I don't have ANY intrests in meeting another man, Perhaps because I was fortunate to have known my soul mate we did EVERYTHING together and I mean EVERYTHING. For the past several years we were together 24 hours a day 7 days a week, people would ask how do you do it? did we argue.. we sure did .. and we ALWAYS forgave each other we loved unconditionally.. so now what???? Thanks for letting me "spout" starting to feel better, for the moment anyway..
Comment by Laker on March 10, 2011 at 2:22pm
So glad to have found this group.  My husband died on 11/20/10 of what turned out to be an enlarged heart.   I miss him so much, wonder if there was anything different that I could have done, know that I was fortunate to have been with him but play his last hours over and over again in my mind.   He was not that young in years, but a very active, vital and engaged 63-yr-old man.  Many of his co-workers commented that they thought he was younger.  Our 18 years together flew by. I was blessed by my relationship with him but it seems like a distant memory sometimes.  What a rollercoaster of emotions!
Comment by Scottish Helen on March 10, 2011 at 10:38am
None of us chose to walk this road and I wouldn't wish widowhood on anyone - but now that we are on the path - it's comforting to have you walk by my side :-)
Comment by kdbugg on March 9, 2011 at 9:06pm
My husband died Suddenly on Nov. 1st 2010. When I get the medical examiner's report I will know how.... I will never forget that knock on my door. I was 29 (just turned 30 last friday) and he was 31.  My kids are 5 and 6.... so happy to have this place to come and talk with others.
Comment by primheart on March 9, 2011 at 10:01am
Ive just found this site and it is wonderful. My husband died suddenly on June 8 2009. Our two boys age 13 and 9 at the time were home and it still gives me nightmares. Being able to come here and see that Im not all alone has helped.
Comment by Eowyn on March 9, 2011 at 4:03am
Laura Lee, I'm so sorry. What you say is so true- nothing you signed up for... a complete revolution in one's life...
Comment by Laura Lee Altobelli-Anderson on March 8, 2011 at 3:08pm
I am a sudden widow - my husband died on May 9, 2007 from a freak motorcycle accident.  He was away on a South American business trip for two weeks. I came home, and found the police at my door. By the time I made it to the hospital, it was too late. My daughter at the time was just shy of 5 yrs old. My husband and I had met eachother in high school - I was 15, he was 16. He was my best friend - I miss his laugh so much. It's absolutley unbelieveable how a person's life can turn upside down in a matter of minutes. Just devasting. I was suddenly 38 and a single mom, nothing I signed up for.
Comment by Lisa ( Marielee) on March 7, 2011 at 3:57pm

Carleen,  I am so sorry. Seems like sometimes things just come one after another. At least that is how it feels to me right now. I believe that we can get through this healthy and whole and I think we all have taken that first step by reaching out.


Kerri,  Thank you . It is really hard not having anyone that "get's it". Losing your husband is bad enough but it is so hard to make any sense whatsoever when it it to suicide. There was abosoutely no warning. All of us who interacted with him the day before and even hours before saw nothing. How can that be?  Anyhow. Thanks for being a part of this community. Sorry I am here but also glad to.   Lisa

Comment by wannabmartha on March 7, 2011 at 2:38pm


I'm glad you found us. You are not alone! I think you'll find a real sense of understanding and support here. Considering all that you've lost you might want to check out the group titled "More than 1 Loss". It's just getting started but might give you a place to connect with others in very similar circumstances. There is also a forum titled "Double Loss" My hope for you is to put the devastated pieces of your life back together again. The whole will just be different than it was before. XO

Comment by Carleen on March 7, 2011 at 2:22pm
I am new to the site, but sadly not new to the devastation of grief and all that goes along with the horrible process.  My husband of 20 years died suddenly and unexpectedly at home from a heart attack on June 26th, 2009.  He was 44 years young.  It's been nearly two years now, but feels like just yesterday still.  Within a year and a half, I lost my father, an older sister, and then my spouse.  Blow by blow my life flew apart, and I am still trying to find the pieces to patch back together.  I'm sorry to have to meet all of you due to each of our circumstances, but thankful that such a site exists.  I'm sorely in need of fellowship and friendship at this point in my life.  I am the only widow I know, and most of "our" friends have fallen away.  My kids are grown and out of the house so I am very truly all alone and on my own.

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