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Suddenly Widowed

For those widowed suddenly or unexpectedly by any cause. 

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Went to bed and didn't wake up

Started by Peacefrog. Last reply by Melissa yesterday. 12 Replies

 September 13, 2018 was like any other day, he worked out at the gym doing strength training like he had for the last three years. He picked up dinner on the way home steak and cheese hoagies.  It…Continue

Life goes on, but it’s so bloody hard

Started by Lal68. Last reply by Lal68 Nov 13. 4 Replies

My husband was 46 and died suddenly.  We thought he had the flu, took him to doctors Thursday and she thought the same. On Friday he had stomach pains so took him back to the doctors where he was…Continue

Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend

Started by Crabby. Last reply by jlsrdh Nov 7. 13 Replies

Since my husband died 14 weeks ago, I now take 6 pills a day for anxiety and insomnia.  I still don't sleep.I hate eating alone.  I can't even figure out what to shop for or what to make. When I do…Continue

Grief, guilt, and regret

Started by Crabby. Last reply by Melissa Oct 18. 11 Replies

Hello,I lost my husband of 38 years suddenly 11 weeks ago tomorrow. We were empty nesters with two grown children, and two adorable granddaughters. It was a Sunday afternoon, and Don was in our…Continue

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Comment by Janine (txmomx6) on January 18, 2011 at 8:56pm

Andrea and Carol .... my date is December 18 (2007).  Jim died of an aortic dissection.  It happened suddenly but he was life flighted to a great hospital in the Houston medical center, where he was stable for a few hours.  He died that night in surgery .... neither of us even suspecting that would be the outcome.

And Andrea, I didn't realize, until I just now read your post, that today is the 18th .... another anniversary date .... but it's over in 5 minutes.  You're so right about grief being measured like the age of our babies .... by days, weeks and then months.  I found that so odd, even as I did it.

So, after 3 years .... the 18th doesn't haunt me the way it once did.  Thankfully.

Comment by Kerri H on January 18, 2011 at 7:09pm

I lost my husband to suicide on April 30, 2008.  I was in the hospital after a meltdown.  My mom showed up at the house because one of the kids left their backpack in her car and called 911, there were dangerous levels of carbon monoxide in the house so the boys needed to go to the hospital.  They were 11, 7, and 5.  They didn't see him, my mom found him and kept them from him (he had barricaded himself in the garage).  My mom told me in the hospital and I had to sign papers allowing her to take the boys from the hospital.  Then, DHS got involved and "evaluated" me to see if they needed to remove the boys from my custody.  All I could think was that if they took the boys from me too then I really would have nothing to live for...  Of course, that wasn't really accurate thinking.  They dismissed the case so no problem and the hospital released me the next day.  It's been a struggle but I think we are making progress.


And, oddly enough, I am taking EMT classes so that I can be an EMT, then later a paramedic or a nurse (not sure yet). 

Comment by bps1314 on January 18, 2011 at 5:52pm
I was widowed suddenly when my husband was killed in a motor cycle accident on his way home from work.  Witnesses stated he died at the scene but they resuscitated him because he was a donor.  When they finally notified me I went to the hospital to find him on life support with a severed brain stem due to his neck being broken.  I made the decision to take him off of life support.  He died 6 minutes after they took him off.

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