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Suddenly Widowed

For those widowed suddenly or unexpectedly by any cause. 

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Breaking Point 1 year

Started by jlsrdh. Last reply by chef (John) 10 hours ago. 10 Replies

I year ago today my husband of 38 years, Tom, died suddenly from a sudden heart attack. I had 2 intense dreams last night that he was here, alive again. Both woke me up, I think it was him saying…Continue

this is perfect site to journal

Started by jlsrdh. Last reply by BA7.5 16 hours ago. 2 Replies

 this is the perfect site to journal, and express any thoughts and feelings we all go through at these terrible times. Its is helpful to read what others are feeling, thinking too. The responses from…Continue

Guilt, Shame and Pain

Started by Snagglefoot. Last reply by Kris63 yesterday. 15 Replies

Hello Group. I don't know if this is the correct place to say this or talk about what has taken place this last week but I need to let the pain out because it is hitting me hard today. RIP August 7,…Continue

He deserved so much more love

Started by KJPE. Last reply by Roxana on Saturday. 12 Replies

At least once a day, I feel intensely frustrated & sad because my husband was exceptionally wonderful to me, and I keep wanting to give him more love and cannot believe that I can't any more. …Continue

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Comment by Boo on January 25, 2011 at 4:39pm

I love the candle.  Powerful image.  I vote for that one.


Peeps, can you vote please and let us know?

Comment by Abigail Carter on January 25, 2011 at 3:47pm
Here are another couple of ideas...
Comment by Boo on January 25, 2011 at 3:18pm
shall I keep looking - you won't offend me x
Comment by Janine (txmomx6) on January 25, 2011 at 3:16pm
I like #2, too.
Comment by Mandy on January 25, 2011 at 3:12pm
I'd have to pick number 2!
Comment by Boo on January 25, 2011 at 3:06pm
I have another image for you all to consider ... feedback please
Comment by Boo on January 23, 2011 at 11:01am
Hi everyone, I noticed we don't have an image for this group.  Any thoughts on this graphic?  I'm sure others will have better ideas ... send them in :-)??
Comment by Lynette Edsall on January 22, 2011 at 5:52pm

Hi everyone.  My name is Lynette (my name here is netekay--my nickname). I lost my husband David April 6, 2008 to a heart attack in bed next to me. He was two weeks short of his 46th birthday.

There were no symptoms other than what he thought was bronchitis, which he got every year. Found out after the autopsy that even if he'd been in the hospital, they probably would not have been able to save him. He was gone in less than 10 minutes.

David was a software system engineer and was about two weeks away from completing his PhD in High Energy Physics.

For a little over a year, it was just our Sheltie Cody and I until December of 2009; I had to send him to be with his daddy. He was in congestive heart failure.

I have two new Sheltie puppies now: Darby is 3 and Brody will be 2 in a week. I really hate it that they will never know what a great guy David was.

xoxoxo to everyone!!



Comment by Boo on January 22, 2011 at 12:44pm

I thought I had already shared what happened when Cliff died.  But I guess my widow-brain is wrong because I can't find it in this forum.

So here are two blog posts, the first is when he had his stroke, the second is when he died 12 hours later.

2009 - it feels like yesterday, yet it feels like a thousand years since I've seen him, touched him, breathed him in.

The Stroke

The End of my World

Comment by WidowinaSpeedo on January 20, 2011 at 10:28pm
Wow. These stories are amazing. My husband Gregg died on 9/7/2003 at age 39. We lived on Vashon Island, south of Seattle. He had gone for a long training run early that morning in the city and I remember thinking that day "wow, I haven't heard from him in awhile, I wonder if something horrible happened" and then pushed the thought out of my mind, deciding that if something had happened, I couldn't do anything about it anyway. He called about 15 minutes later, said he felt like crap and asked if I could bring him some clean underwear. A few hours later I was walking down the ferry dock with our 10 month-old daughter, a stroller, carrying an awkward car seat and a large duffel bag (including the fresh underwear) and I saw him standing in the parking lot. Just standing there. I thought to myself "a better husband would come out and give his wife a hand!" So I was totally irritated with him. When I got closer I asked "what's wrong?" and he just shrugged and said "I don't know, I feel weird." And then he collapsed onto the pavement. I called 911, I did CPR, the paramedics came, he was awake for a bit but that was basically it. It wasn't until I was driving to the hospital that it even occurred to me that he might die - or that something was wrong. I thought it was just some crazy fluke. The paramedics had told me that they were having trouble getting vital signs and I kept thinking "what's wrong with you? Get some vitals!" In my mind he was a strapping, healthy 39 year-old. By the time I got to the hospital he was pronounced dead. Little did I know (or did he know) that he had massive heart disease. I didn't learn that until I received the autopsy results.

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