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It is over. Detour gave its guilty plea and the judge made a decision.
It took all of 2 days.
The reason it was quick and we didn't get the penalty we were hoping for, was because the judge din't want us to have to deal with it any longer. We suffered enough.
I do get a settlement, which Detour was hoping to give in monthly payments over 10 years. I told the crown I can't deal with them that long.
He told the court and the judge agreed. I will get the amount in full and it won't even say Detour on the cheque. They pay the court and the court pays me.
Needless to say it was a relief it was over, despite the Detour group smiling and all happy that they didn't have to pay more.
Next up, starting January 29, will be a four week trial for the 3 managers.
For now I will relax and hope to get the money sooner than later. (they have 60 days to pay)
Super delayed reply here. Tiffany, your comment about money is def not taboo. I'm 36 and my partner died suddenly 8 months ago. He was the bread winner by a long shot and it has been incredibly stressful. I've had to live off the charity of friends and family, eventually moving out of state and our house and into a small one bedroom apartment somewhere less expensive to live. No will and we weren't married, so not a dime for me (not that it is about that at all). We knew this was my nightmare scenario, since we weren't married yet and I begged him to do something to protect me (he was 22 years older than me). He had an ex-wife to whom all life insurance would go and he'd been meaning to get a supplemental policy but...you know men. A combination of not thinking anything bad could happen and general procrastination on crap like that. Well, here I am now. No savings and a tiny 401k that I stopped putting $ into (all $40 a paycheck) once he died because I needed every penny for survival. So...I don't know how it will work out for you or I. I've met with a financial counselor and am trying to live as frugally as possibly. I guess I'm glad that I still have time to save? I don't make a lot of money but at least I have a job and can be grateful for that. Feel free to commiserate wth me any time.
On the topic of books, I highly recommend "Tales from a Mediocre Widow" I connected so much with that book. It really hit all the points I went though.
Thank you, AMARINESGIRL for the book recommendation. I hope it helps me as much as it seems to have been a comfort to you.
I found a really great book on Amazon and it basically saved me. "I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye" by Brook Noel and Pamela Blair, PhD. I covers sudden loss and grieving from these two women's perspective. Both lost loved ones suddenly and formed a lasting friendship through their ordeal. It is one of the best books I have read since my Steve died 423 days ago. Yes.....I count the days. Crying less right now because I am focused on other things and just push it down. It takes a lot of steps, daily steps to get from point A to point B. I pray for your strength and peace today.
Hi Cookie_love, makes sense to me. Thanks for sharing.
WeighAnchor, I'm still waiting for the police report and It's been 9-10months since my LH accident. I can fully relate. Don't let anyone tell you you shouldn't want or need that information. You have to process what has happened to you in your own way. <3
You will be strong again. Hang in there and just do the best you can.
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