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Suddenly Widowed

For those widowed suddenly or unexpectedly by any cause. 

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He deserved so much more love

Started by KJPE. Last reply by Mary H 7 hours ago. 1 Reply

At least once a day, I feel intensely frustrated & sad because my husband was exceptionally wonderful to me, and I keep wanting to give him more love and cannot believe that I can't any more. …Continue

Words I Never Got Around To Saying

Started by sis. Last reply by KJPE Jan 9. 6 Replies

Is anyone else tormented by the words you didn't get to say to your loved one? There are so many things I wish I had said before he went to bed that night, but who ever thinks they won't be there in…Continue

Feel like I am in a nightmare I can't wake up from

Started by Kmelli3 (Kate). Last reply by DIVA70 Jan 4. 19 Replies

Hi everyone, I am new to the group.  My husband Tom died of sudden cardiac arrest on November 23rd of this year.   He slumped over in his recliner while watching TV.  I called 911 and did CPR, but it…Continue

Went to bed and didn't wake up

Started by Peacefrog. Last reply by KJPE Jan 3. 15 Replies

 September 13, 2018 was like any other day, he worked out at the gym doing strength training like he had for the last three years. He picked up dinner on the way home steak and cheese hoagies.  It…Continue

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Comment by laurajay 3 hours ago

Sometimes our hope fades and our faith we once strongly depended on wanes. Our vision of our future simply blurs. For me that means time to become quiet and look within for the sustaining power that brought me this far for so long a time. My upbringing taught me that as mortals we will not ever here on earth have the answers we seek to all of our questions . But rather take heart that one day we will have answers clearly revealed to us and we will be given the gift to understand those answers. Something not available here and now. One authority offering grace and everlasting love. Surviving a truly unexpected and sudden death is very different than loss that has evident explanation. For me and for now- it must be enough to know the One who knows.

Comment by Melissa on Friday

I am seeing a medium in a couple of months. I really think there are people who have this gift. I saw a medium after my father died, and the things he said were remarkably accurate. He has since retired, unfortunately. Thank you so much for this beautiful story, jlsrdh.

Comment by Seashell on Friday

That was beautiful. I went to a medium 2 years after my husband passed and it was a profound experience. I have since received several readings from mediums. 

Comment by KJPE on Friday

jlsrdh:  Your story was so amazing I'm considering contacting a medium myself....I talk to my husband aloud a lot but I also cry a lot when I do.  I have hope that he might hear me....sometimes...

Comment by shelley on Friday

jlsrdh, I absolutely believe in everything you said.  I was told that my husband could hear me if I was thinking about him and/or talking to him silently.  But I will start speaking out loud.  

Last week I spent an entire day cleaning the trailer and working in the yard.  Mice are trying to claim space in the trailer and so for the first time since John died, I cleared clutter and threw things away.   I spent hours in the yard weeding, planting and trimming trees.  Then in the late afternoon, as I was standing in the kitchen, I felt him next to me, felt his presence strongly next to my left shoulder.  He always loved it when I cleaned the kitchen and worked in the yard.  

Comment by loveboo on Friday

Thank you for sharing jlsrdh. I consider myself a skeptic but your experience does give me some hope.

Comment by HockeyDogs on Friday

I love what you wrote - such a beautiful experience - and I've had similar. It's so comforting.

Comment by jlsrdh on Thursday

Ok so on first post  as I had everything written be was way over amount allowed. At bottom of first post the string around our  ankles means we were soul mates. ❤️❤️



Comment by jlsrdh on Thursday

so to continue:  Dawn says you have given away half of his clothes, is very true, and he wants you to give away the rest. You are a good cook, I am, and he is very sad you are not cooking and your refrigerator is empty(it has been empty since he died). He wants you to start cooking and taking care of yourself like you used to. When you do cook he is there in the kitchen with you. Then she said, he is going to start leaving feathers as a sign for you, and when  you see them acknowledge them and say I understand. This is just a SMALL sample of what she said yesterday. One thing she mentioned, I won't divulge, but it is something only the 2 of us knew. It is very specific and she NAMED it. Also she said you are not talking out loud to him much now (I'm Not) and he cannot read your mind, he wants you to talk out loud to him more. So why did I share this about my experience was that your partners/spouses are there, talk to them. Dawn said by the way, your grandmother is here and she is not only your guardian angle, but your spirit guide. We were very close. The experience was emotional, healing and cathartic. Yes, I cried through the whole hour, and all the way home. So, my goal telling you all about my reading yesterday was that I hope it offers comfort to all who read this.



Comment by jlsrdh on Thursday

I just want to share my experience from yesterday. First I want to say on 8/20/18 I lost to my husband of 38 years to a heart attack. No history of heart problems. This grief and mourning is overwhelming at times and all consuming. When he first died I had numerous things happen (signs) in the house that have now slowly diminished. It was always just us, the love of my life, my soul mate. So I decided to research mediums here. One, who is a empathic psychic medium had all great reviews. So yesterday was my reading. I'm on no social media sites I want to state. I only do email and text. When I scheduled my appointment for the reading you do not state who you are trying to connect with. When I arrived she only asked for my full name at birth, married last name and birthdate. Nothing else. then she stated all her "gifts" and how different parts of her body tell her things like cancer, stroke, heart attack etc. 

Then she started and said there is an older gray haired woman, taller than you, very put together. Is your mother still alive, yes I said, well it must be your grandmother. I said, not one of mine, as I was taller than both. Immediately she said well then who is Dorothy? OMG that is my husbands great aunt. She passed in the early 80's. She is this mans spirit guide, did your husband pass, I said yes. Dawn started to rub her stomach, what is wrong with his stomach, OMG I kept my mouth shut, did he have stomach cancer, no he had h. pylori. Very few people knew this and he had just started his second round of meds to try to kill it. Then she started rubbing her shoulder, and said something is wrong with his heart, did he have a heart attack? yes I said. Then she started with he loves you so much, over and over. He is showing me his heart broken in 2. But then ,she said raising her hand up and holding about 12 inches apart, his ashes are in a box and it is on a shelf, and when you pick it up and talk to it he is there. OMG that is all true, the biodegradable box is about 12 x 7 inches. It sits on a shelf below my TV in the bedroom and I do pick it and talk to it. She said you have give away half of his clothes, which is true, and then she said, he wants you to give away the rest. Keep only items you want. Then she said so what is up with the wind chime? When it rings it is him. And something is wrong with a tree in your back yard. So the wind chime is the first one I've ever had. It was a gift at Christmas(20) days ago. It has his name and date of birth and date of death on one side and an inscription on the other. Very few people know about it and the tree in the back yard being sick only 3 people know about. Dawn said you both have a connected string tied around each of your ankles. another to follow as i'm over amount you can post




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