Unwedded widows & widowers

Comment

Comment by TamilovesTim yesterday

Tanya, thanks for acknowledging my post!  It bothered me for a few days then I just had to let it go,  I know what I meant to my fiancee and I felt like we were totally married,  I didnt need the paper to prove anything.

I have a wedding to go to this weekend. I wasnt going to go, but I am going to the reception and not the church ( the church part might kill me) and the recep is just a party and I am bringing a girlfriend to hang out with me so I think I will be ok!  Fri night I am going to a concert to see Tim McGraw and I was supposed to be going with my TIM so I wasnt going to go to that either but I have a gf that can go with me and she lets me cry whenever I want so that works out good!  I know there will be tears but I need to go and he will be with me in spirit.  I have to get used to going things alone or with friends, but it still just sucks.  I miss him so much..that doesnt seem to lesson with time. Today is 3 months and it feels just as painful as the first day.  

Comment by Tomsgirl yesterday

Nice job kristiandkenny and big hugs for you getting through as best you could

Comment by kristiandkenny yesterday

This past weekend I was MOH at my BFF's wedding. The wedding day, I was numb until my speech then I couldn't even get half of it out. The days after have been worse because the reality has set in but I need to remember, Kenny and I did not need the wedding to be married. According to us, we were married for 9 years. Still so difficult. I am happy I was able to standup for her, it was an honor and I know Kenny is proud of me.

Comment by Rebirth.Tanya (Tanya) yesterday

I echo Courtice, Rose- this "little piece of your heart" so eloquently expresses your profound loss- beautifully written, and I can totally relate to feeling like a beautiful unfinished painting...

Welcome to the club no one wants to join, and hoping the support you will find here from all of us who truly get it will bring you some comfort for the long journey. It's great that you found this site so soon after your loss- these first two years can be especially tough but keep reaching out and hold onto to hope and you will get through it.

TamilovesTim- Sorry you had to deal with babymama drama- don't let her get to you- shame on her!

To all of you ladies who were able to go to weddings- I admire your strength. I was "lucky" that most of our closest family and friends had already gotten married but there were still a few that I totally bailed on- I just couldn't do it, and thankfully my friends understood. One was for my BFF since childhood, and I helped her get ready and spent some meaningful time with her before seeing her off- she still had a great day in spite of my absence and I don't regret not going because that was what I needed to do to take care of myself- I didn't want to have to worry that every one was worrying about me on such a special day. 

Sending you all so many prayers of comfort and strength to carry you through and wishing you all a peaceful evening... <3 

Comment by courtice on Monday

I can hear feel your profound loss in those words. I hope that you can find some comfort here.

Comment by Rose831 on Monday

Hello my fellow unwed widows and widowers (my heart sinks at just that greeting as I never, in a million years, thought those words would pass through my lips).  I am very new here and not sure exactly where to start.   My fiance, at age 34, lost his battle with cancer on April 20, 2013.  He proposed to me just five days before he passed away.  We had planned on having a wedding ceremony in the hospital, but that beast of a disease took his life before we could say our I do's.

I think a piece of my experience is best conveyed through what I wrote in my journal just one month after his proposal. 

Here goes...a little piece of my heart...

Exactly one month ago, Evin proposed to me. “You know how much I love you, right? I need you to know how much I love you. I want you to know how much you mean to me. I want everyone to know how much I love you,” he said with the biggest smile right before he asked me to marry him.

Later that night I sat beside him, propped up in a chair next to his bed, on which I had become a permanent fixture. He explained very calmly, “we feel like a beautiful unfinished painting…. and the painting will be complete once you are my wife…and I don’t think we have much time.” I held his hand in mine, trying to memorize every inch of him as we looked quietly at one another. And we both knew that our forever existed in the most amazing, life changing memories we has created together.

Today, the world moves around me and my heart stands still, forever frozen in the most beautiful unfinished painting; a painting that can never be duplicated; a painting that has changed me to my very core.

Comment by Rebirth.Tanya (Tanya) on Sunday

Greetings everyone- sorry it's been a while- hoping you are having as peaceful a weekend as possible. Happy Belated Mother's Day to you moms. WalkingBauer- my heart goes out to you- I know how hard and heartbreaking these significant days are and I am sending you extra prayers during this tender time. In spite of the difficulty I admire your courage in honoring your fiancé and your wedding day by going to the fundraiser- be gentle with yourself and allow yourself space if you need it to cry. It will probably feel super surreal but one day you will look back and be glad you did it. I remember attending so many different functions/fund raisers in the wake of 9.11 and as hard as each one was, I am comforted knowing I stood there for Sergio. I will be thinking of you tomorrow and sending you even more prayers for strength and comfort to carry you through. Big hugs...<3

Comment by WalkingBauer on Saturday

Five months ago this past Thursday I lost my fiance. Today would be our rehearsal dinner and tomorrow our wedding. I have filled Thursday - Sunday with "his" activities - baseball games, movies and Outback Steakhouse. I have bought a different white dress to wear to an event that is taking place tomorrow that's a fundraiser for research for the genetic disease that took him from me. I have his memories all around me. I even dreamed of him last night and then refused to open my eyes for quite some time this morning so I could keep pretending it was real... But here I am, in Texas not Michigan, with a different family not mine and his, with my real wedding dress but not my groom. And my heart is breaking even more.

Comment by kristiandkenny on May 13, 2013 at 11:06pm

Thanks ladies! I am so happy that I am a member of this group. I don't feel nearly so alone in this world. Everyone I talk to says that they don't know what to say because "this stuff doesn't happen". Knowing that there are others who know how I feel and that we are here for each other. It helps. Thank you.

Comment by Kiki8 on May 13, 2013 at 9:37pm

I was the Maid of Honour for my best friends wedding a month after Chris died. I had such bad anxiety that whole day and my stomach was in knots, but I knew Chris would want me to be there for them and to help make their day special so I did my best. My baby sister is getting married in Dec and I am a bridesmaid... it's in Mexico so hopefully that will make it less painful.

• ‹ Previous
• 1
• 2
• 3
• …
• 23
• Next ›
• Page