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Unmarried Widows & Widowers


Unmarried Widows & Widowers

Were you unmarried when your partner died? However you define your relationship, your loss counts in WidVille. Post anywhere, find peers in this group.

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Comment by ashjannoel (Shantelle) on July 21, 2016 at 12:12pm

Our fifth anniversary is Saturday, I'm so lonely, but I have the support of loving friends and family coming to spend the day with me. It's be a houseful, 10 adults plus children to feed. I might not have time to grieve until bedtime, but I don't know how I would get through this without them.

Comment by daringtoday on June 13, 2016 at 7:02pm

Brandy1977, anniversaries are very hard -- so poignant. I have several coming up next week and am going out of town because I just can't face being here. It must be hard to have children who don't understand. Sending lots of hugs and sympathy, Amy

Comment by Brandy1977 on June 12, 2016 at 9:06pm

"Hi Everyone, Sorry I have not been on for awhile a lot of changes and up and down emotions. I still can't believe it going to be a year next week. The pain of not still having my wife here hurts just as much as the first day without her. It breaks my heart seeing our girls being so upset I recently celebrated  our youngest daughters 13th birthday and she proceeded to tell me that this is the worst birthday ever because Mama J is not here to celebrate her birthday. She does not understand how.  her other mama could be gone when she is still so young. I told her if Mama J would of had a choice she would still be here. I wish everyday for 5 more minutes. I hope everyone here is doing okay I know this can be a tough journey for us all. Lots of hugs

Comment by daringtoday on May 13, 2016 at 4:22pm

I lost my soulmate on March 22 due to a very sudden illness. I am glad to find this group of people who understand what it feels like to lose a partner outside of marriage. I have no legal right to any of his possessions, which is painful. I was fortunate that his siblings understood how important we were to each other so that I planned the memorial service and wrote the obituary. I miss him so much. 

Comment by sweetlady on May 8, 2016 at 2:50pm

i  am a widow now 16 yrs and i still miss him cant believe the time went still work at 70 dont feel it, still drive have a dog maya who means the world to me and try to go on but a lot i still cant face or handle

Comment by princess57 on March 23, 2016 at 2:14pm

How od you define your relation ship when ur mate dies?  I am now refered as Mark's widow or common law wife there was no diffeance outside of not be able to get the full benefits owed. Some times i am in a class by myself, but that how i accept it.

Comment by drummergirl on November 12, 2015 at 3:18am

I am so sorry that had to happen to you and Jim, Plainfield!  I could not imagine going through anything so horrific.  I hope you are having a smooth recovery from your physical injuries after the accident.  Please know that I am thinking of you.  If you need a friend, here I am.

Comment by PlainfieldAlone on November 11, 2015 at 10:47pm
Jim and I worked together for 25 years and we were together as a couple for almost six years. On September 11, 2015 were in a terrible accident with a tanker truck, it was a side impact collision that took his life and severely injured both me and my daughters friend. I am home recovering from the accident after one month in the hospital. I suffered 30 bone breaks, collapsed lung, concussion, bruised kidneys, etc. my daughter's friend is still in the hospital.
Comment by Margaret on October 22, 2015 at 5:34pm
I just lost my soul mate on Tuesday. He had liver trauma 14 months ago and was doing very well, then 6 weeks ago everything started to change. After multiple trips to the hospital his body just refused to come back. Me and his family decided to not keep him hooked up to the machines. It was a very messy end. When he breathed his last breath I literally felt something ripped from chest and I ran to the bathroom and threw up. I can't function, I can't stop sobbing. Earlier today I was taking a bath and I thought "I can sink down into the water and go be with him". Then I realized that if my family even felt a 10th of the pain I'm feeling if I did it, it would be cruel and selfish. I'm "sleeping" with his shirt and his picture, which his sister yelled at me about. She told me to stop wallowing because he wouldn't want that. I'm still angry at her, she doesn't know my pain, she only knows her own. I'm struggling just to breathe and get through each minute.
Comment by Brandy1977 on October 22, 2015 at 3:49pm

It's really great to have a place to put your feeling out there and people really understand and not just say they understand and those people don't any idea how painful all this is for all of us losing the love of our life's, our soulmates and of course our best friends. I thank each and everyone of you for all that you have posted to help me understand why I may be feeling this way and that it is okay to still be grieving and crying that I am not going crazy. I send healing thoughts and hugs to each and everyone  of you.


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