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Unmarried Widows & Widowers


Unmarried Widows & Widowers

Were you unmarried when your partner died? However you define your relationship, your loss counts in WidVille. Post anywhere, find peers in this group.

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Comment by princess57 on October 7, 2016 at 2:37pm

My Love left me 5 years ago as of Sept 20  recently I did find out some things which makes me rest easy now I just have to work on them.  I was told that I can be buried next to him  regardless that he is in the military part of the cemetery, we were togather for 15 years.  He had PTSD because of his service and I went through the good bad and the ugly with him, he had a little wick sense of humor and I knew he wouldn't want me any where else.

Comment by Brandy1977 on August 31, 2016 at 5:24pm
It's been quite a while since I have been on here. I have read through alot of the posts. I see that there is a roller-coaster of emotions through out. This journey is unpredictable one day you could be doing okay and have taken many steps forward then the next day feel like your back at the beginning with a million steps backwards. That's where I am today I miss Jan so much it's been 14 months. I still have moments where I think to myself that this still has to be a dream how could she really be gone.She was always a person who was able to really show how she felt through songs. This is how I have pushed through these months the last two songs I listened to recently really hit home how I was is called my Beloved wife by Natalie Merchant and the other one is called Let your heart beat again by Danny Gokey. I have had recently people I know tell me that it's past a year maybe you should date. I tell them she was the love of my life why would I waste my time on anyone else. I don't want anyone else. Why do people do this.i hope everyone can try and find some peace through this journey as much as you can. Hugs
Comment by lostwithouthim on August 8, 2016 at 6:58am

My partner of close to four years passed away 58 days ago. We talked about getting married around our 5th anniversary. We went ring shopping a few times but didn't decide on anything - well he did but I wanted to finish paying bills off before we got me a ring. Now that he is gone I wish I didn't care so much about the bills all the time!!

Right after he passed my sister gave me some money to purchase some cremation jewellery. I bought a ring that has three red stones (his birthday stone was a garnet) and some diamonds. When I put his ashes in the ring and put in on my finger, I got this huge sense of comfort. It was only for a few seconds. It felt as if he was hugging me. I wear that ring on my wedding finger to honor my commitment to him.

I have even thought of changing my last name to his. I am having mixed emotions about this one though, just because we weren't officially engaged.

Thoughts on changing my last name to his??

Comment by ashjannoel (Shantelle) on July 21, 2016 at 12:12pm

Our fifth anniversary is Saturday, I'm so lonely, but I have the support of loving friends and family coming to spend the day with me. It's be a houseful, 10 adults plus children to feed. I might not have time to grieve until bedtime, but I don't know how I would get through this without them.

Comment by daringtoday on June 13, 2016 at 7:02pm

Brandy1977, anniversaries are very hard -- so poignant. I have several coming up next week and am going out of town because I just can't face being here. It must be hard to have children who don't understand. Sending lots of hugs and sympathy, Amy

Comment by Brandy1977 on June 12, 2016 at 9:06pm

"Hi Everyone, Sorry I have not been on for awhile a lot of changes and up and down emotions. I still can't believe it going to be a year next week. The pain of not still having my wife here hurts just as much as the first day without her. It breaks my heart seeing our girls being so upset I recently celebrated  our youngest daughters 13th birthday and she proceeded to tell me that this is the worst birthday ever because Mama J is not here to celebrate her birthday. She does not understand how.  her other mama could be gone when she is still so young. I told her if Mama J would of had a choice she would still be here. I wish everyday for 5 more minutes. I hope everyone here is doing okay I know this can be a tough journey for us all. Lots of hugs

Comment by daringtoday on May 13, 2016 at 4:22pm

I lost my soulmate on March 22 due to a very sudden illness. I am glad to find this group of people who understand what it feels like to lose a partner outside of marriage. I have no legal right to any of his possessions, which is painful. I was fortunate that his siblings understood how important we were to each other so that I planned the memorial service and wrote the obituary. I miss him so much. 

Comment by sweetlady on May 8, 2016 at 2:50pm

i  am a widow now 16 yrs and i still miss him cant believe the time went still work at 70 dont feel it, still drive have a dog maya who means the world to me and try to go on but a lot i still cant face or handle

Comment by princess57 on March 23, 2016 at 2:14pm

How od you define your relation ship when ur mate dies?  I am now refered as Mark's widow or common law wife there was no diffeance outside of not be able to get the full benefits owed. Some times i am in a class by myself, but that how i accept it.

Comment by drummergirl on November 12, 2015 at 3:18am

I am so sorry that had to happen to you and Jim, Plainfield!  I could not imagine going through anything so horrific.  I hope you are having a smooth recovery from your physical injuries after the accident.  Please know that I am thinking of you.  If you need a friend, here I am.


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