Widowed in 2012

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Comment by 3janda 11 hours ago

just came home from my son's little league game and they lost big time 16 - 5,  he was kind of down on himself saying he made a lot of errors and didn't have a good game.  i was feeling bad about it so we switched the topic to how the grass needed mowing and i was going to try and start the mower(it wouldn't start yesterday) and A asked what was wrong w/it he was going to help me and i pulled in my driveway and my neighbor had  mowed the lawn. made us both forget about the game. i have the best neighbor and his wife they have gone above and beyond, from the time that john was first diagnosed. they both work and have 3 kids i'm sure they have barely enough time for themselves  yet they have really stepped up for me.  his dad passed when he was 12 and he feels this is his way of paying it forward.  i know my children appreciate all that they do for us. some day they will pay it forward for someone else.  good lessons and good people.

Comment by TimetoFly 12 hours ago

Oddly enough that is my widowed sisters anniversary as well...and May 29th  would have been married 20 yrs for Mike and I. Feel for you in the pain you must be in so soon after your loss. I barely remember the first year...foggy brain, exhaustion, stress. The numb days are actually a blessing in disguise..in a really weird way...as our bodies can only handle so much. Just keep taking baby steps and be patient with yourself. Will be sending prayer your way on the 23rd. 

Comment by Widow+Mom (Kelly) yesterday

May is a hard month. My husband died 5 months ago on December 14th. Our 20th wedding anniversary is may 23rd. I figur Father's Day is next then I get a break from firsts until October. Don't really feel much of anything these days. It's weird. For months I couldn't quit crying. Now I'm just numb.

Comment by kinigenie yesterday

Yesterday I saw a medium.  It was a last minute decision and I am glad I did it.  My husband came thru loud and clear...she told me things only he would know.  I felt so good...like I talked to him!  I came home and felt so at peace and slept so good.  Today I just feel lonely for him.  I miss him so much it hurts..

Comment by Karen yesterday

40ford, yep, and here I am in my little home in South Carolina - a place I never thought I'd be.  I sold my travel trailer that my husband and I took to Florida all the time while he was on business, and I vacationed.  We so enjoyed that time.  We, too, had planned to retire to Florida (Crystal River area), and now that's gone.  I moved here because my parents are here, and they are aged and will need my help at some point, and I like having some family around.  I have that for now.  Maybe I'll end up in Florida at some future point. 

We roll with what we are given, eh?  I wish you peace and happiness in your new home.

Comment by 40ford yesterday

Well, my dog and I are now in Florida at our (my sweety picked it out) retirement house. Sitting on our lanai looking over the lake, and listening to Nora Jones. I've decided that I will wallow in self pity today. We were supposed to retire here this year, and spend our days relaxing in the sun and doing what ever the hell we felt like doing. So much for all that planning and saving.

Comment by TchinTx13 on Saturday

I've been so busy at work, all I do is wake, work, work some more at home, sleep and do it all again. It helps to be busy but my husband is always on my mind. I have to drive over the same stretch of road he was killed on everyday. It sucks on a level that can't be expressed in words. The first year fog has lifted somewhat and I'm not sure if it's good or bad...I just know I still miss him tremendously.  I also have the opportunity to read all of the posts from all of you everyday. It gives me comfort to know I am not alone (as sad as that is for all of you). I think about you all and the daily struggles you face. All of us in different places in our struggles and all of us facing different challenges. I appreciate all of your comments, wish you all peace of mind, and time to smell the roses.

Comment by Tomsgirl on Saturday

Never too late for me to hear your comment Petal. I actually just had the same conversation with a friend yesterday who I had to tell "listen, no offense, but I don't think it's for me and grief isn't something you 'get over'..." She said something about a counselor being able to help "put it in a box and put it away" and I nearly screamed. But I think I got my point across, if it comes up again I'm going to have to tell her that I"m sorry I can't grieve the way she thinks I should.

Comment by Petal on Saturday

So this comment is a day or two late, but hearing from some that love their therapy and others of us who don't want or need it, I'm pretty sure the answer is that we each know ourselves best and we don't need someone else telling us what to do.

Comment by Su on Friday

Ron, I don't know if you meant to be funny, but you gave ME a chuckle  :D

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