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Comment by only1sue on January 1, 2018 at 1:28pm

Another year older but the memories remain. Wishing you all the joy of happy memories that make you smile and the opportunity to change the future to build more of them. We are strong and must go on alone as best we can.

Comment by Mac on January 1, 2018 at 1:10pm

We have survived. We are living. Wishing everyone all the best in 2018!

Comment by Dianne in Nevada on December 31, 2017 at 11:08am

If you don't have plans this evening, pop into the chat room to ring in the new year with other Villagers. You are not alone. We'll be there for all US time zones from 11pm Eastern to 12:30am Pacific.

http://widowedvillage.org/chat

Comment by only1sue on December 28, 2017 at 12:59pm

Life is  what happened after we had the biggest blow to our heart. I know it has taken those five years for me to have the confidence to plan any time ahead and even now not able to make tool many plans too far ahead. So maybe 2019? 

Comment by laurajay on December 28, 2017 at 11:04am

Found  this in my newsfeed.  Written for us??? 

Comment by sueprnova on December 25, 2017 at 6:45pm

Just a quick pop-in...

I hope your day was as good as it could be.

Much love all over! 

the 30th is the the 6th wedding anniversary I've spent without him.  That's worse than all the holidays combined. 

I usually fly back to CA to visit him.  This year I planned too late and can't get a reasonable flight for a 12 hour trip. 

Just like Christmas.  I didn't get my usual 'memorial' ornament. 

I'm not feeling any of it. 

And I am ok with that. 

And to all... a good night

Fisler - I love you! <3 

Comment by barbee on December 23, 2017 at 8:10am

Christmas for me has always been in the NW with snow and ice and heavy sweaters and a fire in the living room with warm cocoa. Huge tree to the ceiling. Kids and grandkids running and squealing about.

This year, I'm in southern California, in the middle of the Red Zone, near the largest fire in California's history. It's warm -- in the 80's. It's dry -- humidity 3-8%. The sky is brown and filled with smoke. I'm in a motorhome, so decorations are definitely minimum -- a six-inch tree and two battery candles.

I've been focusing on how life has become different, rather than wishing for what used to be. Wanting what I used to have depresses me and makes me feel empty. I'm enjoying seeing Christmas lights on cactus rather than pines. The carols are the same. Tamales instead of turkey. This likely will be my last long trip, so I'm storing these memories and experiences to take back home -- to keep in my heart and share with my family and friends. 

May we all in this season find some peace in our hearts. Blessings to us all.  

Comment by Patience (Diane) on December 13, 2017 at 1:38pm

40ford, Laurajay, Maria Lousia, only1sue, Timelord, Goodoldwine, Anne and Everyone in "2012"  Thank you for sharing... Hard to believe that for many of us, this will be our 6th Christmas or Winter Holiday without our Loved Ones.  Mostly I try to convince myself to enjoy the beautiful lights and decorations. I'm lucky my daughters helped get the tree up. I did more decorating this year than in past years. But still, when I reflect, there is an emptiness that is hard to describe. It doesn't help that I lost my Dad, my Father in law and my two wonderful dogs (aged 15 and 13) this year. My dogs were just like family members..  When it snowed the other day, I was imagining the dogs running and chasing squirrels and chipmunks and deer in the snow... 

Wishing everyone here peace, tranquility and joy in the meaning of the holiday season.  -Diane

Comment by 40ford on December 12, 2017 at 6:12am

Laurajay, I just read your post, and I could not have said it any better.  I am TRYING to put up my tree, but every decoration has meaning to it. Even the elf on top is 50+ years old...it was our first and only!  

Comment by laurajay on December 9, 2017 at 11:28am

The fifth   year  but the sixth   holiday  season...except for my sweet grands  having their time to love  Christmas  and  winter  w/ snow...I wish it would  go away fast.  It holds hope  and love  but  no longer  the magic-and the emotion  of remembering the sublime  holidays of the past  is too overwhelming.  I don't  do well and  I'm not  going to pretend  it gets easier  because it doesn't.  I will  be a loving , giving grandma  but my heart  will be yearning...for my lost loves...my husband, parents, friends, family...childhood.  Of course  there  is internal strength  to draw upon  but life  is changed forever  and till changing  daily.  Nibble a Christmas  cookie  and hum a Christmas  carol...light  a Christmas candle   and remember  a very special  baby   born long ago to save  a troubled  world.  Never  before  have we more needed  our world  and  it's people saved...even from themselves.   Maybe  those  things  will be  enough to think on  to see it through   this holiday season   -   maybe.                           Christmas   love  - dear   2012   friends.        Be blessed.     lj

 

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