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Comment by only1sue on November 30, 2019 at 5:13pm

My older son just sent me a series of pictures of his father Ray and his daughter Tori aged about eight months. It was taken 16 years ago. It was like watching a movie and I cried and cried. I so want him to be here with me, with us being the two old grandparents, doing it alone is not the same. We would have been the loving support for our children and grandchildren. I hate being an elderly widow so much dome days.

Comment by Frank on September 5, 2019 at 12:47pm

Hi Sue,

You know, I think that any of us who have lost a spouse would take the time to sit with another who is going through, or has gone through those lonely times and just sat and listened, or may even chime it as you wish it.

One cannot intuit when another has that need. It takes the other person to maybe, ask, or to say I've a problem. Sometimes we can just look at a person and see that something is wrong and ask, but the other party needs to act on it.

Were we nearby, I know I'd take the time to sit with you.



Comment by only1sue on August 13, 2019 at 4:50am

From time to time I go back to longing for Ray and the comfort only he could provide. While he could be very offhanded sometimes if he could see I was really worried about something he would sit down and discuss the problem with me. I really miss that. I have some delightful friends but no-one who could do this for me. It takes .a special person to know us so well.

Comment by Frank on April 7, 2019 at 9:23pm

It's been six years, and as Laura says "going onto 7" for me.  I talk to Susan nearly every day, if nothing other than while kneeling at the foot of the bed saying my night prayers, I tell her "I love you, and I miss you."

I've friend whose husband died and you should hear her sputtering at him as she climbs a ladder to change a light bulb.   I think it's good for the soul.  It helps release some the the tension.


Comment by 40ford on March 29, 2019 at 2:18pm

Sue, I agree with you 100%.  It's 6 years for me also and we were together just over 50 years. I talk to her all the time. 

Comment by only1sue on March 29, 2019 at 1:36pm

When people say: "How long is it since you lost Ray?" and I say: "Six years" it sounds like a long time.  But when I am at home by myself and I sit down to eat or to watch a movie, or jump up to make a cup of tea I still long for him to be there, not gone but somewhere else in the house so he will come back in to sit with me.  Silly I know but 44 years of companionship is not forgotten, even after six years.

Comment by Frank on January 3, 2019 at 9:52pm

You know,

From the minute I looked at that picture, it instantly grabbed my eyes, and the more of the picture I looked at the more it grabbed my mind.  The winter landscape, the bright full moon, and Santa's Sleigh and reindeer, and there I was trodding  through the snow, shoulders bent over  with the staggering weight of loss and loneliness.. The foot prints leading back into the darkness of the beginnings and facing toward the the light and promise, and the story of Santa Claus bringing hope and joy.....

It took me a bit to respond but thank you for that picture. 



Comment by Ccdague on December 23, 2018 at 9:35pm

Thinking of each of you during the most difficult time of the year.  I wish you peace, strength, and rest.  Six years is a long time, but flew by in an instant..........most of us still wonder what hit us.  

Know that I will be thinking of you....

Comment by Goodoldwine on December 23, 2018 at 2:15am

have not been on in along let me vent  .. after trying to sell my farm for over 6 years, and trying to work with the Bank wells fargo the worst bank in the world !!!!!  flat put will not help with any thing NO help with refi. or loan modification... just short sale or deed in lieu of foreclose.....  so I am walking away and giving them the Farm  ... than maybe I will be able to sleep  at night...Hope ever one has a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.... God bless every one....    Steve

Comment by snydergirl on December 19, 2018 at 12:59pm

I too am putting on my best face.  Christmas just doesn't feel the same anymore.  I finally put a tree up last year and I will put it up again this year.  I am hosting an Open house on Christmas Eve.  I have senior parents that insist on Christmas dinner, so I cook.  But, really I am just going through the motions and this too shall pass.  Me


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