A community of peers created by the Soaring Spirits Loss Foundation
We're so sorry you're here. Please introduce yourselves here, check the pages under "Help!" for more guidance, and make friends anywhere on the site.
This group's Greeter is @LaurieR.
Latest Activity: 10 hours ago
I am at three weeks...Gary died on Feb. 4th. The hardest part for me is this deep ,physical ache that is in my body that I can cover with activities but remains underneath. It lifts a little sometimes, mainly in the evening...then returns in the morning. Does anyone else have this inner feeling of deep sorrow that just feels so heavy and sad.
Last night, I had a dream about my husband. When I abruptly woke at 5:30 this morning I had a smile on my face. I felt safe and content. But as soon as I realized that the ball of pain that lies so heavy at the top of my stomach was gone, it all came rushing back. I realized it was all just a dream.
I am new here. I lost my husband just over a month ago. I have read the posts here and though I know none of you, I feel as though we are closer than people I have known my whole life. Never in my life have I ever felt so much pain, loss or confusion. Every day I struggle for someone to just understand so maybe I am not so alone. Although I wish I could change the fact that I lost EVERYTHING the day I lost my husband, I know I cannot. And if I cannot change it, I can at least, hopefully, both gain and give support from and to those who understand the most. I look forward to getting to know you all.
Thanks, Arthur. I had lunch with two good friends today and I finally heard their message...feeling the pain of grief is just what I need to accept right now...it hurts and I don't want it...but realizing I can't change it, is a relief. Everyone says the cloud does lift over time...I am doing the motions of life (getting up, showering, doing volunteer work, walking dog, etc...and hopefully one day it won't feel so awful. I am also new to faith and am praying for God's help in this journey.
I'm slogging through the pain today..I'm losing faith that I can do this and come out of it.
My pain is still raw, for me it's worse at night. I keep busy most days, but the nights are so quiet and still...tears usually stain my pillows. I'm looking forward to the day when I can think of Ken and smile and laugh without crying, I miss him soooooooooooooooooooooo much!
Describing the pain as deep and uncontrollable strikes home. It is outside my will to change...it is just there and , like you, I HATE IT!
I'm so sorry Arthur09265. I can't imagine losing both a child and a spouse. I wish I could say something to make it better.
wow, i am trying to go back to work today with my 17 year old son but I had a bad moment inside a Dunkin Donuts, i saw a small 2 year old with her grandma. Boy it just hit me when Alex (My 19yr old) died 11-26-11 i will never be able to share in his children, and now only 2-1-12 the loss of my wife of 21 years and now she will never see grandchildren. I am trtying to hold it together for Dillon but this pain is so deep and uncontrollable I HATE IT!
Join yourwidowed peers
Sign Upor Sign In
Widowed Village connects peers with each other for friendship and sharing. The moderators, administrators, and others involved in running this site are not professionals.
Please don't interpret anything you read here as medical, legal, or otherwise expert advice. Don't disregard any expert's advice or take any action as a result of what you read here.
We're friends, not doctors, financial or legal professionals, and we're not "grief experts." But we are here, and we've been "there."
Use TAGS on blog posts, photos, and when starting discussion topics. They keep content together and are a fun way to browse the site!
© 2013 Created by Supa Dupa Fresh.
Report an Issue |
Terms of Service
Please check your browser settings or contact your system administrator.