Widowed in 2012

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Comment by Widow+Mom (Kelly) 8 hours ago

May is a hard month. My husband died 5 months ago on December 14th. Our 20th wedding anniversary is may 23rd. I figur Father's Day is next then I get a break from firsts until October. Don't really feel much of anything these days. It's weird. For months I couldn't quit crying. Now I'm just numb.

Comment by kinigenie 11 hours ago

Yesterday I saw a medium.  It was a last minute decision and I am glad I did it.  My husband came thru loud and clear...she told me things only he would know.  I felt so good...like I talked to him!  I came home and felt so at peace and slept so good.  Today I just feel lonely for him.  I miss him so much it hurts..

Comment by Karen 19 hours ago

40ford, yep, and here I am in my little home in South Carolina - a place I never thought I'd be.  I sold my travel trailer that my husband and I took to Florida all the time while he was on business, and I vacationed.  We so enjoyed that time.  We, too, had planned to retire to Florida (Crystal River area), and now that's gone.  I moved here because my parents are here, and they are aged and will need my help at some point, and I like having some family around.  I have that for now.  Maybe I'll end up in Florida at some future point. 

We roll with what we are given, eh?  I wish you peace and happiness in your new home.

Comment by 40ford 21 hours ago

Well, my dog and I are now in Florida at our (my sweety picked it out) retirement house. Sitting on our lanai looking over the lake, and listening to Nora Jones. I've decided that I will wallow in self pity today. We were supposed to retire here this year, and spend our days relaxing in the sun and doing what ever the hell we felt like doing. So much for all that planning and saving.

Comment by TchinTx13 yesterday

I've been so busy at work, all I do is wake, work, work some more at home, sleep and do it all again. It helps to be busy but my husband is always on my mind. I have to drive over the same stretch of road he was killed on everyday. It sucks on a level that can't be expressed in words. The first year fog has lifted somewhat and I'm not sure if it's good or bad...I just know I still miss him tremendously.  I also have the opportunity to read all of the posts from all of you everyday. It gives me comfort to know I am not alone (as sad as that is for all of you). I think about you all and the daily struggles you face. All of us in different places in our struggles and all of us facing different challenges. I appreciate all of your comments, wish you all peace of mind, and time to smell the roses.

Comment by Tomsgirl yesterday

Never too late for me to hear your comment Petal. I actually just had the same conversation with a friend yesterday who I had to tell "listen, no offense, but I don't think it's for me and grief isn't something you 'get over'..." She said something about a counselor being able to help "put it in a box and put it away" and I nearly screamed. But I think I got my point across, if it comes up again I'm going to have to tell her that I"m sorry I can't grieve the way she thinks I should.

Comment by Petal yesterday

So this comment is a day or two late, but hearing from some that love their therapy and others of us who don't want or need it, I'm pretty sure the answer is that we each know ourselves best and we don't need someone else telling us what to do.

Comment by Su yesterday

Ron, I don't know if you meant to be funny, but you gave ME a chuckle  :D

Comment by recent loss(Ron) yesterday

Joycelyn I know we all know  that is a stupid  question but people  do not get it and if we bean all of the ones  that do not get it we will be all that is left.

Comment by MyNewLife (Melody) yesterday

Isn't funny how in life all of will face either dying first or being the survivor and yet we are so unprepared.

This. This reality hit me hard too not too long ago. When we stand there and say our vows with hopeful hearts, do we really even consider this part of it? I know I didn't. I do a lot now and it gives me pause as to what to do about my future. I'm sorry we're all in so much pain, but I can see little glimmers of hope every now and then and I grab for them. You guys rock.

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