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Hi Leeanne, at 8 weeks I can feel your pain and concern...there are certain things we feel we should be able to control...and feeling a certain way when we look at a photo of our much beloved spouse should be one of them.
I have found that for me some emotions shut down for a time to protect my mind...the pain is too strong to take it all in one go...
The memories and feelings will resurface when it is safe for your brain to cope...the brain is an amazing organ i've found over the many years since i lost my first husband. It tries very hard to protect us from things we just cannot bear...and releases memories in little bits so they become cherished rather than painful.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with the way you feel...it's all 'normal'
Nothing is wrong with you.
I had a picture of my husband made for the funeral. I brought it home, it made me really nervous. The picture eyes seemed to follow you. I wasn't the only one who felt that way. My sister felt the same. I told my 19 year old son, I HAD to take the picture down. He said okay but he was taking it to the trailer (hunting shack in the other yard) so I KNEW i had to keep it. For the next 2 days it freaked me out then it eventually became the picture that I talk to.
Emy....my thoughts and prayers are with you!! I have bad days too...we all do. Remember, one day at a time. (((hugs))) to you.
Paxella...I am so sorry for your loss! I know that there are no words in existence that can make the pain you're feeling any more bearable. Just know you're not alone...It's kind of sad but reassuring how many people join this board every day. (((hugs)) to you.
OMG! Paxella, my heart bleeds for you. I know what you're feeling. I lost my Eddie on April 18, 2012 in a car accident. You will go through so many feelings but trust me it will get better. Not better but livable, it never gets better, just tolerable. The pain will decrease with time and try to focus on happy times and what you loved about him. Everyone here understands how you feel, it's a wonderful place because everyone here "gets it." I wish I could say something to help you find some peace.
It's about a week and a half since I entered this hell. My husband and I were in a car accident when our vehicle malfunctioned and flipped. To make matters worse, we were on the way home from his father's wedding. All I have is a minor fracture in my foot. We even had a kitten in the car who is fine. But he is gone, and I am feeling utterly hopeless and dead inside. He was 22. I'm a 26 year old widow. I feel like I died with him, but have to deal with the fact that for some reason, I didn't. We were going to start trying for children very soon. I only had him for 4 1/2 years. Why would I get my soulmate for such a short time? Not much light at the end of this tunnel yet.
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