Widowed in 2012

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Comment by Su on July 19, 2012 at 1:45pm

Brandywine, thank you for telling me you were only teasing. I thought I'd offended. I've given up on cooking. It's probably the only thing I do well. I HATE housework. I broke down and bought a bunch of frozen dinners, they were on sale. I use to make my own lasagna, pasta included. Ted like his noodles REALLY thin. I make a mean potatoes au gratin, or mac and cheese from scratch, but can only make it for 5 or more. My sister-in-law, Ted's sister, invited me over for dinner with her hubby for Friday, but then said they will probably be serving frozen dinners. What's the point for me! Since I don't have a designated driver, I can't even have a beer or 3. Maybe I'll beg off, or offer to make something and take it over. She's disabled and hubby works. 

Comment by Su on July 19, 2012 at 1:39pm

When Ted was in the hospital, I didn't watch some shows, Downton Abby, Once Upon a Time, in particular; figuring I didn't want to be watching reruns for me when he came home. He always came home. Almost died on me 5 times in 42 years. I can't quite get myself to catch up on them. There are several shows I've discovered I really didn't care one way or the other about, or maybe I just can't watch them without Ted. The last few years TV has been a large part of our life, what with chemo and all. I accidently paid for MLB ticket. I thought Ted had ordered it, but they just add it on every year. I like baseball during the day, but at night I NEED comedies. Honeyspuddin, I agree, I've got 2 tvs on at the moment. 

Comment by honeys(puddin) on July 19, 2012 at 12:20pm

The house is too quiet without the TV on.  Most times I'm not watching it.  Sometimes I have all 3 TVs on just to feel the sense that I am not alone.  Crazy.

Comment by CharliesGirl on July 19, 2012 at 10:17am

Except when my Mom is here visiting, the TV has not been on since we left for the hospital a month before Charlie died. I can't explain it, but watching ANYTHING without him hurts like crazy.

Julie

Comment by honeys(puddin) on July 19, 2012 at 9:37am

I am unable to watch ANY of the shows that we watched together.  It's almost as if I don't want to be "ahead" of him on what's going on.  I know, it doesn't make sense but I really think that's how I feel.  I am finding new shows that he would have no interest in to watch.  I think I'm totally losing it in the reality department;/

Comment by WidowerMDK on July 18, 2012 at 10:29pm

Its amazing what you will find for comfort...I have found if I watch re-runs of Gunsmoke, for some reason it is helpful to me..I never watched them before she died, but now Gunsmoke seems to calm me. Anyone else out there got strange routines or little quirks??

Comment by Brandywine Gal on July 18, 2012 at 9:43pm

Cooking-I use to love to cook for Steve, and he would cook for me-amazing home chef-gorgeous presntations and all.  Then the restricted diets and I jumped through hoops believe me anything to help my babe get better.

This week, I am putting forth the effort to cook.  I did the Trader Joe's frozen stuff a couple times a week for months on the way home from the hospital.  Son-in-law drops off food at least once a week on his way to work and pulls out the garbage bins for me.  His mom was a chef at huge hotels in the former Yugoslavia-so it's a treat to receive care pkgs.

It really takes effort to actually cook, but it is good to do something normal again.  Soon the garden will be forcing me to get busy in the kitchen.  Tonight is going to be simple filet of sole-fresh, mashed cauliflower-why, because it was in the frig, brocolli and maybe some nice shiitakis and king mushrooms w/garlic and ginger.  Hey it all looked good at the market, now I need to use it.

 

This could be a two glass of chardonnay night.

Comment by Brandywine Gal on July 18, 2012 at 9:36pm

Su

I was teasing as you asked what do we do all day :-)

Comment by Su on July 18, 2012 at 9:31pm

Me too. What is it about today. I'm still in what I slept in. Ted's old shirt and pj bottoms. I guess I'll have to force myself again to eat dinner. Maybe it's because I bought a bunch of frozen dinners. I love to cook, but why. It's just me. Ted's sister invited me to dinner Friday. She is disable, so it would be another frozen meal. Shoot. I think I'll have another beer. The Cubs or Giants (baseball) don't even interest me tonight. I've been watching comedies all day. No help. 

Comment by camry on July 18, 2012 at 9:08pm

honeyspuddin, I feel the same way...wasn't he just here?? I am having a hard day today...don't know why....

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