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Way too many losses for sure and you aren't even 40, ouch! I am complaining and we were married for 39 years, and it was not long enough time together.
Brandywine...I feel like a professional griever...My sister committed suicide 13 years ago and my mom died three years ago. I still was grieving my mother when Peter got sick. I sometimes feel like....now what? What else can be taken away from me? I always considered myself so lucky to have Peter in my life because we were best friends. I don't have much family and I have lots of acquaintances but not many true friends but that never bothered me because I had Peter. And we had a strong, loving marriage...and now he's gone too. Too many losses before age 39.
I did have a dream job as VP of Merchandising doing design and sourcing first for aholesaler, then a group of mail order catalogs and eCommerce. Loved it, spending millions of $$$ of some else's money, traveling in style usually first class, staying in 5 star hotels around the world, it was awesome. Then I injured my back 6 months after losing our son. Then I only consulted from time to time, and now just write articles on cultures and cuisines and gardening plus travel.
Brandywine Gal - I'm also worried by the posts of people who are so unhappy several years later.
I don't want to be in that position either!
And I don't want to feel that I will never fall in love again.
Ccdague..seems like you have a dream job:)
Brandywine - I relate to the boot camp experience. I feel my experience with my mum and stepdad were a dress rehearsal for this. Ian even had the same ICU nurses looking after him that Mum did.
I figure when August 8 rolls around and I hit 2 months I'll stop counting the days. Right now I am counting days as I wanted to know when days 40/45 hit when the spirit is said to cross over. Now I am at day 47, so mor than 6 weeks, less than 2 months. I think hitting 2 months will be a signal for me to make future plans and only look fwd at that point. I am still in a fog, sort of wrapped in bubble wrap. It's encouraging to read your post that at 4 months things do begin to improve! I have been reading of so many at 2, 3, 4 years who are so unhappy and I don't want to be in that camp. I am determined to crawl out of this deep dark spot. I did it 14 years ago when our22 y/o son suicided, I can and will do it again. I have been through boot camp.
Lucky to have emails from when our relationship began and phone text messages for the past couple of years on our old phones. I also have a number of videos of our casual band playing, with my husband on drums. Love the little bits where the camera hadn't been turned off and I can hear him talk and laugh.
Trying to work out the way forward in terms of work etc. but think I need to work out my goals and can't do that at the moment.
Suz - thanks. I do get breaks. My parents will look after John when needed and they're available, on top of the day they have him while I'm at work. I'm finding he's going to bed earlier, too which means I can crawl into mine soon after. He just wakes really early on the flip side ;). Takes after his daddy on that one.
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