This site is run by widowed people, for widowed people

Widowed Village connects peers with each other for friendship and sharing. The moderators, administrators, and others involved in running this site are not professionals.

Please don't interpret anything you read here as medical, legal, or otherwise expert advice. Don't disregard any expert's advice or take any action as a result of what you read here.

We're friends, not doctors, financial or legal professionals, and we're not "grief experts." But we are here, and we've been "there."


Widowed in 2012

We're so sorry you have a reason to join us. Please get acquainted here and make friends anywhere on the site.

Check the 'Help' tab for more guidance or send questions to [email protected]

Patience (Diane) is your group greeter. 

Members: 578
Latest Activity: on Monday

Comment Wall


You need to be a member of Widowed in 2012 to add comments!

Comment by laurajay on December 28, 2017 at 11:04am

Found  this in my newsfeed.  Written for us??? 

Comment by sueprnova on December 25, 2017 at 6:45pm

Just a quick pop-in...

I hope your day was as good as it could be.

Much love all over! 

the 30th is the the 6th wedding anniversary I've spent without him.  That's worse than all the holidays combined. 

I usually fly back to CA to visit him.  This year I planned too late and can't get a reasonable flight for a 12 hour trip. 

Just like Christmas.  I didn't get my usual 'memorial' ornament. 

I'm not feeling any of it. 

And I am ok with that. 

And to all... a good night

Fisler - I love you! <3 

Comment by barbee on December 23, 2017 at 8:10am

Christmas for me has always been in the NW with snow and ice and heavy sweaters and a fire in the living room with warm cocoa. Huge tree to the ceiling. Kids and grandkids running and squealing about.

This year, I'm in southern California, in the middle of the Red Zone, near the largest fire in California's history. It's warm -- in the 80's. It's dry -- humidity 3-8%. The sky is brown and filled with smoke. I'm in a motorhome, so decorations are definitely minimum -- a six-inch tree and two battery candles.

I've been focusing on how life has become different, rather than wishing for what used to be. Wanting what I used to have depresses me and makes me feel empty. I'm enjoying seeing Christmas lights on cactus rather than pines. The carols are the same. Tamales instead of turkey. This likely will be my last long trip, so I'm storing these memories and experiences to take back home -- to keep in my heart and share with my family and friends. 

May we all in this season find some peace in our hearts. Blessings to us all.  

Comment by Patience (Diane) on December 13, 2017 at 1:38pm

40ford, Laurajay, Maria Lousia, only1sue, Timelord, Goodoldwine, Anne and Everyone in "2012"  Thank you for sharing... Hard to believe that for many of us, this will be our 6th Christmas or Winter Holiday without our Loved Ones.  Mostly I try to convince myself to enjoy the beautiful lights and decorations. I'm lucky my daughters helped get the tree up. I did more decorating this year than in past years. But still, when I reflect, there is an emptiness that is hard to describe. It doesn't help that I lost my Dad, my Father in law and my two wonderful dogs (aged 15 and 13) this year. My dogs were just like family members..  When it snowed the other day, I was imagining the dogs running and chasing squirrels and chipmunks and deer in the snow... 

Wishing everyone here peace, tranquility and joy in the meaning of the holiday season.  -Diane

Comment by 40ford on December 12, 2017 at 6:12am

Laurajay, I just read your post, and I could not have said it any better.  I am TRYING to put up my tree, but every decoration has meaning to it. Even the elf on top is 50+ years was our first and only!  

Comment by laurajay on December 9, 2017 at 11:28am

The fifth   year  but the sixth   holiday  season...except for my sweet grands  having their time to love  Christmas  and  winter  w/ snow...I wish it would  go away fast.  It holds hope  and love  but  no longer  the magic-and the emotion  of remembering the sublime  holidays of the past  is too overwhelming.  I don't  do well and  I'm not  going to pretend  it gets easier  because it doesn't.  I will  be a loving , giving grandma  but my heart  will be yearning...for my lost husband, parents, friends, family...childhood.  Of course  there  is internal strength  to draw upon  but life  is changed forever  and till changing  daily.  Nibble a Christmas  cookie  and hum a Christmas  carol...light  a Christmas candle   and remember  a very special  baby   born long ago to save  a troubled  world.  Never  before  have we more needed  our world  and  it's people saved...even from themselves.   Maybe  those  things  will be  enough to think on  to see it through   this holiday season   -   maybe.                           Christmas   love  - dear   2012   friends.        Be blessed.     lj

Comment by Maria Louisa on December 8, 2017 at 4:19am

Hi everyone, 

I know the holidays are hard. I am extending my love to all of you. 


Love to all,


Comment by Maria Louisa on December 8, 2017 at 4:18am


Comment by only1sue on December 6, 2017 at 2:11pm

Just writing out Christmas Cards - a few paragraphs containing news of the family, signed "Love from Sue", "Love from Sue", "Love from Sue".  Suddenly I'm bursting into tears.  After five years I still want to put "Love from Sue and Ray" especially when some of the people I send to now only ever knew us as a couple. And of course only about a third of them will send me their news after all they don't really think of me as part of their family any more.

Comment by Timelord on November 25, 2017 at 5:46am

Sorry everyone about the second post...I just feel like I've lost my least I had a purpose after Melinda passed is the...purpose...every being must have a purpose, mustn't it?

Interestingly, I had two great dream visitations from Melinda.  One last night and one this past Sunday.  That was very comforting.  In one...she returned.  Part of the dream was me looking around looking for my bed (G rated dream!) and then I realized of course I don't have my bed, because we have ours.  Why should I need my own bed. also keep telling me to move to an apartment closer to work (traffic is insane around here) but anything nice is pretty much the same thing as my mortgage, and I have to think long term.  Morgtgage eventually gets paid you always have to pay.


Members (578)


© 2018   Created by Soaring Spirits.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service