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Comment by Frankie 5 hours ago

Hi everyone, I have read all your posts about the weather we are having up here in New England and I Thank You for your concerns.  I live in Maine and right now we are having a blizzard, a lot of snow, could be 2 ft or more and it is blowing hard, nice day to stay inside, get a good book and read, hoping we don't lose our power.  But that's what New England is like, and we love it.  I hope your day goes well and I will keep you all in my prayers (Frank)

Pipin,  I can just imagine what it is like, have lived in parts of the US and people react just the same when they get an inch or two of snow, just enjoy your day, love to read your posts

Comment by pipin 6 hours ago
Oh hearts a lovely idea to have your sister living nearby , with you might be a disaster. Would your sister expect you to include her in all the things you do as it appears that she maybe very lonely, even if she stays in her own area. I understand how difficult it is for you to clear out your daughter and husbands things. My sister who was widowed in her 40's told me I would know when to let things go and she was right about clothes etc. Neither of us has changed houses, for me after 30 years and for her rebuilding the wreck she bought , it will be so hard. As I have had a medical mishap I know that I will have to leave soon but I am just not ready yet! Maybe we just need a bit more time?
Thank you for the poem Barbee, it let me release a few gallons of tears that
obiivously needed to be out.
The sun is shining so smile time now :)
Comment by pipin 6 hours ago
Thinking of you all and hope tha Storm is not as bad as they say. I can not imagine that amount of snow and having to cope with it. You are all just marvellous to be so organised. We are due for a cold stitch here. You would laugh you heads off if you could see how they cope with 1cm of snow in the UK, the whole place grinds to a stop. Be safe love from Pip
Comment by booktime (Susan) 9 hours ago

It is still dark out. There's at least a foot of snow. I had to do a quick shovel of my porch steps so my dog could go out. He was somewhat surprised to see all the white stuff. I'll have to keep a little area shovelled out for him.

I have power, heat, and food. I just have to sit this one out I guess and hope for the best. It's a lot worst for many others I am sure.

Comment by BergenJC 9 hours ago

It is not as bad here as predicted.  I was very nervous last night, mostly about the possibility of my 100+-year-old oaks falling on houses, about the power going out, about not being able to open the door.  I have a gasoline generator, but I am not sure I can start it.  And I only got 4 gallons of gas because last time we laid in a supply of gasoline, it ended up going bad and I had to take it to the hazardous waste collection day.

By last night it appeared it wouldn't be so bad so I slept well, only to find that one of my cats had an outside-the-litterbox accident during the night.  (I really HAVE to get that carpet pulled up!)  I fear I will have to replace all the floors on the first floor after all this carpet comes up...it has been down for 40+ years.  

I am supposed to pick up my new car on Thursday so I sure hope the next storm holds off for a bit.  For now, I have electricity, food, no damage, and I'm pretty relieved.

Comment by HeartsForever 18 hours ago

I'm certainly thinking of all the people in harms way from this storm.  Stay safe and warm. 

Comment by going to make it 18 hours ago
His to everyone in the storm's path! Sarong pairs for all of you!
Comment by booktime (Susan) 20 hours ago

Is everyone getting the big storm? I think it's my first one alone tho I was alone last year. I don't remember the hype we are getting now.

I have an automatic generator so if it works I am all set. We had that put in a couple of years before Ed died. I'm so glad we did.

I'm not really nervous but I am just very aware that I am alone.

Stay safe everyone who is in the storm's path.

Comment by barbee yesterday

Thought you all might like to see this poem:

Remember Me

You can shed tears that she is gone

Or you can smile because she has lived

You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back

Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left

Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her

Or you can be full of the love that you shared

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday

Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday

You can remember her and only that she is gone

Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back

Or you can do what she would want: 

smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

– written by David Harkins, Silloth, Cumbria, U.K. (1981)

Comment by HeartsForever yesterday

My younger sister and I have talked about moving in together when she totally retires.  She lives about 3 hrs away now.  But we are such different people.  I am much more of a homebody yet I have more close friends I see on a routine basis for lunch, get togethers on holidays, church activities etc.  Her friends are mostly who she has worked with over the years and sees occasionally for dinner, etc.  We also don't keep house the same way, I like at least the main parts tidied up at night, but when she comes to visit, it seems like a cyclone has hit the whole time.  She can be tons of fun, but living together would take some thought.  She has mentioned she has looked at apts online here where I live, so I think she has figured out too we are not a great match.  She also doesn't want a house to take care of any more, I would probably like a smaller place I owned.  Her only child lives in the same town as she does, my only child lives 1000 miles away.  So our later lives won't probably be in the same town.  We're both in our 60s now. She's been divorced for 35 yrs, was very close to my DH and DD, and very helpful to us during the years, a very generous person.

My main focus is to heal my broken heart as much as possible and pare down my belongings to ready for a someday move.  I am so impressed when I read on here what all of you have done in the same time period of loss with decluttering, remodeling, etc.  My DH was sick for some time, even though he still worked part time, so many things got put off.  We also lost our DD 5 yrs ago, and I was not finished clearing out her room, she lived with us as she was disabled her whole life.  So as much as I want to get organized, cleaning out possessions from two lives has taken it's toll on me.  And no one to help, since our son lives too far away.  I have lately taken to throwing things away instead of trying to find the perfect home. 

I hope all of you are having a good weekend.  The loneliness, oh the loneliness, that will be the downfall for me.  I sleep or read when that takes over, it's the only thing that takes my mind off of it for a short reprieve.  Hugs to you all.


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