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Comment by traveler 55 minutes ago

Dusty, I am so grateful that you keep reminding me!  I so easily forget that.

Comment by shell 1 hour ago

Potter my sons are 27 and 24. It is so good to have them here. My youngest lives with me at least until December then hes heading back to college,and my oldest lives a short distance away. I know we would have never made it thru Jons illness if they weren't here, and now that Jon is gone I know I would not make it without them.  Hope that you do ok with the storms and your day is easier. Hugs and Hope to everyone.

Comment by Dusty 3 hours ago

Note to self; I am doing the best I can with what I have in the moment; and that is all I can expect from anyone including Me!!!

Comment by Potter 3 hours ago

shell glad you have your sons, how old are they?  I just have one son and am glad he lives close by.  I have no one else.  Hope is all we have for some better days to come in time.  Its so hard. I am so tired of being sad and nervous and uptight.  Oh my.  Now we have severe storms heading our ways. Wonderful  NOT.

Comment by shell 5 hours ago

I also wonder how my single girl friends do things alone and I think that some have built a circle of trusted helpers. I guess we will have to do the same.

My husband knew how to do mostly everything. We never needed anyone to do anything for us. If he didn't know straight up how to fix something he taught himself.  My sons seem to have picked up this trait from their dad. He was not here to see it but now they are doing what he would have done. I know he is so proud of them as I am. It makes me me so sad to realize how much they will miss out on now that their dad is gone.

loneliness, worry, anxiety frequent companions on this road. Hoping for HOPE.

Comment by kellers407 6 hours ago

LONELY!!! Had something happen at work today and my first thought was I can't wait to tell my husband. Someone to share the silly little things that know one else would care about.

Comment by Missmyhusband 6 hours ago

Lonely, yes. More difficult too when you think about how it was going to be both of you handling the details you now have to do all by yourself. The month before my husband passed, we had a sewer backup in the basement. I took the day off work to stay for the company to come out for the original estimate, then he took the day off for the repairs. I worry about everything like that in the future. No more team, no more partner to handle half of the random things that just happen/go wrong. Just me now. I think about my single girlfriends and wonder how they do it. Who do they list as emergency contact, who do they call when they get a flat tire, who do they turn to for help with just the crap of life when they need it? How do they do it alone? And how can I now, without him? I know I will. I have. I cross at least one thing off the to do list everyday. It's just hard. To live and do all the crap you have to. So hard after you have someone...in addition to missing them and the life you were building together. Hope is hard to image when you think about down the road and who you will be, but it's got to be what fuels the tank right now, right?

Comment by Potter 8 hours ago

Yes lizbeth4 I think we all hope what you are hoping,  I just had to renew my tags for my car so have to get a whole new title and stuff so got the paper work all done for that and a new plate since my husbands name is now off of it.  Just so many things to do. They said to do it now since my tags were do this month.  One more thing done.  It is just so different being one and not two anymore on everything.  Just lonely thats for sure.

Comment by lizbeth4 10 hours ago

Hope-that's what keeps me going.  Hoping that time will make living without my Husband more bearable.  Hope that I will find a new life without my spouse, somewhere down the line.  Hope that the pain will go away.

Comment by shell 12 hours ago

Michigan girl you did not say anything bad about the video there is nothing bad you can say. you feel what you feel and its ok. No one here is here to judge we all say how we feel and I'm sure we feel that sometimes what we mean is not coming across the way we mean it. I think we all are trying to find hope anywhere we can. Hope to not feel such pain, hope to get up in the morning and try again to face the day without the loves of our lives. Hope to keep going. As in one of the blogs some one wrote that sometimes we are just hoping for HOPE. My hope for today is that we all have a softer day and find comfort and strength.

Potter I to wish we all lived close so we could grab a cup of coffee or glass of wine and be ourselves amongts those that understand. 

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