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Re: Driving and crying. I have a beautiful young niece whose husband died in his 30s from ALS. (I also lost my father to ALS). She has FOUR young children. When my husband, her uncle, died, she told me that she did most of her crying in the car, after she dropped the kids off wherever they were going. My kids are grown, so I can scream & cry in our home if I want to, but our high strung dog worries about me when I do! Crying in the car is okay as long as we can keep our eyes open! Hugs to all.
Dear Friends - read your posts... here is another one awash with tears ..ME.
Schneesmomom these songs speak to us - one can tell the difference whether its written by someone who has lost someone through death or it was just a break up.On Saturday morning I was going to a beautiful place to celebrate my birthday with friends(who could not come to the other gathering). I was driving along, and somehow I began to feel more and more low. I put lovely music on and I felt a bit better. By the time I arrived I was somewhat late. As I stopped the car, Wes favourite song came on... then I lost it completely... starting to sob and sob. Here I was in a place that had 15 - 20 acres of roses (stunning colours) there is a stream and a lake with fish in..On the hill is a cafe where you can look out over the valley. There was a soft cool breeze. But I was broken again. I walked to the Cafe and saw my friends,saying I was sorry I was a bit late. The tears were flowing and I really was a mess. I did not tell them about the song, only about some of the other issues with my house which had delayed me). We stayed for about 2 hrs and had a meal). I drove home with music full on and the windows open. Singing along with the music. Didn't care who heard...Sometimes I feel the presence of Wes in the car. He was there for a while. BUT I DO NOT KNOW WHY I WAS CRYING. I have heard the song a few times over this year.
This whole grief thing is bizarre.
Today I attended the 90th birthday of my husband's aunt. She lost her husband, the love of her life, 25 years ago. All of the speeches centered around how she was always up for something new, never lived in the past, always celebrated every moment and made every event something to really celebrate about! It was so inspirational. To make every moment count. I cannot live the next 50 years (I'm now 40!) being sad about what was. Hoping that I can carry this momentum with me...
lizbeth4 I know it is hard... I guess it is good to express the anger - but I have felt guided (inwardly - long story) in strong ways "not to go there" - So I don't...I think there is no "reward" at the end of the anger road... Anyway- I am not meaning to preach -only to comfort... Are you lonely in the new town? I think it would be hard to start all over... Take care...
My Husband's 1 year anniversary of his death is in 4 days. I thought I was doing okay as I have sold the condo bought a new home and moved about 100 miles from where I lived all my life to a small town. Today I received a card from hospice saying it was close to the 1 year anniversary and they were sending their condolences. The card was beautiful!!!! I just have felt so sad this last week. I am angry too!!!! I try to not take it out on others and when it gets real bad, I keep to myself. I live in a town where there are a lot of elderly people. When I see a elderly couple walking, holding hands, I just want to scream. I want that to be me and my Husband but it will never be. It is just so sad!!!
Schneesmom and everyone else, really - I can't drive anywhere without talking to Phillip as I drive and bursting into tears. How can he still be gone? How could he leave me like this??
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