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Widowed in 2013

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Comment by Shaye 6 hours ago

Yes, it is good to feel 'normal' again for awhile.  Myroses, just take it as it comes....enjoy your life.

Comment by barbee 21 hours ago

my roses, how thrilling for you to have this wonderful time with someone new. even if nothing else develops, you'll have a friendship and happy memories. what a treat!

Comment by my roses yesterday


Just a bit of good news. Been having some roller coasters both emotionally and financially etc.  A couple of months ago I went onto 2 dating sites.  I joined in Australia but it went to Canada and USA. Many men wrote but did not want to have a long distance relationship.  For me distance was not the problem, it was to find someone as a companion.  The other site was in Australia. I had also met up with another man Wes and I had known for many years from a business point of view.  We went out together and  in many ways it was good,  as he was a widower, but he had also been hurt by relating to another person which led to tremendous financial loss.  All this meant  we had good times and  somewhat  stressful times.  I was definitely not ready for a sexual relationship so soon either.  One day I got an email from the dating site and  we talked and  emailed.  He lived in another State so there was a fair distance.  A couple of weeks ago after talking for many evenings he said he would like to visit me. (I was surprised. Someone willing to overcome the distance).  We had a week together last week. 

Due to being a Caregiver neither of us had any hols since mid 2009.

We went to a film, had lovely meals, walks in the forest, visit to a Botanic

Park to see the tulips and the waterfall etc.  We talked about our grief, our beloveds etc.  I said I had 2 phone messages of Wes voice and there had been 3.  But I deleted one by mistake when I was in my foggy  and  numbed state months ago.  I had wanted

put the voice on a CD or  computer permanently.  Anyway my friend got to

work immediately as he has the technical knowledge and I said I thought

there were many widowed people who would like to have this done.

It has been mentioned on WV that people have voices on mobiles which they

would like to save..  My friend thought this was a great idea and proceeded to complete this package and we added a picture of Wes as well.

This has made this precious  memory safe for the future as well as being able to have it with you if you have a computer or app etc.

I believe that we need more things and technology to help us with our grief.

Even a moving tribute of photos to take with us.  The other thing we noticed

was that our health was better.  Our widowed faces looked better and particularly the

“haunted look in our eyes).  We gave each other a lot of hugs, support and

kindness  and  held hands as we walked.  I feel very blessed to have had

a week of happiness.


Comment by Bruja on Friday
I hope we all have good even great moments this weekend. Thinking of you all. Hugs. Yvonne
Comment by Bruja on Friday
:-). I believe I will Pip!!
Comment by pipin on Thursday

Bruja, you will, you will, you will !

Comment by Bruja on Thursday
Right back at you Margaret. HUGS Yvonne
Comment by LaLond (Margaret) on Thursday
Good for you, Yvonne!!!
Comment by Bruja on Thursday
It's really lovely hearing stories of hope. Such a precious feeling. I felt hope or good today too for different reasons. Today I went to work for the first time in over eight years. I found the day long because I'm unaccustomed to the discipline, I'm exhausted..... But it feels great. Thankfully for the moment it's only one day a week, I don't think I'd be quite so jolly if I had to get up early and go through it again in the morning :-). I will make, I will fight and I will do ?Miguel proud and do myself proud... Hugs all, hope we all have feel good days and lots of them
Comment by alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) on Wednesday
Oh Bergen. My mom too. I tefuse to be that kind of widow. We were fortunate to be together 37 years and 35 of them were awesome. I'm not getting stuck forever on the two when he was sick!!

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