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Comment by AZ_Cat 27 minutes ago

pss... I love the analogy... carry on.  That is exactly what I feel like I am doing.  I have all my life experiences and memories I have loaded up and carry with me always.  That never goes away.  Thank you !  it is such a better way to feel than "getting through it" or just daily existence.  I had never thought of that before.  Thank you my traveling buddies.  AZ_Cat  Carol

Comment by AZ_Cat 31 minutes ago

Strangest sighting. I was out at a restaurant and a gentleman caught my eye and reminded me so much of my husband James.  I was almost mesmerized wondering if he would look at me.  I didn't want to seem like I was gawking but this is my first experience since James passed April 2013.  Has this happened to anyone else.  I still have the goosebumps.  If was a comfort and for a few moments felt his presence was near.  I still haven't had a dream about James either.   

Comment by booktime (Susan) on Sunday

Cindy - so true about re-adjusting. I think that is a key word to this.

Maggie - I think about Ed a lot when I eat his favorite foods. In the beginning that hurt. Now I feel a sense of peace or connection. At his stone-setting, we raised our red hot dogs in a toast to him! he loved those ghastly things!

BTW, the apple pie turned out OK!

Comment by Maggie on Sunday
Bergen...whenever I get anxiety, not depression though, my stomach just turns into knots and becomes very acidic. I take an occasional Imodium to help..it works ...I'm not bothered by reflex though. I think nerves can play havoc with all areas of our health. I can literally feel anxiety building in me some days...a Xanax helps too. Susan, I love Apple pie and so did my husband. He also loved mincemeat which is not too popular. He loved Mexican food too and a good margarita..oh well, how I wish he was still here to enjoy all the foods he loved.
Comment by Hornet (Cindy) on Saturday

Susan...Yum! That is just great. You know, one of the more recent blogs here had one question: How do you start over? In most ways, we don't, do we? We simply carry on...I say 'simply'...but it isn't simple. Even baking a pie...a wonderful apple pie...is monumental. It can mean so much. That isn't starting over, is it? But it IS re-adjusting. Carrying on and re-adjusting.  I'm so glad you did it. I wasn't ready for the holidays either...maybe I'm still not ready, but I will find out soon. I wish you and your family happy, blessed holidays, Susan.

Comment by booktime (Susan) on Saturday

Thanks, Cindy.

Another first today: I made my first apple pie since Ed died. We used to make them together.  I am hoping I did his part right! It wasn't hard. I know I wasn't ready before the holidays last year to do this but maybe I can make my pies again for the family.

The test will be in the taste!

Comment by Hornet (Cindy) on October 24, 2014 at 9:54pm

booktime (Susan), I understand completely. I had my first colonoscopy back in February. BEFORE...I took tests, checkups in stride. No big deal. NOW...I'm just scared. Scared of everything...and I hate feeling this way. I miss mine too. Especially at times like that...when it meant the world for the one who loved you most in the world was holding your hand through everything. I have to force myself to go to the doctor now.

Comment by barbee on October 24, 2014 at 7:41pm

Grief attacks the heart. A couple weeks after my husband died I was at the doctor's office thinking I was having a heart attack. After a bunch of tests, my doctor said "you don't have a diseased heart; you have a broken heart". How very right she was! Take some deep breaths. A nurse at our senior center keeps telling us to take 5 deep breaths, 5 times a day, before 5 o'clock. Truly, it does help! Be easy with yourself and take good care.

Comment by bigred on October 24, 2014 at 9:49am

I've had stomach issues on and off since my husband passed away.  I went to the doctors and was put on Prevacid for a month.  It went away and then comes back when my stress level goes up.  Unfortunately it's something that I've just learned to deal with.  My recommendation would be to go to the doctors.  Stress does nasty things to us, it may be nothing but I'd rather you be safe than sorry.

Comment by BergenJC on October 24, 2014 at 9:42am

Has anyone else had stomach issues as part of grief? 

Right after my husband died, I started having pain right in the solar plexus (right under the boobies).  I said then that my heart chakra was hurting.  It was a constant dull ache, punctuated by heartburn and acid reflux.  It went away after a few months. 

About a month before the 1st anniversary of his death, in late September, it started up again.  He went into hospital on 9/22/13 and died 10/5/13.  I am 3 weeks past it now, but the stomach issues remain.  Has anyone else had this or similar?


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